Advice to Young Men from an Old Man

[big L dawg]

Advice to Young Men from an Old Man

1. Don’t pick on the weak. It’s immoral. Don’t antagonize the strong without cause, its stupid.
2. Don’t hate women. It’s a waste of time
3. Invest in yourself. Material things come to those that have self actualized.
4. Get in a fistfight, even if you are going to lose.
5. As a former Marine, take it from me. Don’t join the military, unless you want to risk getting your balls blown off to secure other people’s economic or political interests.

6. If something has a direct benefit to an individual or a class of people, and a theoretical, abstract, or amorphous benefit to everybody else, realize that the proponent’s intentions are to benefit the former, not the latter, no matter what bullshit they try to feed you.
7. Don’t be a Republican. They are self-dealing crooks with no sense of honor or patriotism to their fellow citizens. If you must be a Republican, don’t be a “conservative.” They are whining, bitching, complaining, simple-minded self- righteous idiots who think they’re perpetual victims. Listen to talk radio for a
while, you’ll see what I mean.
8. Don’t take proffered advice without a critical analysis. 90% of all advice is intended to benefit the proponent, not the recipient. Actually, the number is probably closer to 97%, but I don’t want to come off as cynical.
9. You’ll spend your entire life listening to people tell you how much you owe them. You don’t owe the vast majority of people shit.
10. Don’t undermine your fellow young men. Mentor the young men that come after you. Society recognizes that you have the potential to be the most power force in society. It scares them. Society does not find young men sympathetic. They are afraid of you, both individually and collectively. Law enforcement’s primary
purpose is to suppress you.

11. As a young man, you’re on your own. Society divides and conquers. Unlike women who have advocates looking out for them (NOW, Women’s Study Departments, government, non-profit organizations, political advocacy groups) almost no one is looking out for you.
12. Young men provide the genius and muscle by which our society thrives. Look at the Silicone Valley. By in large, it was not old men or women that created the revolution we live. Realize that society steals your contributions, secures it with our intellectual property laws, and then takes credit and the rewards where
none is due.
13. Know that few people have your best interests at heart. Your mother does. Your father probably does (if he stuck around). Your siblings are on your side. Everybody else worries about themselves.
14. Don’t be afraid to tell people to “Fuck off” when need be. It is an important skill to acquire. As they say, speak your piece, even if your voice shakes.
15. Acquire empathy, good interpersonal skills, and confidence. Learn to read body language and non-verbal communication. Don’t just concentrate on your vocational or technical skills, or you’ll find your wife fucking somebody else.

16. Keep fit.
17. Don’t speak ill of your wife/girlfriend. Back her up against the world, even if she’s wrong. She should know that you have her back. When she needs your help, give it. She should know that you’ll take her part.
18. Don’t cheat on your wife/girlfriend. If you must cheat, don’t humiliate her. Don’t risk having your transgressions come back to her or her friends. Don’t do it where you live. Don’t do it with people in your social circle. Don’t shit in your own back yard.

[BayGBM]

Most of that is good advice.

[PJim]

Wear sunscreen?

[polychronopolous]

15. Acquire empathy, good interpersonal skills, and confidence. Learn to read body
language and non-verbal communication. Don’t just concentrate on your vocational
or technical skills, or you’ll find your wife fucking somebody else.

Excellent advice.

And if you learn this particular trait well enough you could be fucking somebody else's wife.

[tendonitis]

19.  When in doubt, whip it out.

[MP]

Get in fist fights and vote Democratic ... yeah, stellar advise. 

[Jadeveon Clowney]

Is there an age limit on getting in a fistfight?

Big L Dawg isn't there some cheating story that you have?  There used to be a guy on here who was like the perfect kid with a username similar to/same as yours and then someone cheated on him or something like that and he turned into a giant cynic.  

[Fortress]

Thanks

Fuck the world. Hail and kill. 

[OneMoreRep]

Good Advice..

"1"

[johnnynoname]

here's my advice: if it feels like more than two fingers then it is probably a dick

[Lundgren]

If someone tries to give you advice based on bad experiences walk the fuck away.

