Hmm... something to think about.
You wanna get laid? Even if you talk to her, she makes that decision. Most women make the mistake (decision #1) of sleeping with a guy she doesn't really know. And then what happens is a "instant relationship", then she gets to know him. He's a jerk, etc. Men tend to cruise on the pretend level...meaning, a woman can fake a orgasm, but we can fake being interested...
You take a woman whose made multiple decisions like these and a dude who is just cruising...
Why the hell would want to get married to "that"?
You keep cruising...unfortunately, what happens is you wake up at 40-50-60, and want companionship, with someone you can relate to...fact is, most women that age have kids that are either teenagers or grown, so they have other priorities, but you are still thinking like you did at 30+.
The variable is the women, you have stayed constant.
I know someone in this same boat.