Does life suck - Not about me thanks mods for merging unrelated threads.

[Natural Man]

psychologist, not psychiatrist. On a side note there are great psychology books available for free in most public libraries...

Sooner or later we all feel the need to understand the past patterns we ve been following subonsciously for our whole life until we get fed up of feeling like we re constantly reproducing the same crap over and over.

[outby43]

Pretty far off base with the counseling comment but that isn't the point. Counselors are for prevention who deal with 95% of the population whereas psychiatrists are for someone who is already past the point of preventing a problem, the other 5%. If lundgren is having suicidal thoughts he definitely needs to see a psychiatrist.

Just busting your balls about the counselor commented...Sorta...lol.

I am going off of the counselor I have to see as mandated by the court for getting busted with weed.  She spends all of her time trying to convince me I am an addict although every test I have taken says I'm not.  By the end of this thing I will have her smoking weed...lol.  She is OK I guess but I would in no way depend on her for any mental help.  She talks to me about her problems more than anything.  Feels like I am the counselor at times.  I just do it because I have to if I want the charges dropped.  It's all a scam.

Who's moving these fucking threads ??

[Primemuscle]

Lolz I basically just admitted to my folks that I'm a fucking mess., ain't it a great feeling,  when your parents admit that you're there number 1 problem.

I concur with the folks here who advised you to seek professional help. You should be able to find a psychologist or a counselor who you can talk to about your feelings and concerns.
 
There are often free services available. I once needed some assistance with some problems I was having and I found a counselor through the Episcopal Church who either charged me nothing or very little, I don’t remember because this was some time ago.

Often, although well meaning, parents are not the ideal choice of someone to talk things over with because there is usually some baggage between parents and their kids. Friends might be ok to talk with but they usually have a history with you too. In most cases, seeking help from folks in an Internet forum, such as this, isn’t going to be very productive for you and it could actually make you feel worse. You need to speak to someone who is neutral and speak to them in person.

Incidentally, the fact that you recognize that you aren’t happy with the way things are and that you need help, is huge. A lot of folks who desperately need help never get it because they won’t admit to themselves that there is a problem.

[JOHN MATRIX]

where is the paper???

[Flexb]

Lol considering your too broke/drugged up to get laid, and are approaching forty, I think it has more to do with yours

I'm not even that depressed is just I hate money/women/aging, I miss the days when it was grades/girls/growing.

I hear what you're saying. When I was younger, I didn't fear aging and had no worries, except your current crush on a girl and how you were going to get her attention eventually. There was zero stress that was relevant. Once I hit 30 I starting feeling older and starting thinking I look older. It all started kicking in. I wasn't young anymore and that feeling fuking sucks. Now it's live to work and work to live. 80% of your waking hours are spent working your ass off for a job you hate and around people that don't give a fuk about you.
I try to remain focused on what I still want though. To get married to my girl and to have kids. That is something of true value. Another key is to work doing something you enjoy. I can't really figure that out though, which really sucks.

[Lundgren]

All right well for the record someone gave me alink and it strongly suggests that I'm borderline personality disorder, basically I can't start meaningful relationships IRL due to trust issues, and I keep fucking up school/work because of iratic tendencies and shit, it's enough explanations makes alot of sense. Anyhow I really don't wanna talk about it, as it's a pointless discussion unless you know what the fuck it is.

Anyhow mods please eat a dick I want my mental health issues, and everyone elses views on life apart. The original thread was just about life in general.

Getting old and shit, not being famous, and the fact that women tend to be fat/crazy/ and greedy by thirty or usually all 3.

I just wanna hear your guys thoughts on life and shit, in general my life doesn't suck, I suck due to poor mental health, something I've been saying for a long time. There's a big difference.

It's just I hear alot of so called healthy people complain about shit and it makes you wonder does there bullshit really work for them.

[Fallsview]

In times like these you need to STAY POSITIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Cleanest Natural]

a salty banana will make you feel better ... indulge yourself

[Parker]

Nah even they had no advice, I'm on a waitlist for one but it'll be another six months before I get to one again, seriously I'm not taking what you say that seriously, just say a one word answer.

See, in the US, you wouldn't be on a waitlist for one...and be on here talking about this mess.

Basically, you are looking for purpose, for definition...
we all seek it, yet you are missing a key component---people around you who can help guide you, give you hope, not false hope or false pride, but build you up, and give youexpectations to meet. This is where family comes in, people who have a strong sense of family or whose parents instilled in them a strong sense of identity and purpose, don't have to this type of issue as bad you do.   

[Meso_z]

a salty banana will make you feel better ... indulge yourself

[Cleanest Natural]

man up



walk it off big guy

[DK II]

man up



walk it off big guy

x2.

[wavelength]

Life blows. If I could have had the choice to be born or not to be born, I would have asked to not be. Just isn't for me. And I refuse to have children for this very reason. Why subject another human being to this bullshit world and eventual death?

However, I continue to exist for a few things: weight training, music (it's the blood that runs through my veins) and family/friends. Oh, and horror and action movies. And animals.

Otherwise, fuck this place.

To even make the choice you would already have to be alive in some form. So in reality, there can never be a choice.

[wes]

Get your nuts out of the sand,pull up your skirt, and start living!!

I`m one of the most fucked up individuas you could ever meet,but even I know that living beats the old permanant dirt nap.

See a shrink,get some meds,and try to do the next best/ right thing for yourself and others.