[Parker]

If someone tries to give you advice based on bad experiences walk the fuck away.

So only take the advice based on good experiences?

Part of the reason why advice is given, is so that the other person doesn't make the same mistake...

[johnnynoname]

Some examples of either acquired or innate subconscious patterns;

-People are attracted subconsciously by what they don't have. If the person who has what they need do not find anything he/she needs in us there is no chance a contact can be made. It 's our brain generating our instinct of survival that tells us to go toward those who have what we need because it would increase our chances of survival.
We are constantly calculating how to obtain what our brains tells us we need. If we repress it we feel frustrated, but we also can find a way to compensate by creating cognitions that will make us feel better even if the lack isn't fullfilled. In itself it's another strategy of adaptation, survival generated by our instinct of survival and brain. The constant exposure to what we don't have tho slowly destroys our compensation's system over time.
-When a couple has two daughters, mother prefer the first daughter. Father often prefer the second one.
-When a couple has two sons, father will prefer the first son and mother will attempt to compensate by prefering the second son.
-When a couple has only one daughter mother will be jealous of her as her daughter will be jealous of her mother.
-When a couple has a son and daughter, mother tends to prefer the son and father tends to prefer the daughter.
-A male kid who has an older brother will subconsciously create links at school preferentially with other male kids who have themselves an older brother because it is reassuring, they both have the same patterns.
-Parents who eat/drink to reassure themselves and calm their anxiety involve their kids and teach them to do the same.
-A woman who had a mesomorphic (see somatotypes) father which constantly jokes in her childhood will preferentially look for a copy of this man so she can commit the desired but forbidden incest with another copy of him. If she happened to have brothers or step brothers enjoying fishing, video games she will target a man who also has these hobbies. If someone in her directly accessible environment fits as many criterias as possible he will be automatically prefered over other men who might also share some of these physical, personality related traits but not all.
-Young kids (either boys or girls) in need of a father figure are attracted to older males -and automatically detect subconsciously if they have precisely what their own father figure lacks - who could bring them what their father, grandfather or/and brothers cannot. Their instinct of survival tells em that in order to increase their chances of survival they need to build links with these substitutive father figures.
They can detect if the father figure they re attracted to is interested in giving them what they lack or not. If not they ignore them. Single moms with sons often remark that their son is attracted to father figures who share the same morphotype as their abandonning/absent father. A kid whose abandonning father is ectomorphic and has short hair will preferentially be attracted to such men hoping they will increase his chances of survival by giving him knowledges he lacks. It is motivated by his/her instinct of survival which is underlied automatically by his/her brain.
Sometimes there are older men who are themselves in search of a son who will cross their own patterns with those of these kids. They are motivated by their brain to transmit something -which makes em feel better- to a substitute of a son - or daughter -.
-A child identifies himself with every single form of identification figures that enters his visual range. In the process of identification the child becomes -eats, absorb- the identification figure, impregnate himself with both his conscious and subconscious. We are the sum of the people we identified to / have been exposed to -and didn't choose to be exposed to in our early life-. Their thoughts, cognitions, behaviors we copied by watching them move, sit and talk, and we reproduce what ve been exposed to, what we ve learned (again we cannot reproduce what we havent been exposed to, what we havent learned). It means that something that is not conscious into the mind of someone we identify to -which can be repressed- is transmitted into our own subconscious while we stay at his/her contact. The more, the longer we re exposed the deeper is the impregnation. A child doesn't simply identify himself with other physical people in his surroundings, he also identifies himself with characters -most of them following an unrealistic script of thoughts, words and behaviors- he sees on TV, on the internet, in video games and in books.
-People who are addicted to virtual worlds -rpg,fps etc- identify themselves with a character that has more powers thant they actually do in real life. It is reassuring and the more time they spend in this prefabricated and predictable, seductive world, the more it becomes reassuring. They also know that all the ''actions'' they compulsively repeat and predict will be rewarded when in real life most of the time other people you face can have unpredictable -thus worrying- reactions. The more time is spent in this little, secured world the more addicts lose any interest in facing real life and all its difficulties and constant challenges, its constant competition, concurrence. In virtual worlds whatever you do wont damage your real life self esteem or threaten your physical integrity. Those who create and maintain these worlds are like scientists observating cobayes while attempting to empty their wallets. Lots of people who work in the industry of video games are players themselves who are as addicted as those they somewhat participate to jail in their world. It gives them the feeling of being god. Playing FPS also allows you to report your daily repressed agressivity toward bosses or authority figures and more generally others on virtual targets. It is a compensative system.
Kids who experience impressive -yet scripted- events and feel like they re making them in video games that are more and more realistic develop after some time a bored attitude and view toward the real world. They can be special forces soldiers, magicians, face dinosaurs and fly in space crafts in their virtual worlds, situations that make them feel like they re really experiencing it, and have a hard time finding any interest in real life events as a result. They re becoming desensitized from reality. The fact these virtual worlds are full of other people behind their screens is also reassuring and make you feel like your part of something, when you re in a squad, a clan, a team, when in real life individuals especially in our modern cities are feeling lonelier than ever due to the implosion of families, meaningful relationships with parents, brothers or sisters who care more about their own ''hapiness'', the disapearing of ties with elders and the constant promotion of hyper competition and concurrence.
