what do I do. Kid isn't mine.

[DK II]

duno how to handle this. Anyone else ever deal with it. Finding out there kid isn't there's.

she didn't tell me. I had to find out. She was still emailing her ex telling him she loves him n always have always will.i knew time frames always didn't match up when she got preganant. Finally I find truth in a secret email.

wtf do I do. Kid is 1 yrs old. After I found out I broke her down she admitted everything. But now tells me she doesn't love him n loves me n doesn't want me to leave. I'm confused cause she is going crazy trying to make sure I won't leave her. So it seems she does love. Obv she's promising to never talk to him again like before.... I caught her almost 2 yrs ago before emailing n txting him telling him she loves him n still wants to be with him.

so its twice now I been emotionally cheated on n this times even more fucked up.

wtf do I do. I dunom all there's pictures of me holding this kid... Wtf....  She keeps telling me she wants me to be her farther n be with her...

what do I do.

leave now.

don't wait, don't look back.

[The Wizard of Truth]

If youre having girl problems I feel bad for you son,
I got 99problems but a bitch aint one

[jon cole]

Lived the same story and it took me almost two year to leave the bitch.

she cheated on me with a married man, during one year i got doubt but no evidence.
Finally she left her "married toy", the guy was so in love and gone crazy so he called me to tell allll the truth...


Guy spent hundred of euro in gift for my ex bitch, she sold all the gift on ebay to make money.
Guy suspect her to cheat on him (lol) with other guy, so in theory she cheated on her married lover, at that point i didn'it know who was the boyfriend and who was the amant .


He was so desperate that he want me to give him her facebook and msn acount to spy her...
He divorced for her, and she left him.

Worst bitch got the strange ability to hook honest men.
They know how to manipulate then easily.

so my only advice is get out and never go back, asap, before you fall in depression, before you start losing hair, before you start losing willpower for bbing, for sex, and for life in general and before you start too drink when you come home after a night at work.

i'm now with a smart beautiful girl, born and raised in a stable family.

My ex lost her parent at 4 year old and grew up in a shitty family.
she will search for a father figure all her life (thankx to getbig advice).
she's a beautiful girl, but total shit inside.

[Swlabr]

GET THE FUCK OUT NOW! ABORT THE MISSION, TROOPER.

[sync pulse]

I sense that he loves the child, even if it isn't his biologically...this complicates things greatly.

[dr.chimps]

Get out now,see the kid as often as possible if possible.

This broads a liar and not gonna` do you any good.

x2.        If he doesn't get out now, he'll regret it the rest of his life. Poor sap. 

[w8m8]

leave the woman and give that child one last kiss on the forehead late at night and just leave

don't give her any word

just go, and don't come back to her ever

a zebra can't change it's stripes

This ^^

Mate, to be honest, it looks like you love her and you overlooked a few things you knew from the start in order to have this family thing with her. I can't believe that a woman managed to pull the wool over your eyes like this. You had to have known that something was going on. You are somewhat complicit in all this, you had your suspicions all along. You wrote it yourself, you knew that the pregnancy period was off. What did you do about it back then? Did you not question her?

You should have broken her in from the start, put the pressure on her to come clean about her ex and then force her to choose- and this kid business happened far too fast, don't you think you should know someone for a good few years before you take such a drastic step?

and This ^^

[Raymondo]

I understand that but I think for legality and monetary reasons, it should be documented (not by email or just her say so) by a paternity test. He needs to cover his ass. Eventually (99%) it will come up down the road who is or isn't the father. Save the aggravation now. If it proves he is the father he has all and every legal right to the child.

That's actually very sound advice.

But I get the feeling that the characters in this situation are like the ones in the jeremy kyle show...

Point being that sound advice could be falling on deaf ears.

[outby43]

I would make a short documentary out of this.  Tape it all.  The confrontation, the tears, the breakup, you saying bye to the kid and walk off leaving her life a disaster while you head off to the gym with a bag of needles and GH.

[L.L]

fuck that hoe....get away...she lied to you once and will do it again...run

[Red Hook]

since you have all of the advice that you will need now let's get back to business!

can you post some pics of her in her panties? you can block out the face if you like..also include an ass shot or two.

