Author Topic: How often do you find yourself comparing with others. (Read 3148 times)

MikMaq · « **on:** June 02, 2012, 03:25:42 PM »

Real simple, how often do you find yourself comparing yourself with others. I've just spent the last month with a bunch of people 4 years younger than, kinda weird, I'm 25 man, and hearing people talk about how drunk they got last weekend really grinds my gears.

P.S. if your gonna pretend your a man on an island and don't need to compare eat shit and die.

MikMaq · « **Reply #1 on:** June 02, 2012, 03:44:36 PM »

Quote from: Psychopath on June 02, 2012, 03:33:17 PM

Like comparing cock size?

Just stupid, these people mostly chicks, random shit I don't care about. Blabbing about stupid tv shows, what they did that weekend, and all this other random crap. People that are totally obsessed with social status, when their nothing but middle class nothings.

_bruce_ · « **Reply #2 on:** June 02, 2012, 04:08:15 PM »

In weaker phases more often than in stronger.

King Shizzo · « **Reply #3 on:** June 02, 2012, 04:10:25 PM »

Quote from: MikMaq on June 02, 2012, 03:44:36 PM

Just stupid, these people mostly chicks, random shit I don't care about. Blabbing about stupid tv shows, what they did that weekend, and all this other random crap. People that are totally obsessed with social status, when their nothing but middle class nothings.

Sons and Daughters............... .....

Marty Champions · « **Reply #4 on:** June 02, 2012, 04:15:08 PM »

Quote from: MikMaq on June 02, 2012, 03:25:42 PM

Real simple, how often do you find yourself comparing yourself with others. I've just spent the last month with a bunch of people 4 years younger than, kinda weird, I'm 25 man, and hearing people talk about how drunk they got last weekend really grinds my gears.

P.S. if your gonna pretend your a man on an island and don't need to compare eat shit and die.

people are much better on there own, in groups people try to make others feel happy and try to leave a few out to form closer bonds with the few

you are much better off on your own

King Shizzo · « **Reply #5 on:** June 02, 2012, 04:17:04 PM »

Quote from: Johnny Falcon on June 02, 2012, 04:15:08 PM

people are much better on there own, in groups people try to make others feel happy and try to leave a few out to form closer bonds with the few

you are much better off on your own

Johnny have you tried bath salts before?

MikMaq · « **Reply #6 on:** June 02, 2012, 04:17:21 PM »

Quote from: Johnny Falcon on June 02, 2012, 04:15:08 PM

people are much better on there own, in groups people try to make others feel happy and try to leave a few out to form closer bonds with the few

you are much better off on your own

Meh i don't mind being around people, I just don't want there baggage. Some people just seem set on though, I detest taking interest in things because of someone else, if I like it I like it if I don't I don't.

lovemonkey · « **Reply #7 on:** June 02, 2012, 04:25:32 PM »

I'm giving lesser and lesser of a shit what people do and think and very rarely do I find anyone to be interesting. I have no trouble being social with people but when I am I'm not being genuine. I don't care about them and how they compare to me. Their lives are completely irrelevant to me. If I compare myself to anyone, it would be me. How can I be better at something than I was yesterday? etc

On a random note, I think I'm slowly but surely going insane. You know it's bad when you stop caring about your own family... which is bad in itself, but what makes it even worse is that you can't get away from the fact that as a human you constantly need to socialize in one way or another or otherwise you'd go completely bonkers. So on the one hand I don't give a shit about people and what they think but at the same time I can't get away from the fact that I need them around me. But eventually ones attitude pushes people away and after a while you find yourself in a situation that I guess you could call lonely. Hopefully it's just a phase.