Somehow the constant search of personal hapiness, and ''not letting anyone interfer with it'' -a message heavily promoted by modern psychology which has a growing influence especially through the medias, politicans and ''stars'' everyone envy and identifies to- which leads to stoping all dependances methodically over time in the end makes people only focus on themselves and become even more hyper competitive and suspicious toward others.
The ''do it yourself'' attitude pushed at its paroxysm make people not asking or needing anything from anyone anymore and getting addicted to it -because it creates a feeling of well being, autonomy and independance, meaning you have more chances of survival than those who ask others to help them; it is underlied by your instinct of survival and ultimately by the matter behind our eyes) over time to the point they re wondering why other people exist considering they can do almost everything by themselves.
-Everything is conditionning and alterates us. The more we re exposed to something, someone, the more it conditions us, the more we absorb it/him/her and a part of us become like it/him/her. The sooner and the longer a child and adolescent is exposed to these conditionnings the deeper will be the inprints/ patterns.
-A boy being raised only by women (especially if he has no brothers, male friends and only a sister or several sisters) will lack a father figure and will be looking for it, if he can't find it he ll be forced to be feminized over time. He might develop exagerely masculinized behaviors to compensate for his lack of inner msculinity due to the absence of male figures during his childhood and adolescence.
-A girl raised by men will lack a mother and will be looking for one, if she can't find one she will be forced to be masculinized. She might become homosexual in an attempt to find a mother in other women.
-A girl raised by a single mother with few or no father figures accessible (grandfather, brothers) especially if the mother and sisters or/and grandmother diabolize the absent father might become homosexual.
-A girl raised by a single mother who has relationships with father figures (brothers, mother's boyfriends, grandfather(s)) has an increased chance of becoming heterosexual and reproduce her mother's behaviors with men.
-We reproduce once adults what we ve been exposed to subconsciously when we were kids, teens. The explosion of new sexual habits in modern cities / societies is a direct result of the explosion of traditional families in the last decades.
-We are the sum of what we ve been exposed to and what we re exposing ourselves to at the moment.
-Young boys without a father search for one subconsciously to compensate for the over feminized environment they know at home if there is no other masculine figure. They can look for big brothers too. The fathers or big brothers will share the same morphotype as their ogirinal father most of the time.
-Male adolescents living with only a single mother struggle to affirmate their masculinity and often have troubles with other men and teens, authority. Their need of a father figure who truly cares about them is humongous but can often hardly being answered which might lead to homosexual tendancies once adults. Most often they are white because black, latin and asian males are more prone to have groups of friends who compensate for the lack of masculine figures. The brothers and male friends become the fathers. Black boys or of any other color if raised only by a mother can become homosexuals too. It all depends of the lenght of exposure.
-All these factors will shape one's sexual orientation - see alfred kinsey ladder- during his childhood and adolescence and for the rest of her/his life.
-A girl whose been preferred by her mother and has a jealous daughter will all life long surround herself with women who are jealous of her reproducing the original pattern she knows and is reassuring. The jealous daughter will often in her case reproduce subconsciously relationships with female friends who will use her as a stooge like their original daughter did. This pattern can be found in both genders.
-Overweight men who used to bully skinnier kids at school in their childhood -a process that made them feel better about themselves at the expense of the others- often tend to repeat this attitude once adults. Their pattern often cross the pattern of the bullied skinnier/smaller individual. Overweight people are often insecure about being ''slow'', ''clumsy'' and envy thinier males physical attributes. Depending of what their parents tell them about their condition they will either convince themselves as a compensation system built by their instinct of survival. Mesomorphic individuals are envied by both ectomorphs and endomorphs. Endomorphs also can lift weights to get even bigger often because they are insecure about their intellectual capacities or their socio profesionnal position.
-When you ve been bullied by a larger, endomorphic individual -considering you re ectomorphic- in your childhood you re going to be repulsed, scared by endomorphs all life long. Some men then lift weights, use steroids, to grow ''bigger'' in order to become like their agressor, dominate him, reverse the tendancy.
-When someone is badly intentionned toward you it's because you remind him someone who in his own past life experience made him suffer. When patterns cross each others -this person also reminds you of someone that made you suffer in your past life experience- you obtain conflictual situations and one or the other is going to have to step down. If there is someone ''superior'', a decider who has to deal with the situation he will preferentially defend the one who reminds him of someone he likes. The non-preferred individual will have to create another compensation system to sustain the fact his chances of survival have been reduced.
-In wild life, stronger and faster animals abandon the weakest ones who are killed by the predators. Abandonning the weakest link of the group allows em to survive.
-Humans create links between each others following prederminated patterns to increase their chances of survival, and these patterns are mostly subconscious, especially when they dont discuss their parents pasts often.

