YES, dance lessons. Women feel dance skills is the same as having everything mentioned in this thread.
That is if you know how to dance.
I looked up what women think about bartenders and it's not as hot as it sounds.
Get a education, learn a trade, work on your "charm"...but invest in your future...do the dancing stuff in your spare time. Remember that chica you hooked up with that had her Masters? Well, what did you have to offer beyond the physical? What could you talk about?
I was told a long time ago that you get your education, the money, and the women will come later, The Lox had a song called "Money, Power, Respect".
You'll get there, if not you'll be like former pretty boy Dennis Newman...
Just focus on getting your mind right and getting a education---showing that you are capable of doing something other that another face...or try modeling...not bbing but being like Tyson Beckford or Halle Berry's ex.