Date tonight. Question

[James28]

Let's see ..

She owned you before you even went out via e-mail: she made you feel like a used biotch who does not make enough money or can afford a nice place.

I bet my dollars to your "dough"NOTs that I'd fuck her easily. She'd become my biggest fan.

I also can afford a 400 $ night PLUS a cab lol ... while you need to empty your bank account. Yes she is out of your league pal.

She fucks guys like me while you settle for polish/romanian whores after you get blown off by the counter girl at your local kebab place.

Let us know when you break minimum wage so you can afford taking a chick out even if you just want to get laid. She smelled that you are weak and put you in your place before she even saw you  


PS: I don't live in "Craiova" and there is actually a wine place in my hometown that you couldn't probably afford either 

My post bothered you. I can tell

[James28]

Another romanian drug dealer, pickpocketer, baby-carrier-beggar. 

And window-washers at traffic lights. Try throwing them a pound coin and watch them brawl to get to it first. Great amusement 

[James28]

oh yes, that's the one, secrets @ swiss cottage, blew a ton of money at that place, oh my word, had a good time though

We go to one in the city, For Your Eyes Only in City Road of Old Street. Had our Christmas work do there in 2010. Just my department. Think we blew 11 grand in 5 hours. All paid for by the company off course. We took some clients as an excuse to pass it off as expenses though. Girls there would do extras too during lap dances.

[merrill1973]

Honest answer: that's a real bad thing for a broad to do, change your plans. You took the initiative, she should agree, not correct you. I'd cancel the date politely.

Totally agree.  You havent even been out on a date yet, and she is criticising your choice of location.  I dont like the sound of that.  Also, I remember my ex girlfriend saying on out very first date that she was " an old fashioned girl and expected the guy to pay"..... Unfortunatley she wasnt old fashioned enough to stay faithful whilst I was taking her out for dinner 3 times a week....

Avoid avoid avoid

Sorry!

As an aside, when I choose a date location, I always ask where the girl is coming from.  When she tells me I choose a place roughly half way between the two of us.. so I work in Canary wharf and she works in chelsea, I pick somewhere around leicester square / oxford street... If she says thats too far for her to travel or complains, I dont take her out... Its a sign of inflexibillity, and guess what, things aint gonna change..

[B_B_C]

So a buddy at work set me up with his girlfriend's ex-university class mate. She's 27 and in the same line of business as I am. Saw pic and she aint too bad. Rung her yesterday, got on well enough on the phone, so a date was arranged for tonight. I couldn't really tell her that all I want is to shove my dick up her, so for the moment I need to play along.
Anyway, emailed her this morning with a suggestion for a wine bar. Not too expensive but on the same hand, expensive enough to keep the common man away. She emailed me back an hour ago with another suggestion, a damn expensive one in Canary Wharf where all the banker city boys hangout. She also made an effort to clearly get across in the email that she's 'an old fashioned girl' that wants something a bit more 'romantic and with character'.

Does this mean she also expects me to pay for her?

she probably figured out you are just after sex. And seeing as that is the case ye are just discussing contract terms


and she also figured out your were the kind of fellow that need to run to a public forum because your not man enought to speak to some one face to face.

[Raymondo]

We go to one in the city, For Your Eyes Only in City Road of Old Street. Had our Christmas work do there in 2010. Just my department. Think we blew 11 grand in 5 hours. All paid for by the company off course. We took some clients as an excuse to pass it off as expenses though. Girls there would do extras too during lap dances.

why do I get this feeling you're an investment banker

[merrill1973]

Actually.... her name isnt Louise is it?  this really sounds like my ex gf....

In all fairness, I would reply to her email and say, forget the drink, its actually only a first meet up..  Lets just do coffee at starbucks and see if we have anything in common first of all.  If she says no then forget it.  She is after your wallet not you.  My guess is she wont even reply.. She is a Gold digger.  And highly unlikely that you will ever sleep with her.

The girl im dating now, I first met her in a quiet - not so expensive wine bar.  She arrived 15 minutes early, and text me asking what did I want to drink.. I replied and then when I arrived she was sitting at our table having bought a bottle of wine and two glasses... Thats what youre looking for my friend.

[tu_holmes]

I do not know the exact answer...but my response email would start with, "Bitch who the fuck do you think you are?"