just admit that you copy and pasted that

[Master Blaster]

[Lundgren]

So only take the advice based on good experiences?

Part of the reason why advice is given, is so that the other person doesn't make the same mistake...

Meh most advice based on experience, is too person dependent, I beat my wife it ended my marriage so don't do it.

I'd rather advice based on reason or knowledge. I.e. don't take mortage advice from someone that went homeless, or got lucky, talk to someone who studies/ works with the shit.

[benchmstr]

1)always be better than everyone
2)do what the fuck you want
3)always bring enough ammo
4)muslims are pedophiles

bench

[Bam-bam]

If someone tries to give you advice based on bad experiences walk the fuck away.

was your munching salty banana experience a bad one?

[big L dawg]

just admit that you copy and pasted that

I would hope so...If I typed that much shit my hand would cramp up & I couldnt jerk off...

[#1 Klaus fan]

13. Know that few people have your best interests at heart. Your mother does. Your
father probably does (if he stuck around). Your siblings are on your side.
Everybody else worries about themselves.

Nah.

[tommywishbone]

Solid list.

[nzmusclemonster]

If we follow that list we will end up face down on a hotel bed with Elton John going balls deep up the poo poo.

[Earl1972]

Nah.

why do you disagree?  i thought that was the most truthful of them all

your immediate family is the only people that will truly care about you no matter what

everybody else whether it's friends, girlfriends, boyfriends, wife, husband, coworkers, boss etc uses you until you are no longer useful to them

E

[johnnynoname]

here's my advice: if it feels like more than two fingers then it is probably a dick

[Brixtonbulldog]

1)always be better than everyone
2)do what the fuck you want
3)always bring enough ammo
4)muslims are pedophiles

bench

much better than the first post

big l- if those are the rules you have lived by than i will take it as a lesson of what to avoid.

[#1 Klaus fan]

why do you disagree?  i thought that was the most truthful of them all

your immediate family is the only people that will truly care about you no matter what

everybody else whether it's friends, girlfriends, boyfriends, wife, husband, coworkers, boss etc uses you until you are no longer useful to them

E

Parent's can be selfish fucks and only care what they want their child to be. Siblings can hate each other just because.