Thoughts on being a "house husband"?

[DK II]

It's not natural for a man to spend the whole day chasing a small child around. There's a reason the term "Mr. Mom" sounds silly.

Spot on.

[Stark]

Stark,

That's great he sleeps. It's not easy that's for sure, especially newborns. Boys seem to cut teeth sooner than girls, perhaps maybe that's why he was cranky. I'm sure she appreciates those 4 hours. It definately helps I'm sure

not even any sign of any tooth - i'm counting the days.

[DK II]

not even any sign of any tooth - i'm counting the days.

Wait till he gets teeth, then the sleeping is over.... 

[Stark]

Wait till he gets teeth, then the sleeping is over.... 

Well you know i'm not getting easily scared anymore - guess what all you already parents told us when we said we gonna have a baby:
1) Enjoy your sleep its over when you have the baby and you walk around like a Zombie
2) Enjoy your sex - its over as soon as the baby is there
3) You're baby WILL have colic and you will fucking want to kill yourself
4) Forget holidays for a long time you will not be able to afford them

and so on and so on and so on....

1) I've had 2 nights where I had not enough sleep
2) I have sex all the time no problem
3) No colic
4) We just had a weekend in Riga

So lets see

[DK II]

Well you know i'm not getting easily scared anymore - guess what all you already parents told us when we said we gonna have a baby:
1) Enjoy your sleep its over when you have the baby and you walk around like a Zombie
2) Enjoy your sex - its over as soon as the baby is there
3) You're baby WILL have colic and you will fucking want to kill yourself
4) Forget holidays for a long time you will not be able to afford them

and so on and so on and so on....

1) I've had 2 nights where I had not enough sleep
2) I have sex all the time no problem
3) No colic
4) We just had a weekend in Riga

So lets see

LOL, i know, i'm just teasing you.

Actually nothing is ever THAT bad, only when the kid is really sick with a high fever or sth like this, but then it's more a mental thing, normally nothing bad happens with that as well.

[Oldschool Flip]

If your wife is earning 100K plus and you have a pretty comfortable lifestyle....

living them dream or having all your manhood taken away from you?

Living the dream. I still work part time, but that because I want to. Raising my daughter and doing all the parent stuff with her is a ONE TIME shot and I wouldn't have it any other way right now.
I also can pretty much hit the gym when I want, go to movies and just relax a lot.

[Oldschool Flip]

Spot on.

Well on the other hand all the "house husbands" i know are busy with training 5-6 hours in the gym and then play playstation until wifey comes home, lol....

Well not 5-6 hours (2 at the most) and Playstation is a big part of the day! So is porn! It's not as hard a job as everyone thinks if you have a little patience.

[DK II]

Well not 5-6 hours (2 at the most) and Playstation is a big part of the day! So is porn! It's not as hard a job as everyone thinks if you have a little patience.

Sounds like university (without the kid).

I would shoot myself if i had to go there again...

[Oldschool Flip]

Sounds like university (without the kid).

I would shoot myself if i had to go there again...

Not to kid you there are trying times, but when you see that kid run to you after class is over, with a big smile calling your name and giving you a hug, there isn't any other job I'd rather have right now.

[CalvinH]

Spot on.

Unless she's 18

[DK II]

Not to kid you there are trying times, but when you see that kid run to you after class is over, with a big smile calling your name and giving you a hug, there isn't any other job I'd rather have right now.

I can see that, as i have a kid myself, but i feel comfortable in the role of being the one that brings the money in and have my wife dispose of dirty diapers and make the shopping.

Unless she's 18

As long as your wife takes care of your kid, there's enough time for that.

 

[Stark]

LOL, i know, i'm just teasing you.

Actually nothing is ever THAT bad, only when the kid is really sick with a high fever or sth like this, but then it's more a mental thing, normally nothing bad happens with that as well.

Friend of a Friends kid (5 years old) had managitis (or however you spell that) - kid died in under 2h ... that's the horror stuff that makes me so fucking scared I want to puke.
I try most of the time not to think about it.

[DK II]

Friend of a Friends kid (5 years old) had managitis (or however you spell that) - kid died in under 2h ... that's the horror stuff that makes me so fucking scared I want to puke.
I try most of the time not to think about it.

Wait til you rush to the hospital first time when the kid has a 41 degrees fever on a Sunday night... 

But then after you made the experience you get relaxed. As long as it's not a bad disease it's ok. It's really the worst when they get sick.

[Oldschool Flip]

I can see that, as i have a kid myself, but i feel comfortable in the role of being the one that brings the money in and have my wife dispose of dirty diapers and make the shopping.

Lol, changing diapers was like slugging down protein shakes of old that had liver in them! After a few times, it's just a routine. You know what was the real tough part? Dealing with the bitchy mothers who just complained about their husbands all day long! I've never complained to my wife once, and don't nag her or tell her to help out. If you're organized, and just get the shit done right, there is PLENTY of time to kick back and still do the things you want to do.

[DK II]

Lol, changing diapers was like slugging down protein shakes of old that had liver in them! After a few times, it's just a routine. You know what was the real tough part? Dealing with the bitchy mothers who just complained about their husbands all day long! I've never complained to my wife once, and don't nag her or tell her to help out. If you're organized, and just get the shit done right, there is PLENTY of time to kick back and still do the things you want to do.

Well, same here just other way round. We help each other out a lot, i respect her work and she mine.

[jwb]

My wife is an MD who earns around 500k and we have a one year old daughter.

The wife took 3 months off after the birth and I was still working. After two months she asked me to quit to look after the baby full time.

Why?

