Author Topic: Is it worth your soul? (Read 5164 times)

daddy8ball · « **on:** April 15, 2011, 05:01:41 PM »

Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.

Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.

We are thinking about breaking up.

My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.

Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.

What is the GetBigger play here?

Nails · « **Reply #1 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:07:05 PM »

What you need to do is be sober and smack her ass around.... and then get hammered and treat her like a queen... that way she will want you drunk all the time

FREAKgeek · « **Reply #2 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:07:09 PM »

Quote from: daddy8ball on April 15, 2011, 05:01:41 PM

I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector

TacoBell · « **Reply #3 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:08:25 PM »

Hows the sex? This is an important factor.

If youre not married, no kids, no financial ties, put her in a box and leave her on the curb.

Hulkotron · « **Reply #4 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:09:41 PM »

Drinking a six pack or more 2+ times a week is excessive imo.

Nails · « **Reply #5 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:12:16 PM »

"i want you to stop drinking and spend more quality time with me" - GF

"BiatCh, Dont you know I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector!!!"

#1 Klaus fan · « **Reply #6 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:27:00 PM »

Why doesn't she like the drinking, have you discussed it?

Cornelius Funk · « **Reply #7 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:32:42 PM »

Just move on. If she's already nagging about a few beers, then she'll never be happy.

DK II · « **Reply #8 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:36:24 PM »

Quote from: daddy8ball on April 15, 2011, 05:01:41 PM

Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.

Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.

We are thinking about breaking up.

My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.

Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.

What is the GetBigger play here?

Dude, you're an alcoholic.

Face it and get help. You are going to break up with a great woman because of beer?

This will be the case with all your relationships, or you can marry another alcoholic and drink yourselves to death together. But my guess if you stick with the alcohol you will end up alone, drink more and more and be a trainwreck sooner or later, quit your job and so on...

Time to step down on the alcohol, dude. You don't NEED alcohol to function in everyday life, and if you think you do, you need help.

outby43 · « **Reply #9 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:38:04 PM »

My wife slapped a joint out of my lips once. Fast forward a few years later and she was watering my plants for me. You have to train them like a dog. Some you can't train so you give them to someone else. Do what makes you happy dude. Don't let anyone try to run your life. I decompressed by smoking some weed and I work in IT as well. Can be very demanding on the brain and you are right...we need to hit the reset button every once in a while. Good Luck.

TacoBell · « **Reply #10 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:39:39 PM »

Quote from: DK II on April 15, 2011, 05:36:24 PM

Dude, you're an alcoholic.

Face it and get help. You are going to break up with a great woman because of beer?

This will be the case with all your relationships, or you can marry another alcoholic and drink yourselves to death together. But my guess if you stick with the alcohol you will end up alone, drink more and more and be a trainwreck sooner or later, quit your job and so on...

Time to step down on the alcohol, dude. You don't NEED alcohol to function in everyday life, and if you think you do, you need help.

Alcoholics go to meetings. Hes a drunk.

tonymctones · « **Reply #11 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:41:06 PM »

LOL drinking a 6 pack twice a week makes you an alcoholic?

HAHAHAHAH

Dude come football season I drink 3 or 4 times a week...

it sounds like you drink alone without here bro, why doesnt she drink with you?

daddy8ball · « **Reply #12 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:43:30 PM »

DK II, it's not a beer thing..it's a "can a man do what the fuck he wants to do thing"

TacoBell · « **Reply #13 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:44:57 PM »

So answer some of our questions

DK II · « **Reply #14 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:50:36 PM »

Quote from: daddy8ball on April 15, 2011, 05:43:30 PM

DK II, it's not a beer thing..it's a "can a man do what the fuck he wants to do thing"

Ok, you sounded like you had an addiction in your first post.

If that is not the case, go on and do what you do. To tell the truth, i have never been around people who drink alcohol, so a 6-pack on one evening is really a lot for me.

JimmyJam1974 · « **Reply #15 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:51:32 PM »

Quote from: DK II on April 15, 2011, 05:50:36 PM

o. To tell the truth, i have never been around people who drink alcohol, so a 6-pack on one evening is really a lot for me.

No Homo?

cephissus · « **Reply #16 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:53:37 PM »

Being an alcoholic isn't defined by how much you drink, but the conditions which lead to alcohol consumption. Besides, as he's already said, any drug addiction is a consequence of his job. Should he quit his job?

