great post ..
Even though you've been through a few "relationships" before Coach .. do you feel this is different than your previous ones ? and was there any advantage /disadvantage of it being long distance ?
The biggest difference between my wife and the others is family stability. It took me three times to finally figure this out. my previous "relationships" all came from unstable families meaning their families (mother and father) we're either divorced, sick or deceased. I came from a stable household, mom and dad were married for 24 years before my dad passed (I was 23) both had stable jobs, grew up in the same house since I was 6, etc,etc. The others (except my current wife) didn't have that. Now I'm not saying some of wasn't brought on by me but typically when problems arise in a stable relationship, they can usually be worked out.
Wife 1 - Adopted to older parents, her parents were in their late 50's and early 60's when she was 20. Eventually found out she was gay.
Wife 2 - Parents divorced when she was 14-15, mom and dad both had affairs, she had an affair on me.
Wife 3 - Both parents deceased, she is bi-polar, here mom was severely bipolar/manic. She had affairs on me.
Wife 4 - 100% stable, parents been married for over 30 years, strong family values and support.