[galain]

Bro - perhaps there is a way you can keep the child in your life if that is what you really want. I tend to agree with the other posters - at 1 year old, it's best to just put them both behind you, but hey, who hasn't been in love before? It makes us all do crazy shit.

But think about this Lyquid - if you stay with this woman, for the rest of your life you will always have a little voice in the back of your head whispering to you that you're only second best. Do you really want that? That is what will fuck you up if you're not careful.

Good luck mate.

[Kwon_2]

Damn

I would hate my life more than ever

Not sure one would be able to love the child, since he/she would always remember you of the infidelity.

[Army of One]

First I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
without you by my side
But I spent so many nights
thinking how you did me wrong
I grew strong
I learned how to carry on
and so you're back
from outer space
I just walked in to find you here
with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed my stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second
you'd be back to bother me

Go on now go walk out the door
just turn around now
'cause you're not welcome anymore
weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
you think I'd crumble
you think I'd lay down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
as long as i know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
and I'll survive
I will survive

It took all the strength I had
not to fall apart
kept trying hard to mend
the pieces of my broken heart
and I spent oh so many nights
just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry
Now I hold my head up high
and you see me
somebody new
I'm not that chained up little person
still in love with you
and so you felt like dropping in
and just expect me to be free
now I'm saving all my loving
for someone who's loving me

[newmom]

Lyquid, I agree with some (and shocked by a few posts), if you want to be in this child's life, that is super credible if you ask me. That is a life long commitment if you do that though, no matter how pissed off you get at her mom just stay in the child's life. She sounds that she waivers back and forth about her feelings, so NOTHING would surprise me that she would allow you in the child's life then a few years she may say fuck off you're not the father. I doubt she knows if you or the ex is, but that's just me.  But I STRONGLEY encourage you to get a paternity test.

Last thing you want is a relationship where you have to check emails, phone bills etc...Once trust is broken, you can't get that back.

[Shockwave]

Leave the bitch, shes done it twice, shes going to do it again, only reason shes still with you is probably cause he wont take her/doesnt want her back, and there is no telling how many times she REALLY cheated on you.

You really want to be her second choice? Cause thats what you are. If shes emailing some other dude telling him she loves him behind your back, that makes you second fiddle.
Clearly the kids not yours.

Fuck that bitch, get away while you can, it will be 100x worse if you dont and the child gets older, especially when hes old enough to think youre the real dad, plus shell be able to take everything from you.

That women is an emotionally spoiled wreck, shes gonna jump ship the moment she can, girls dont email other guys and tell them they love them if theyre happy where theyre at or if theyre not planning on leaving.

Get out now.

P.S
There is a woman out there somewhere that wants to be with you, because she loves you, not some hoe that cant stand to be alone, so she uses you while she tries to get back with her ex or find someone knew.

[newmom]

Fuck that bitch, get away while you can, it will be 100x worse if you dont and the child gets older, especially when hes old enough to think youre the real dad, plus shell be able to take everything from you.

When that kid is older, (if he isn't the father) it may show the child how to be a stand up guy IMO.

[w8m8]

Made me totally believe I was the one for her. Fuck I don't wanna be so stupid n stay.

I have to leave. Honestly does it matter when I leave? Will I get trapped if I stay any longer than a few days ? Shud I get out right away? I think ill be suckered into the I love yous and crap if I stay any longer

Leave .. as quick as you can ... forget it all ... as quick as you can ... and NEVER jump into shit that quick again

You'll NEVER get it out of your head if you stay ... it will eat at you and when you sleep with the whore you can be assured she's got that other guy on her mind ... why would you waste one minute of energy in a relationship some whore threw in the trash ?

she's using you .. her words are empty and you're a fool to stay and pay for some other man's kid

[Shockwave]

When that kid is older, (if he isn't the father) it may show the child how to be a stand up guy IMO.

You dont stay in a shitty relationship with a cheater because you want her 1yr old kid to learn how to be a standup guy. Im sorry, im not going to make my life total hell to raise her kid the way she should be raising him in the 1st place.

Itd be a different story if the woman was faithful, or wasnt a total shitbag. Yeah the kid needs a dad, but at 1year old, if Im not the father and the women is already cheating on me, fuck you bitch, Im out.

No thanks.