We might say "no one NEEDS alcohol to do a job" but how would we know?

edit -

lol, should have heeded the red text...

pellius · « **Reply #17 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:53:58 PM »

Quote from: daddy8ball on April 15, 2011, 05:01:41 PM

Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.

Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.

We are thinking about breaking up.

My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.

Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.

What is the GetBigger play here?

As long as your drinking doesn't effect your behavior in a way that is detrimental to her. And how come it is always the man that gets stuck with this "you have to think about her." When does she think about you? How much do you spend with her and how much time does she want?

pellius · « **Reply #18 on:** April 15, 2011, 05:55:23 PM »

Quote from: daddy8ball on April 15, 2011, 05:43:30 PM

DK II, it's not a beer thing..it's a "can a man do what the fuck he wants to do thing"

No. No one should be able to do whatever the fuck they want to do.

But from what I hear, just hearing your side, I think you are in the right.

che · « **Reply #19 on:** April 15, 2011, 06:00:07 PM »

Quote from: daddy8ball on April 15, 2011, 05:01:41 PM

Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.

Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.

We are thinking about breaking up.

My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.

Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.

What is the GetBigger play here?

Grow some balls and tell her if she doesn't like it, she can GTFO .

Captain Equipoise · « **Reply #20 on:** April 15, 2011, 06:00:57 PM »

Bitch is stepping over some serious boundries, every man needs his 'to go' things that relax him or put him at ease
for some it's drinking for others it's playing a video game, etc. everyone has their de-stressors as long as it's not an
addiction and you're not hammered from fri 5pm to sun 12pm then do whatever makes you happy. No one should infringe on what relaxes you there's nothing wrong with moderate drinking, before I got married my fiancee was whiny about my guns (I have a lot) and kept whining about how scared she would be living in a house with a bunch of guns and ammo in it, I stuck to my guns, explained to her it's something I've loved since I was a kid growing up on Arnie movies and that's it, we're now happily married 10 months and she's bought me 3 guns since

If your girl pushes it, break up with her and give her a reality check.. if you're both better off without each other then problem solved, there is ALWAYS someone better, and with there only being 2 sexes you will never run out of potential partners. If she loves you as much as she says she can deal with a few drinks, although this sounds like a psychological issue, ie. maybe her dad was a drunk and beat her, or an uncle or something.

DK II · « **Reply #21 on:** April 15, 2011, 06:01:14 PM »

Quote from: JimmyJam1974 on April 15, 2011, 05:51:32 PM

No Homo?

no homo.

Quote from: cephissus on April 15, 2011, 05:53:37 PM

Being an alcoholic isn't defined by how much you drink, but the conditions which lead to alcohol consumption. Besides, as he's already said, any drug addiction is a consequence of his job. Should he quit his job?

We might say "no one NEEDS alcohol to do a job" but how would we know?

edit -

lol, should have heeded the red text...

Maybe my thinking is a little too ideal, but i think that if you need ANY kind of drug to do your job, it will end bad. Even coffee. If you NEED coffee to do your job, it will not end good.

But i see your point and in reality, we all need something that keeps us going and keeps our minds of the stress parts of life. Maybe there are better choices than alcohol for it, but that's what most people go by.

muscularny · « **Reply #22 on:** April 15, 2011, 06:59:01 PM »

drinkers are selfish animals, stop drinking

chaos · « **Reply #23 on:** April 15, 2011, 07:01:37 PM »

Quote from: daddy8ball on April 15, 2011, 05:01:41 PM

Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.

Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.

We are thinking about breaking up.

My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.

Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.

What is the GetBigger play here?

Geez what a whiny bitch, and I ain't talkin about her.

Parker · « **Reply #24 on:** April 15, 2011, 07:07:16 PM »

Quote from: daddy8ball on April 15, 2011, 05:01:41 PM

Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.

Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.

We are thinking about breaking up.

My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.

Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.

What is the GetBigger play here?

So basically you are a drunk, who possibly will have domestic violence issues and DUIs down the pike...many people drink due to stress, many people do drugs due to stress, escapism...

You want to relieve stress, start running, or really start lifting, or boxing, MMA...or smoke some damn weed...if you don't you are gonna be in the clink for a domestic assault...and many of thos happen due to one or both parties drinking.