I consider myself a middle ground kind of guy. In those inevitable instances of differing preferences, I just want the same deference I'm willing to give to make someone I care about happy. I'm a pretty boring dude (a sin in itself, perhaps the worst one) and most of my demands revolve around not encroaching on time I require for work with undiscussed you're-volunteered social obligations. What I won't accept is a my way or the highway attitude and a guilt trip, since I wouldn't do that to her if the situation were reversed. Not exactly a Bad Boy ethos.
I'm sure you told her you weren't interested for whatever reason, wasn't your kind of scene, etc, and weren't a dick about it. I'm having a hard time seeing you as having done something wrong for saying you'd rather not attend. She should have listened to your reasons and not elevated this thing to some pivotal point of contention. Either of you could have suggested an alternative (and I'm willing to bet you did since you seem like an accomodating guy when it comes to women). Then you'd remember it all as the time you realized she was as reasonable as you and was equally interested in finding middle ground, rather than recalling it as the time you misbehaved because you didn't do as you were told, got punished, and successfully restored amends with someone who insists on having her way without account to your preference. Yes, I may be projecting here, just a little bit.
In b4 TA's 2012 Hidden Treasures wine recommendations.
No, actually...i had a "dick" moment, and told her i would go, and then completely blew that shit off.
It was more than just being a dick, to be serious. We were just starting out, and it was ME who decided to "test the waters" on what i could get away with, and what she would tolerate.
There is always going to be one person who holds the upper hand in a relationship, especially in the early stages before things get real... and i prefer it's me.
You are right, i am very accommodating, and a thoughtful person....I am not an asshole or a scumbag...but at the same time, I'm going to have my "Greg" moments (very rarely) where i do what the fuck I want, and fuck everyone......Nothing serious, I don't cheat, or disappear for days..but i have my way about me,.
it's always been that way. and it was my brilliant idea to pull a power trip and blow her off, to set the precedent i always have. and this is more subconscious than anything...i can analyze it now, years later...at the time it was not so calculated. And she smacked that shit back across the net like Andre Agassi, i was like "fuck, this girl doesn't play"
so, in summation, i was the asshole and got what i deserved
