So everytime you choose not to confront someome verbally thus leading to an eventual physical conflict you are "passive aggressive"? I guess we should all punch each others in the face everytime we disagree with each others? That would make us "alpha" ?
"Passive agressiveness" doesnt exist, it's not a personality, a caracther, trait, a behavior, it's at best a strategy of survival we re all meant one day or another to use in our existence to face difficult relationships with someone else who for some reasons has a problem with us. Often people have a problem with you or someone else cause you or this person remind them someone that harmed them psychologically or physically in the past. Often it's pure jealousy, envy, they would like you to give them what you have and what they dont, would like your attention, but dont know how to obtain it. And sometimes, they might be right and pointing at a real problematic -for the group- detail of your personnality.
Sometime to change someone else mind, cooperate with them, to survive, you have to make them figure what, how, they should change using psychological warfare. You can do it either in your own interest, or in the interest of others in the group. Or in the interest of everyone.
We all find allies, we all make friends with people who have similar upbringings, education , and we often face the same ennemies that ironically are often the reason why we ally together, in any given environment wether it's at school, at work, or any other random life situation.
As if we re all going to tell our boss, colleagues or family members why we think they are stupid, vain, malicious out of the blue, and if they re not ok with what we tell them we re going to fight physically after telling each others what we think of them to make our point. Which would also mean the strongest/heaviest one would always be right, and the weakest/lightest one would be wrong.
Fact is, sometimes the weak one is right and the strongest one is wrong, this is why weak ones need to develop brains and different, long lasting, strategies of survival instead of immediate physical confrontation. A perfect example of this on the international scale is how israel transformed sand in gold and how they survive facing millions of angry arab muslims using their brains and developing weapons and police/military tactics even being weaker.
Think David versus goliath.
We all have to adapt and make compromises to survive and evolve, reach our potential. Sometimes, someone else doesnt want us to reach that potential for some personal reasons.
Most of the time we adapt by being hypocrit, by ignoring, or by helping others or if needed by stepping on their heads to climb the ladder or just maintain our position in the pyramidal hierarchy of the group.
On a side note we all learn to know each others the more time we spend together, wether it's on the internet or in real life. At some point we all figure the strenghts and weaknesses of each others and are prone to push their buttons if needed or if we have nothing better to do.
