Wiggs, what the hell is with you dating trashy ladies with kids? And ones who aren't that smart, or rich, to boot? I just don't get you man.
Let me spell it out: you're a good looking, intelligent young man. You can have pretty much any woman you want. Why aren't you aiming higher? You are getting older, so you won't look good forever. Snag a hard-working professional woman who makes good money on her own. If she's white, be her black man that she's always wanted so she can prove to her friends she's socially open to the world...someone to add some spice to her otherwise normal boring corporate life...her last gasp at rebellion. Or show a professional black girl that she can have it all - a great job, and a good looking intelligent black man by her side. The odds of them being sans-kids goes up, because they were too career focused to have kids. And if they do have kids, they're probably more apt to be responsible, structured with their finances, moderately healthy financially from the previous divorce, and organized. Their presence could pull you up with them. Plus, they're more likely to have the professional contacts you can use to leverage your own career aspirations.
Plus, these women are more likely to appreciate you for what you know and can bring to the relationship and can challenge a smart man to be greater.
Why must you debase yourself with women below your rank? I'll never get it...you should be trading up, not down. Think business here man...these next moves are as much about the financial outcome as they are about the emotional outcome.
If you can have any woman you want, why not have the best of the best? You puzzle me...unless you're just out tom-catting and sewing some oats like a wild young man. In that case, pay attention to what falcon and tbombz say. Crazy trashy women will bring you down with them...they have problems. Likely problems with men. They see men as oppressors and abusers. And the minute they get drunk, they'll make a scene and claim you smacked them (like every other man before you) and get you hauled away in a squad car for the drama and "woe is me" of it all. They thrive off it. It will ruin you. Just scrape together $100 and go the rub and tug. No drama, and you can leave it all behind when you're done.