same way abusive men find partners. if they showed their true personality girls would run. but people will put up with anything if it is introduced slowly enough. look what is happening on a world level.
did you know if you drop a frog in hot water it will jump out; but if you drop it into cool water and slowly take it to a boil the frog will stay and boil to death?
Very true. However most abusive men and women have no idea they're even abusive. The majority of people are in an unconscious state of mind almost all of the time. We are being force fed abuse. And it starts and ends with verbal abuse. Hell judges on TV verbal abuse the people in their courtroom looking for guidance. The World has jumped the shark.