I have said all I have to say about women already, but to tell someone to act x instead of y is to tell them to be a liar, women smell lies and then they start to lie to and before you know it you're in a relationship based on a lie and you have anxiety attacks because maintaining a false image is hard on the nerves. Do not be a dick on purpose, don't act in anyway that does not feel natural, but if you are the type to never want to make a female feel rejected or let down, what you do is reject them with love, reject them kindly and warmly by keeping them around but not giving them the dick, flirt all you want and tease all you want with the security in the back of your head that you will in the end not be weak and let a princess corrupt your integrity, use sex is a tool to discipline women by not giving into bad girls but rewarding good girls with it. Sex is a tool, it's an avenue to power, that's why women don't like to give it away, to give it away is to not have it anymore, that's why I don't like this player/pick up artist/alpha male sleep with every woman attitude. In the end you lose power not gain it
I'm disagree with this. You act appropriate to the situation. This ideal of acting how you really are and how you really feel -- "being true to yourself" is one of the many bad ideas that came out of the sixties/seventies cultural revolution. When someone first applies to McDonald's and is asked why he wants to work there should he really say, "Brah, I need a paycheck so I can buy weed, concert tickets and take my girl to the movies. I just need the money. It's just that right now flippin and selling burgers to fatties is all I'm qualified to do now."
One of the things that was different in my generation from today's was that we were raised with the idea that nobody cares about how you "really" are or how you "really" feel. They only cared about how you behaved, how you acted. Hear that? How you "acted"? So they didn't give a crap that I didn't like my aunt's Christmas present of a jig saw puzzle. What kind of 10 year old boy wants a fricken jig saw puzzle of a goddamn manger scene? I wanted a bow and arrow set. But I still had to say "Thank You" and show good manners whether I felt like it or not. You work in customer service nobody cares if you're in a good or bad mood. You plaster that smile on your face and be polite and courteous. A child has to be taught to eat with a fork when his natural instinct is to eat with his hands. A person has to be taught that it's wrong to just take what they want instead of ask permission or work to earn it. When you're trying to cut the best deal or negotiate a salary you got to give and make a certain impression. You don't want your potential employer to know that you've been out of work for over a year and flat broke and will pretty much take anything at this point. If a girl knows that you haven't been laid for a year and that you spend your nights having play dates with a Jessica Alba love doll you're pretty much doomed. If she gets the impression that you have a life and she's not the only player in town you seem more desirable.
Reading this guy's post I get the vibe that if he was true to himself. Acted on his feeling. He would have been buying this skank flowers, telling her how beautiful she is, calling her twice a day, telling her she's the one....
Glorifying nature and what is natural was another bad idea that came out of the sixties cultural revolution. There is nothing inherent sacred about nature or natural. It is amoral. Neither good nor bad. It just is. We spend most of life conquering nature and conquering our natural instinct. Look around you. Everything you have is to make your life easier so you don't live life in the natural Hobbesian state which he describes as "Nasty, brutish and short." You don't rub two stick together to make fire. You flip a switch. You flip on the a/c when the natural weather is too hot. Same applies to over coming your natural instinct. You just don't mount some chick you find hot. You overcome your fears and stand your ground to a bully even though your natural instinct is to feel afraid.
I have the sweetest, cutest, little 7 year old niece in the world. In the whole goddamn world. I just want to spoil that little angel to death. Give her anything she wants. I had to scold and discipline her the other day. It just crush me to see her cry. It made me almost want to cry. But I held my ground kept my mean face. If I want to cry I go home and to my room where no one can see me and cry like a baby if I want. But not in public and not in front of her.
You don't always do what you feel like doing or want to do.
