Well, I never have been huge and massive, but I have been outstandingly lean and shaped pretty nicely, and I gotta admit dat it's kinda cool to "shock and awe" da females by wearing a string tank top

And I had a massive friend 5'11" 275 or so 15% bodyfat, and I remember going places with him and seeing the positive and negative attention that he drew, and I realized it wasn't for me, and I'd much rather have the "stealth look"