This... but phrase it as "Bitch, who the fuck iz you!?"

[240 is Back]

The girl im dating now, I first met her in a quiet - not so expensive wine bar.  She arrived 15 minutes early, and text me asking what did I want to drink.. I replied and then when I arrived she was sitting at our table having bought a bottle of wine and two glasses... Thats what youre looking for my friend.

that's awesome right there.

[AlphaMaleDawg]

take her out for DRINKS not dinner, the more time you spend with her the more likelihood youll say something that will make her not want to sleep with you, ask her what time she eats, if she says "seven" say "ok, ill pick you up at 9 for some drinks", get her drunk on the least amount of money and liquid possible so shes not peeing every 5 minutes and youre not wasting time, when you leave take her directly to her place, dont stop at another bar, restaurant, etc.

he is actually 100% right. I laugh whenever someone takes a girl out to dinner on the first date. It's pathetic really, and the girl can sense it. NEVER do dinner on the first or even the second date

[merrill1973]

he is actually 100% right. I laugh whenever someone takes a girl out to dinner on the first date. It's pathetic really, and the girl can sense it. NEVER do dinner on the first or even the second date

ditto... Dinner on a first date spells out "desperation"... The first and second date are basically interviews...  Keep the cost down, but keep it fun.   if you get to the third date after doing that , chances are the girl likes you and is thinking of more to come.  Chances are also that something physical is or has already happened... then you can do dinner....

(I have spent many many pounds aquiring this knowledge!!!!)

[B_B_C]

If you treat some one as a deal or a commodity then you should not be hurt or surprised when they act like a commodity dealer

[240 is Back]

See, I dunno.... About the dinner thing...

IF You are a badass catch... If you're a single 30-something guy, and you're dating a series of divorced wives looking to get laid or for baby daddies...

Having an hour to talk to them can really reduce the RISK you will incur by taking a psycho home.  I mean, there will be times when a man should walk away from easy sex with a girl.  Get a few glasses of wine in her over dinner, and she'll get comfy.  She'll start telling you about her crazy ex in the military.  She'll tell you about how she's trying to get out of the gang life.  She'll tell you that meth is both good and bad, for the following reasons.  Or, "once I get my kids back from the state..."

There are times when you wanna make up a reason and bail.  If she is drama, and that BJ will also equal a pissed off guy from iraq going apeshit on your when you see them in Walmart and she points you out, well.....

[James28]

Interesting to hear all the opinions folks. Keep it coming. Good or bad, it's always a good laugh on here.  


In the end it's only myself that can decide what's acceptable for me or not. I'll never go above my socio-economic status and try and impress a broad by taking her somewhere I cannot afford on a regular basis. Only Eastern Europeans do that in the desperation to get someone to like them.  

I'm willing to bet any money that she was just chancing it to see what I'm willing to part with. Call it a test to see how easy it is to get into my wallet. British girls do that. Especially the type I associate with. E.g, the educated ones with options  . Maybe I should drop down in many classes, open the manhole, get into the gutter and date a Romanian?  .


PS. Who the hell said anything about dinner? I said a WINE BAR. The most you'll find to eat there is some cheesy snacks or maybe some olives.

[240 is Back]

men - you have a LOT to lose.

if a girl is 30 and she's single, there's a STRONG chance she is unstable in some way. 

[Voland]

Interesting to hear all the opinions folks. Keep it coming. Good or bad, it's always a good laugh on here. 


In the end it's only myself that can decide what's acceptable for me or not. I'll never go above my socio-economic status and try and impress a broad by taking her somewhere I cannot afford on a regular basis. Only Eastern Europeans do that in the desperation to get someone to like them. 

I'm willing to bet any money that she was just chancing it to see what I'm willing to part with. Call it a test to see how easy it is to get into my wallet. British girls do that. Especially the type I associate with. E.g, the educated ones with options  . Maybe I should drop down in class, open the manhole, get into the gutter and date a Romanian?  .


PS. Who the hell said anything about dinner? I said a WINE BAR. The most you'll find to eat there is some cheesy snacks or maybe some olives.

I always date girls above my economic status. Not like that is hard at all. I like it. They pay everything and never complain.

