What is the appropriate thing to do when people disrespect you extremely hard?

[purenaturalstrength]

I was pondering at work about 2 occasions where I really wondered "what would ronnie coleman do?"

situation 1:
*having a drink with friends outside of bar
*go in bar, bar tenders don't serve me, are occupied chatting up the girls
*leave bar, get drink at night shop and drink it with my buddies outside the bar (buddies have drinks from the bar)
*bar tender comes out of the bar, gives me an attitude, says "this is our property" (meaning dont bring your own drinks)
*i say well if you serve drinks then i wouldn't have needed to go and buy elsewhere
*he says "well if you're gonna be like that" and grabs my hand holding my drink (in a can) and squeezes it and sprays the drink all over my shirt (i look all nasty now)

at this point i was sooooo angry but at the same time i knew that if i punched him or whatever i could get into legal problems again (in the past i was more wreckless and went for the violence option in similar situations)

so all i could do was insult him but he just seemed to get off on my anger

situation2:
*i found a job for my girlfriend in a bar owned by my friend's girlfriend
*she serves drinks there and does dishes
*one day after work i go there when her shift is about to finish
*some asshole is talking to her like she's a black whore (not even trying to chat her up, really talking to her like she's a whore who will not need fake friendlyness just crude remarks)
*my friend's girlfriend (who owns the bar) tells the guy to shut up and says she's my girlfriend
*the guy who is like 10 years older than me says something like  "how old are you..blabla..don't think she's going to be your last one blabla"

what he said was not so special but the way he said it and the attitude made me fill with the question again "i should be beating him up but since that's illegal what can i do to degrade him and regain respect?"


i wonder...

is there a good solution or just deal with it and try to forget about it?

[apply85]

The first situation, why the hell did you go buy a drink instead of getting the bar tender's attention, the second... who gives a shit, some drunk idiot talking shit in a bar, I'd make fun of him or something, though usually I just ignore it go on about my business and get pissed later

[purenaturalstrength]

The first situation, why the hell did you go buy a drink instead of getting the bar tender's attention, the second... who gives a shit, some drunk idiot talking shit in a bar, I'd make fun of him or something, though usually I just ignore it go on about my business and get pissed later

zhack khan says you should memorize these situations and relive them before a heavy set so you can rage at the weight


tried that yesterday but it was very draining psychologically

[240 is Back]

youre supposed to walk up behind the girls with which the bartender is engaged.

this gives you an opening with the chicks, as you are physically close enough to check each other out...

and it gives the bartender the motivation to serve you AS FAST AS POSSIBLE because you're stealing his thunder.

[Swede!]

situation 1:
*having a drink with friends outside of bar
*go in bar, bar tenders don't serve me, are occupied chatting up the girls

* say, "HEEY bartender?!" he responds since both him and the girls realises whats going on and you get your drink.


you should ofc have hit the bartender though.. in america isn't what he did Assault? and you have the right to defend yourself? you could have hit him in the stomach or kicked him in the nuts if you didnt want it to look bad. Or as he left his shift

[purenaturalstrength]

now i can't stop thinking up revenge scenarios for dealing with the bar tender

as long as i can find a legal way to have great revenge, why not


but i can't come up with ideas


HELP

[MONSTER_TRICEPS]

HAHA  You guys must be 5'5 beasts if you're getting owned like that.

[240 is Back]

*the guy who is like 10 years older than me says something like  "how old are you..blabla..don't think she's going to be your last one blabla"

Situation 2...

remind him that he's going bald and everyone in the room knows his dick doesn't work like it used to.  Remind him loudly.

Then point out that you're enjoying "your turn" with her, and that his old ass is jealous he's not doing so well.  have some fun with it!  laugh and point at him.  introduce him to the bar as a local firefighter (so people will nod and root for him) then point out he was the first in his firehouse to openly serve gay, which took a lot of courage.  

Or, insult his chick for her looks, and get him to swing on you in front of witnesses.  Pummel him, then sue him for his meager savings.  

[Swede!]

ntroduce him to the bar as a local firefighter (so people will nod and root for him) then point out he was the first in his firehouse to openly serve gay, which took a lot of courage.   

hahahahahahahahaha

[purenaturalstrength]

HAHA  You guys must be 5'5 beasts if you're getting owned like that.

i'm 6' decent build and this is the bar tender (yes found his facebook) i always stalk my enemies and study their whereabouts with a sleeperaccount just so that in case a glorious opportunity for (legal)  revenge comes up i can not miss it

[LurkerNoMore]

240 Has the best advice. 

/End of thread.

[Swlabr]

i'm 6' decent build and this is the bar tender (yes found his facebook) i always stalk my enemies and study their whereabouts with a sleeperaccount just so that in case a glorious opportunity for (legal)  revenge comes up i can not miss it

ahahahaha

Should've punched that punchable face, bro.

[Bad Boy Dazza]

Stop hanging out at bars?

[purenaturalstrength]

ahahahaha

Should've punched that punchable face, bro.

yeah i really wanted to but there were a lot of witnesses and a bouncer and police in the area on patrol etc etc


50% of me says punch his lights out doooo ittttt!!!!!

