Rx Muscle seems like the perfect match for you. They have a non offensive "female friendly" policy that strictly prohibits the bashing of female members.
But maybe your looking for something a little more edgy than the vanilla "You look fantastic". "Go Girl" "Own that stage chicha" type of responses?
Maybe you'll find a home here. Just don't try too hard.

Let me put it to you this way. My last competition I came dead fucking last even though there were just two of us in my height class. My suits didn't fucking fit, , my ass had fat and I had pretty much zero muscle. I was smooth as shit. I was basically a female fucking goodrum.
Over at RX I did "awesome"and should consider doing some anavar and clen for my next competition.
When all I really needed was to take a fucking year off to build some much needed msucle and learn how to diet properly.