[James28]

I always date girls above my economic status. Not like that is hard at all. I like it. They pay everything and never complain.

Around here it's only old broads that has the money. The type that took hubby nr5 for 30mil last year. Would find it hard boning a 50+ yr old.

[Raymondo]

See, I dunno.... About the dinner thing...

IF You are a badass catch... If you're a single 30-something guy, and you're dating a series of divorced wives looking to get laid or for baby daddies...

Having an hour to talk to them can really reduce the RISK you will incur by taking a psycho home.  I mean, there will be times when a man should walk away from easy sex with a girl.  Get a few glasses of wine in her over dinner, and she'll get comfy.  She'll start telling you about her crazy ex in the military.  She'll tell you about how she's trying to get out of the gang life.  She'll tell you that meth is both good and bad, for the following reasons.  Or, "once I get my kids back from the state..."

There are times when you wanna make up a reason and bail.  If she is drama, and that BJ will also equal a pissed off guy from iraq going apeshit on your when you see them in Walmart and she points you out, well.....

dude, your trailer park stories are always so interesting

[Voland]

Around here it's only old broads that has the money. The type that took hubby nr5 for 30mil last year. Would find it hard boning a 50+ yr old.

I never said BIG money. I said more money than me.  I do date older girls though in their 30's aprox.

[HTexan]

So a buddy at work set me up with his girlfriend's ex-university class mate. She's 27 and in the same line of business as I am. Saw pic and she aint too bad. Rung her yesterday, got on well enough on the phone, so a date was arranged for tonight. I couldn't really tell her that all I want is to shove my dick up her, so for the moment I need to play along.
Anyway, emailed her this morning with a suggestion for a wine bar. Not too expensive but on the same hand, expensive enough to keep the common man away. She emailed me back an hour ago with another suggestion, a damn expensive one in Canary Wharf where all the banker city boys hangout. She also made an effort to clearly get across in the email that she's 'an old fashioned girl' that wants something a bit more 'romantic and with character'.

Does this mean she also expects me to pay for her?

she is testing you to see if your cheap or she wants a man to support her. When you go on the date. Ask her questions on the low, like if you plans on quitting her job to raise a family. What is trying to do career wise. that will answer the last question. The first question is a little more tricky. Ask her questions like when was the last time she been there. See if she orders the most $$$ Items.
most women with order in the middle price range on the menu so the dont look cheap or gold digger.

[V Man]

Well if you have already decided to turn her down anyway, and I don't blame you, you could try this approach, after all, you have nothing to lose right?

Email her back and say, "Well to be perfectly honest, that place is a bit more pricey than what I can afford." There is a small chance she may respect you for coming out and telling the truth. Also, doing that you are now putting her on the spot, because if she refuses to go out with you after saying that she is revealing herself to be the snobbish bitch she is.


Or, you could tell her that you had a bad experience at that place before....The waitress spilled a drink in your lap and refused to give you head in order to make up for it.  

[240 is Back]

dude, your trailer park stories are always so interesting

its true tho.  you can't trust em.  i never do the one-night stand things.  too many cases of dudes getting smoked by the husband, after the wife used you to piss him off.

you should be looking at her ring finger for tan lines within 30 seconds of meeting her.  it's easy enough for an in-shape guy with an education and a little bit of game to find a girl or two to have sex with on a regular basis.  NO NEED to risk crazy or drama chicks.

[Raymondo]

its true tho.  you can't trust em.  i never do the one-night stand things.  too many cases of dudes getting smoked by the husband, after the wife used you to piss him off.

you should be looking at her ring finger for tan lines within 30 seconds of meeting her.  it's easy enough for an in-shape guy with an education and a little bit of game to find a girl or two to have sex with on a regular basis.  NO NEED to risk crazy or drama chicks.

dude, so many wannabe experts on this thread, you're the secret expert

[240 is Back]

Men should masturbate before making any decision in life regarding a woman.
With that bullet in your chamber, you're never 100% rational.
It's safe to say about 20 seconds after you bust, you are the wisest man on earth.

Listen to this song - start to finish - particular the last verse.   

[Stavios]

Honest answer: that's a real bad thing for a broad to do, change your plans. You took the initiative, she should agree, not correct you. I'd cancel the date politely.

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