[lyquid]

what first happened was early on she left her ex for me. Shortly down road we wernt as lovey as before felt something was up. I key logged the computer n found her msging her ex saying she loves n wants him back.
after I confront her she promises me the world. Gives me all her passwords  shell never speak to a guy agai pretty much. Whole time after that she is a great girl. Does alot for me. Aything I need. So I think she does love me some how... I duno..

all the extents she went to ya I believed her heart broken I gave her another chance. N than like I said my best friend found she was up to it again almost 2 yrs later.  Now its same things I promise  you so much n love u .

gotta stop thinking that cause if she loved me more why would she be telling her ex these false hopes. She def doesn't want any guy out there. But I'd say she is completly immature n is still holding onto her first love n will never let him go in her heart. Its always her ex. She's never done aythin with ay other guy.

I grew up long ago. I'd always miss my last ex thinkin that was true love tha realized that you just always think grass is greener on the other side. N want what you can't have. N she is stll thinking this. Regardless I need to leave cause she convinced me before that shed never do it again. N she saying it again. Fool me 3 times and what? Must have no brain at all right?

[Shockwave]

Girls dont email other guys and tell them they love them if theyre happy where theyre at or if theyre not planning on leaving. Girls dont lie and tell you youre the father if theyre decent women.

There is a million women out there, and there are a lot that WONT cheat on you and tell their ex they love them all the time, and lie to you about being the father of her kid. This one is damaged goods.

Get out now

[Shockwave]

what first happened was early on she left her ex for me. Shortly down road we wernt as lovey as before felt something was up. I key logged the computer n found her msging her ex saying she loves n wants him back.
after I confront her she promises me the world. Gives me all her passwords  shell never speak to a guy agai pretty much. Whole time after that she is a great girl. Does alot for me. Aything I need. So I think she does love me some how... I duno..

all the extents she went to ya I believed her heart broken I gave her another chance. N than like I said my best friend found she was up to it again almost 2 yrs later.  Now its same things I promise  you so much n love u .

gotta stop thinking that cause if she loved me more why would she be telling her ex these false hopes. She def doesn't want any guy out there. But I'd say she is completly immature n is still holding onto her first love n will never let him go in her heart. Its always her ex. She's never done aythin with ay other guy.

I grew up long ago. I'd always miss my last ex thinkin that was true love tha realized that you just always think grass is greener on the other side. N want what you can't have. N she is stll thinking this. Regardless I need to leave cause she convinced me before that shed never do it again. N she saying it again. Fool me 3 times and what? Must have no brain at all right?

My wife, who is sitting here with me, says from reading your posts she wants to leave, but is afraid to leave you because she doesnt want to be alone. Shes looking for someone to leave you with, and all the password shit, all the shit she says, is just bullshit so you wont leave her, until she finds someone else and can leave you.

Shes shit man, leave while you still can.

[newmom]

You dont stay in a shitty relationship with a cheater because you want her 1yr old kid to learn how to be a standup guy. Im sorry, im not going to make my life total hell to raise her kid the way she should be raising him in the 1st place.

Itd be a different story if the woman was faithful, or wasnt a total shitbag. Yeah the kid needs a dad, but at 1year old, if Im not the father and the women is already cheating on me, fuck you bitch, Im out.

No thanks.

I didn't say he should stay. I don't think he should, re read my posts. He has a bond with the child, I'm saying it's a stand up thing to do, if he does.

[lyquid]

I hae to keep reading post like these n get it through my head. Rly do. I am her second choice emotionally.

Leave the bitch, shes done it twice, shes going to do it again, only reason shes still with you is probably cause he wont take her/doesnt want her back, and there is no telling how many times she REALLY cheated on you.

You really want to be her second choice? Cause thats what you are. If shes emailing some other dude telling him she loves him behind your back, that makes you second fiddle.
Clearly the kids not yours.

Fuck that bitch, get away while you can, it will be 100x worse if you dont and the child gets older, especially when hes old enough to think youre the real dad, plus shell be able to take everything from you.

That women is an emotionally spoiled wreck, shes gonna jump ship the moment she can, girls dont email other guys and tell them they love them if theyre happy where theyre at or if theyre not planning on leaving.

Get out now.

P.S
There is a woman out there somewhere that wants to be with you, because she loves you, not some hoe that cant stand to be alone, so she uses you while she tries to get back with her ex or find someone knew.

[apply85]

how could u not know when the baby is black? wiggs is a motherfuckr