Christ,you`re only 24 years old and haven`t begun to know pain and suffering yet!!

[Cleanest Natural]

salty banana

[Marty Champions]

Meh I don't think there's much of a differnece, I'm not delusional, but suicide is becoming a lingering thought. And I don't mean that in some dark attenion whore shit. I mean that in a more of a matter of fact, like shit man doesn't everyone?

P.S. I'm not gay if I were I'd have no problem admitting it, I'm pretty open about that shit. If you can't tell by the subject of thread.

dont do suicide bro

i think you are a VERY smart poster. The smarter you are the more Aware you are thus you seem to encounter more hardships and stresses because you know what is going on. Its ALOT to filter/process /assimilate just bear with it and focus on working out and eating like a falcon. Life is difficult sad for even a falcon, a falcon finds joy in progressive overload to his workouts as well as hoes and just trying to be a good person, its all your ABLE to do in this life.

Most of my life is spent just working and my miind is just going rememberin the good times and planning out minor things in the future. If you dont have a job get one. You will have to succumb and enjoy entertaining lower life forms and learn to enjoy small circumstances in life this is key to finding joy out of work and dumb people, grow that sense of humor but not in a way it breaks people down be silly creative and ballsy, make sure you can back up everything you say with 100 percent truth and reason at all times

[indie-lad]

I'm living to get to a point where I can do a few things i'd like to do before I die.  Everything in life has an illusion of seeming like it matters, but when broken down you realize that nothing in this entire universe will ever matter, not what you said at anytime in your life, nothing you've done or ever will do will really matter. Even the kids you gave/give birth to don't matter. It's all going to end and everything will have never been. You'll just be dead. Your spirit may or may not transcend to another dimension (or whatever theory you subscribe to upon death), but you as a person and anything in what we call life will never matter. Humans like to think what they do matters, but it's just the ego subconsciously speaking. You should live to be happy and make the people around you happy, that's all you can do to go through this life as pleasantly as possible. Nothing! from a job promotion to being the pope or president himself will ever matter. Most humans are just monkeys that think they're more important than they really are. In the ''big picture'' none of us are anymore important than a bright red dog dick.

This is the absolute truth, don't ever think otherwise.

[Playboy]

Alright, this ain't a melt down, just wondering what it is you live for. Alot of you guys will say bodybuilding, but that dosen't last, others say women but again mega waste of time. So what is it that keeps you interested in being alive.

VAGINA AND LOTS OF IT!

[Man of Steel]

Alright, this ain't a melt down, just wondering what it is you live for. Alot of you guys will say bodybuilding, but that dosen't last, others say women but again mega waste of time. So what is it that keeps you interested in being alive.

God, family, friends and career.

[Flexb]

This is the absolute truth, don't ever think otherwise.

Not really. It only matters what matters to you. Sure, nobody gives a shit about what you do or have done, other than your immediate family, but don't go through life thinking nothing matters. It's about what matters to you and what you consider important. You are your world and what you make of it I guess. I could die today and understand not one facet of life will stop going on as it has been. I will die, nobody other than family will remember me, and in the years to come nobody will know who I was. But, I believe in something greater when I die.

[Natural Man]

whatever the way you look at it if you feel fucked up it means your parents, family, fucked you up in the first place and this is why you consider everything as fucked up, based on the first, original model you ve been exposed to.  The funny is that fucked up people can only meet fucked up people. Happy people attract each others, unhappy people attract each others. Everything originates in the first years. It shapes the way you ll interact with others for the rest of your life.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory

take a look at the "Child and caregiver behaviour patterns before the age of 18 months" part  especially

[Benny B]

This is the absolute truth, don't ever think otherwise.

"Absolute truth" my hairy balls. That post is likely to make this kid more depressed than he was before. 

[The Showstoppa]

Man, lots here with negative feelings on life. I love life! Maybe it's because I live stress free, I don't have a nagging wife who goes out and spends money just to spend it, I still have sex with her, and I'm watching my daughter accomplish academically at a much better pace than I expected. Oh and it also helps when you don't have debt and don't give a damn about having a bunch of material things just to "keep up with the jones'". Too many here are worried about what others think of them.

Flip, you have your priorities in the right place.  Happy for you.

[Benny B]

I'm living to get to a point where I can do a few things i'd like to do before I die.  

How about doing some of those things NOW, or at least taking proactive steps to achieve these goals as soon as possible. You are not even promised tomorrow, let alone a 75+ year life span. Work to the experience the best life possible TODAY, not off in the distant future.

Usually this type of thinking is due to financial constraints that are of our choosing. So many are obsessed with material items that give you a very short-term happiness before the excitement subsides or these things become obsolete.

EXPERIENCES are much more lasting and satisfying than purchasing material goods. For me, that meant traveling the world and making many sacrifices to do so. You have to make it your mission to what it takes to enact your dreams.

[The Showstoppa]

How about doing some of those things NOW, or at least taking proactive steps to acheive these goals as soon as possible. You are not even promised tomorrow, let alone a 75+ year life span. Work to the experience the best life possible TODAY, not off in the distant future.

Usually this type of thinking is due to financial constraints that are of our choosing. So many are obsessed with material items that give you a very short-term happiness before the excitement subsides or these things become obsolete.

EXPERIENCES are much more lasting and satisfying than purchasing material goods. For me, that meant traveling the world and making many sacrifices to do so. You have to make it your mission to what it takes to enact your dreams.

Your best post ever, Benny.  I totally agree.