50% says noooooo don't do it!!!!!


so torn

[Swede!]

yeah i really wanted to but there were a lot of witnesses and a bouncer and police in the area on patrol etc etc


50% of me says punch his lights out doooo ittttt!!!!!

50% says noooooo don't do it!!!!!


so torn

punch and leave fast as fuck

[Parker]

Situation #2, your girl is a whore, deal with it. If she didn't call him on it, and took it, then she knows it. Plus, she serves drinks, or is a bartender...meaning her ass get drunk, drunk girls are easy girls...easy girls are whores, follow the logic? Now, not all servers and bartenders are whores, but the ones that allow dudes ro talk to her like she is, certainly are...

And I never knew there was a diff way to talk to black whore vs a white one. Hmm, you learn something new everyday.

#1, WTF are you bringing your own drink after you couldn't get the bartender's attention? What are you a Simp?

And it seems that you have a lot of issues dealing with drinking period.

So

[240 is Back]

seeing his pic... you can't even get mad at a kid like that.

I mean, he's a skinny douche working in a bar.  His life is crap already.  He's a small fish in a small bowl.  He lives on $3.00 an hour plus tips and works crap hours.

The look in your eye should remind him that you own him already.  He's SERVING you.  He's your bitch already.  

WTF are you doing in bars anyway?  Get on FB, invite over 3 different girls, on 5-6 nights each week.  Entertain them with rented movies on your big screen TV, have sex and remind them of your 1:30 am "curfew" so they don't get any silly ideas about staying and entering girlfriend territory.  make your money in the day and have fun once the sun goes down.  Don't sweat the little people like this "beer mule".  He ain't shit - and he knows it.

[slaveboy1980]

240 is A OK.

[purenaturalstrength]

seeing his pic... you can't even get mad at a kid like that.

I mean, he's a skinny douche working in a bar.  His life is crap already.  He's a small fish in a small bowl.  He lives on $3.00 an hour plus tips and works crap hours.

The look in your eye should remind him that you own him already.  He's SERVING you.  He's your bitch already.  

WTF are you doing in bars anyway?  Get on FB, invite over 3 different girls, on 5-6 nights each week.  Entertain them with rented movies on your big screen TV, have sex and remind them of your 1:30 am "curfew" so they don't get any silly ideas about staying and entering girlfriend territory.  make your money in the day and have fun once the sun goes down.  Don't sweat the little people like this "beer mule".  He ain't shit - and he knows it.

well i tried affecting his self esteem by shouting at him that it's not my fault he's  waitress and that he shouldn't take it out on me etc

but he seemed to enjoy my anger

still i hope it affected him

[slaveboy1980]

personally I would have stabbed him in the throat.

[Bad Boy Dazza]

He was hoping to piss you off so that you would throw a punch.  At that point he was planning to beat you to a pulp.  You see your muscles did not impress him.

[LurkerNoMore]

seeing his pic... you can't even get mad at a kid like that.

I mean, he's a skinny douche working in a bar.  His life is crap already.  He's a small fish in a small bowl.  He lives on $3.00 an hour plus tips and works crap hours.

The look in your eye should remind him that you own him already.  He's SERVING you.  He's your bitch already.  

WTF are you doing in bars anyway?  Get on FB, invite over 3 different girls, on 5-6 nights each week.  Entertain them with rented movies on your big screen TV, have sex and remind them of your 1:30 am "curfew" so they don't get any silly ideas about staying and entering girlfriend territory.  make your money in the day and have fun once the sun goes down.  Don't sweat the little people like this "beer mule".  He ain't shit - and he knows it.

All that needs to be said

[purenaturalstrength]

Situation #2, your girl is a whore, deal with it. If she didn't call him on it, and took it, then she knows it. Plus, she serves drinks, or is a bartender...meaning her ass get drunk, drunk girls are easy girls...easy girls are whores, follow the logic? Now, not all servers and bartenders are whores, but the ones that allow dudes ro talk to her like she is, certainly are...

And I never knew there was a diff way to talk to black whore vs a white one. Hmm, you learn something new everyday.

#1, WTF are you bringing your own drink after you couldn't get the bartender's attention? What are you a Simp?

And it seems that you have a lot of issues dealing with drinking period.

So

what a fucking moron you are.


and yes you can tell a lot of white idiots talk to black women like they're inferior just because some black prostitutes are cheaper than whites and because these morons can only get with prostitutes they take it out on the non-prostitutes


whatever you clueless bastard

[Tapeworm]

Stop hanging out at bars?

Sense at last.  Thank you.

Alcohol fueled social environments are chock full of numbnuts.  Learn to let it not matter or don't be there.  I see a state issue jumpsuit in your future.

[Swlabr]

u are 1 ****ing cheeky kunt mate i swear i am goin 2 wreck u i swear on my mums life and i no u are scared lil bitch gettin your mates to send me messages saying dont meet up coz u r sum big bastard with muscles lol ****in sad mate really sad jus shows what a scared lil gay boy u are and whats all this crap ur mates sendin me about sum bodybuildin website that 1 of your faverite places to look at men u lil ****in gay boy fone me if u got da balls cheeky prick see if u can step up lil queer