She knew she wasn't going to be able to work effectively and share the baby duties, especially at night.

Our baby is healthy but has never been a great sleeper and still wakes up at 4am every night so I get up and let mom sleep until 9am sometimes since she works noon to ten pm.

When mom gets up the baby is ready to play with her and put a smile on her face since 500k comes with a lot of stress and I head off to the gym usually.

[TrueGrit]

Can't really see how it matters. It means you've got married so you're fucked - not literally of course - anyways.

[Stark]

Can't really see how it matters. It means you've got married so you're fucked - not literally of course - anyways.

Thats such a sad sad american way of thinking - let me explain it to you, if you get married in america you might be fucked, but there are better parts of this world were marriage still means something and were people not getting divorced in record numbers.

I for instance have been married (not for long) but can honestly say it was the best thing we could have done.

[ManBearPig...]

here is my view on house husbsbands...

I have a new found respect for my wife since yesterday - our son is now 4 month old and overall we have pulled six in the parent lottery with him.
He doesn't cry he sleeps always at the same time, no colic never any problems etc etc just a happy and healthy baby, even better my wife gets up
every night and lets me sleep  I told her a mill times I'm going to do it but she said - nah you've got work tomorrow.
Anyways - what we tend to do is on the weekend give my wife 4-5 h of her own which she uses to go out and go shopping so she can forget about
the baby for a while.
So I had the little dude yesterday from 2 - 6 and let me tell you folks...
I am fucking glad I have the luxury to get up and go to work every morning, cuz I have no idea how she is doing it a full day, day in day out - I love my son
to bits but when they start crying and don't stop and you have no fucking idea what to do next.. fuuck you get angry.
So house husband? Not for me man - I have every bit of respect for somebody who can do it and especially for the mill of wifes that stay at home and
do some of the toughest jobs on earth - I am glad I can go to work.

x5, the truth right here.  i'm the house mom on the weekends, and i get destroyed, can't wait for monday mornings.

[Stark]

Lol, changing diapers was like slugging down protein shakes of old that had liver in them! After a few times, it's just a routine. You know what was the real tough part? Dealing with the bitchy mothers who just complained about their husbands all day long! I've never complained to my wife once, and don't nag her or tell her to help out. If you're organized, and just get the shit done right, there is PLENTY of time to kick back and still do the things you want to do.

I've heard that a lot - But you have to analyse the situation in order to understand it.
1) The mother will feel most likely unapprechiated never mind if you are not nagging, you're out and about in your job were she is staying home and is practicly a prisoner in her own 4 walls - that's hard - furthermore never mind how hard your job is you at least see things and other people you have breaks etc, all that is not a given fact when you are staying home with the kid.
I see this on a daily basis my wife needs to tell me every day when I get home how much she has done and never mind how much she bores the arse off me I still need to pull myself together and show her apprechiation (not saying I am always succesful).

2) What has helped for me is to praise and assure that her work is truly appreciated - a thank you goes a long way, little things like flowers like getting up at night even if you know she will to let her sleep, getting up on the weekend at 06:00 to play with the baby and say stuff like - No I'm going to take care of him/her u had a hard week and I want you to sleep, all this goes a long way and I have found that she is much more forgiving if my mistakes I make on a weekly basis.

[Tapeworm]

Fab baby tips.  Hey, not to change the subject, but do you ever get that 'not so fresh' feeling?

[Stark]

x5, the truth right here.  i'm the house mom on the weekends, and i get destroyed, can't wait for monday mornings.

lol same here - I am sometimes praying for monday work, and I even (not proud do say it) stay longer and pull overtime just because I know I come home and there is something stressful waiting for me.
Its the first time in my life that I actually like being at work all the time

What helps is that we make a point of going either Saturday or Sunday on small trips - We try to keep it up that we make a plan on Friday evening were we go on Sat or Sun and then we get up early prepare sandwiches etc and get going around 10:00 am.

[TrueGrit]

Thats such a sad sad american way of thinking - let me explain it to you, if you get married in america you might be fucked, but there are better parts of this world were marriage still means something and were people not getting divorced in record numbers.

I for instance have been married (not for long) but can honestly say it was the best thing we could have done.

I'm sure it's great at first.


Hey, we'll prolly both be on this forum in another five years so let's talk then. If it's all still milk and honey then I'll be happy for you. 

[Wiggs]

Man have no money...Man have no say....

[Oldschool Flip]

I've heard that a lot - But you have to analyse the situation in order to understand it.
1) The mother will feel most likely unapprechiated never mind if you are not nagging, you're out and about in your job were she is staying home and is practicly a prisoner in her own 4 walls - that's hard - furthermore never mind how hard your job is you at least see things and other people you have breaks etc, all that is not a given fact when you are staying home with the kid.
I see this on a daily basis my wife needs to tell me every day when I get home how much she has done and never mind how much she bores the arse off me I still need to pull myself together and show her apprechiation (not saying I am always succesful).

2) What has helped for me is to praise and assure that her work is truly appreciated - a thank you goes a long way, little things like flowers like getting up at night even if you know she will to let her sleep, getting up on the weekend at 06:00 to play with the baby and say stuff like - No I'm going to take care of him/her u had a hard week and I want you to sleep, all this goes a long way and I have found that she is much more forgiving if my mistakes I make on a weekly basis.

I hear ya. I wonder why as guys we don't need that much praise and appreciation? I'm pretty simple I guess. I don't ask for much and as long as I can get my workouts in, watch a little TV (especially football), play a little Playstation and get laid at least once a week, I'm pretty happy. Guess I have low standards or maybe I've done all the shit I pretty much want to do.