if u wanna get over this inhibition, read and consider what i say seriously
there are many ways to social power, many different kings of things u can leverage for it. right now you think you don't have it, right now i bet you are an exclusive rathern than an inclusive person, you are not so much sad but you aren't happy. people tell you to smile more often, right? well smiling is an assertion of social power believe it or not, and you think you don't have anything to give in return
but you do
rule #1: people are desperate at all times. women are nervous all the time no matter how much they front, being female means having no confidence basically, so acceptance is always welcome to a female, be accepting, look at every conversation as a way to give them confidence. showing affection and reassuring people is a resource just like money
after my friend died, who i didn't treat as well as i could, i felt guilty about not being accepting of her and turning her down when she showed me affection, now whenever i enter a social situation, i remind myself always make people feel comfortable, that's ur job, that's ur source of power in this situation, that's what i tell myself
there's no rule number two, what im saying is affection is a resource, oh, here's #2: people are liars. if u give them an opportunity to be dicks they will, they will look at u in a way to keep u in ur place, don't believe them. just because someone is ur boss at work doesn't mean u can't ask them, hey man how's ur day, u feeling good?
right now u have a problem of people keeping u in ur place, even ur friends do this, but u dont see it because they have leverage on u in that u need friends and u don't wanna piss them off. find new friends, be affectionate with them and they will give u power in their lives, you will get used to it and remember your old friends who you thought were cool and look at them differently
ur organism was put on this earth to attain and maintain power, this is never to be forgotten