//gibberish

MikMaq · « **Reply #8 on:** June 02, 2012, 04:28:03 PM »

Quote from: lovemonkey on June 02, 2012, 04:25:32 PM

I'm giving lesser and lesser of a shit what people do and think and very rarely do I find anyone to be interesting. I have no trouble being social with people but when I am I'm not being genuine. I don't care about them and how they compare to me. Their lives are completely irrelevant to me. If I compare myself to anyone, it would be me. How can I be better at something than I was yesterday? etc

On a random note, I think I'm slowly but surely going insane. You know it's bad when you stop caring about your own family... which is bad in itself, but what makes it even worse is that you can't get away from the fact that as a human you constantly need to socialize in one way or another or otherwise you'd go completely bonkers. So on the one hand I don't give a shit about people and what they think but at the same time I can't get away from the fact that I need them around me. But eventually ones attitude pushes people away and after a while you find yourself in a situation that I guess you could call lonely. Hopefully it's just a phase.

//gibberish

Meh I'll agree with the first paragraph, but I do care about other people. If they wanna talk about there family, there problems, real shit, I'm ok, but it's the second they start talking about where there from, or the trivial shit they did last weekend I tune out.

Irongrip400 · « **Reply #9 on:** June 02, 2012, 04:30:58 PM »

Nobody compares to me. But, seriously though, find new people to hang with, you've gone past the comfort zone of the generation gap. You need to hang with people closer to your age and who have common interests. It probably made you feel a bit old.

King Shizzo · « **Reply #10 on:** June 02, 2012, 04:46:27 PM »

Quote from: lovemonkey on June 02, 2012, 04:25:32 PM

I'm giving lesser and lesser of a shit what people do and think and very rarely do I find anyone to be interesting. I have no trouble being social with people but when I am I'm not being genuine. I don't care about them and how they compare to me. Their lives are completely irrelevant to me. If I compare myself to anyone, it would be me. How can I be better at something than I was yesterday? etc

On a random note, I think I'm slowly but surely going insane. You know it's bad when you stop caring about your own family... which is bad in itself, but what makes it even worse is that you can't get away from the fact that as a human you constantly need to socialize in one way or another or otherwise you'd go completely bonkers. So on the one hand I don't give a shit about people and what they think but at the same time I can't get away from the fact that I need them around me. But eventually ones attitude pushes people away and after a while you find yourself in a situation that I guess you could call lonely. Hopefully it's just a phase.

//gibberish

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MikMaq · « **Reply #11 on:** June 02, 2012, 04:51:48 PM »

Quote from: irongrip400 on June 02, 2012, 04:30:58 PM

Nobody compares to me. But, seriously though, find new people to hang with, you've gone past the comfort zone of the generation gap. You need to hang with people closer to your age and who have common interests. It probably made you feel a bit old.

It's people I goto school with, so I have to network with them and pretend to care. I guess this is just common coworker shit. But fuck these kids just don't get the lack of interest I have in there drinking stories. Seriously I'm not a drunk but I've blacked out more times than I can count, but I sure as hell do not wanna fucking talk about it.

Nirvana · « **Reply #12 on:** June 02, 2012, 06:06:59 PM »

Quote from: lovemonkey on June 02, 2012, 04:25:32 PM

I'm giving lesser and lesser of a shit what people do and think and very rarely do I find anyone to be interesting. I have no trouble being social with people but when I am I'm not being genuine. I don't care about them and how they compare to me. Their lives are completely irrelevant to me. If I compare myself to anyone, it would be me. How can I be better at something than I was yesterday? etc

On a random note, I think I'm slowly but surely going insane. You know it's bad when you stop caring about your own family... which is bad in itself, but what makes it even worse is that you can't get away from the fact that as a human you constantly need to socialize in one way or another or otherwise you'd go completely bonkers. So on the one hand I don't give a shit about people and what they think but at the same time I can't get away from the fact that I need them around me. But eventually ones attitude pushes people away and after a while you find yourself in a situation that I guess you could call lonely. Hopefully it's just a phase.

//gibberish

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SF1900 · « **Reply #13 on:** June 02, 2012, 06:27:16 PM »

I agree with lovemonkey. As Ive gotten older, Ive cared less and less what people think and have found no reason to compare myself to them. For example, I couldn't careless what some random person is thinking or feeling about me, or whether or not they are better than me. Back in the day I cared a lot, but I think as you get older, you realize who are the people close to you, which means a lot of other people become irrelevant, hence the lack of desire to compare myself to them. I only want to feel relevant and important in certain peoples eyes, which makes comparing myself to others pretty pointless.

Irongrip400 · « **Reply #14 on:** June 03, 2012, 06:10:59 AM »

Quote from: SF1900 on June 02, 2012, 06:27:16 PM

I agree with lovemonkey. As Ive gotten older, Ive cared less and less what people think and have found no reason to compare myself to them. For example, I couldn't careless what some random person is thinking or feeling about me, or whether or not they are better than me. Back in the day I cared a lot, but I think as you get older, you realize who are the people close to you, which means a lot of other people become irrelevant, hence the lack of desire to compare myself to them. I only want to feel relevant and important in certain peoples eyes, which makes comparing myself to others pretty pointless.

This is the same mentality that eventually leads to being 50 and standing in the gym locker room naked. Just saying.

mass243 · « **Reply #15 on:** June 03, 2012, 06:25:36 AM »

Quote from: SF1900 on June 02, 2012, 06:27:16 PM

I agree with lovemonkey. As Ive gotten older, Ive cared less and less what people think and have found no reason to compare myself to them. For example, I couldn't careless what some random person is thinking or feeling about me, or whether or not they are better than me. Back in the day I cared a lot, but I think as you get older, you realize who are the people close to you, which means a lot of other people become irrelevant, hence the lack of desire to compare myself to them. I only want to feel relevant and important in certain peoples eyes, which makes comparing myself to others pretty pointless.

wise words right there.

Insecurity usually fades away while you age. That's one of the very few benefits of becoming old fart

_bruce_ · « **Reply #16 on:** June 03, 2012, 06:49:00 AM »

Quote from: mass243 on June 03, 2012, 06:25:36 AM

wise words right there.

Insecurity usually fades away while you age. That's one of the very few benefits of becoming old fart

x2

SF1900 · « **Reply #17 on:** June 03, 2012, 07:36:23 AM »

Quote from: irongrip400 on June 03, 2012, 06:10:59 AM

This is the same mentality that eventually leads to being 50 and standing in the gym locker room naked. Just saying.

I dont get it? Are you implying that not caring will eventually lead one to being alone, and doing "things"? Id say that caring what everyone thinks will eventually drive you mad, in which you will wind up alone anyway.

SF1900 · « **Reply #18 on:** June 03, 2012, 07:38:07 AM »

Quote from: mass243 on June 03, 2012, 06:25:36 AM

wise words right there.

Insecurity usually fades away while you age. That's one of the very few benefits of becoming old fart

haha lol. I am in my early 30's, but I definitely have a different outlook compared to when I was in my teens and early twenties. You eventually stop caring what EVERYONE thinks. IT takes up too much energy.

dr.chimps · « **Reply #19 on:** June 03, 2012, 07:42:36 AM »

'It is not enough to succeed. Others must fail.' Gore Vidal

Ursus · « **Reply #20 on:** June 03, 2012, 07:56:28 AM »

Kevin Chang

chaos · « **Reply #21 on:** June 03, 2012, 09:10:19 AM »

Lol @ comparing yourself to others .....kid I just started training does this, always pointing out if he lifts more or less than others. I think it's funny, cause I don't do that kind of stuff.

gracie bjj · « **Reply #22 on:** June 03, 2012, 09:22:53 AM »

i used to do it to in my younger years also but imo its not a healthy practice mentally

bradistani · « **Reply #23 on:** June 03, 2012, 09:44:13 AM »

fortunately, the older you get, the less of a fuck you give about whqt people think about you. and even less of a fuck in trying to measure yourself against others.

MikMaq · « **Reply #24 on:** June 03, 2012, 09:52:02 AM »

Quote from: mass243 on June 03, 2012, 06:25:36 AM

wise words right there.

Insecurity usually fades away while you age. That's one of the very few benefits of becoming old fart

meh I was scared shitless of getting older in my early 20's, maturity was something I just didn't get. Now I've come to realize maturity is all about not giving a fuck, since then I've been able to cut my work load/budget in half, by not giving a fuck about others, it's fucking great.