Married now for four years and the best decision I ever made - of course we fight and argue but it never has that mean spirit it has in a relationship were there is no love.
She is the best woman I ever meet and probably ever will meet, she is a spectacular mother and hopefully will give me another nordic son in April next year.
Our relationship has never gone slow or something its still as funny and silly and lovable as it was before, I think the reason is that we got married after knowing each other for a year - we just both said, fuck it lets do it if it doesn't work out we get divorced lol.
I took her on two vacations before and pretty much got to know her on good and bad times - vacations (not the usualy package holiday but a bit more rought and tumble) are awesome to get to know somebody - but the real test comes when the boredom of the daily grind sets in.
Today we make a point every week we have a date night - kid is in bed we take over the house - eat well drink fuck watch TV with big chocolate mugs what ever makes us happy.
Once a week on weekend we set up a yard stick of culture - we go to a museum or an art gallery something the little guy can have a good time to - last week we went to Glendalough and later to the national military museum.
Relationships don't stay healty by itself, you have to grow with it - if you stay the childish uneductated boy she got to know a few years back chances are you will not make it - but if you find a way to grow with the relationship but stay true to yourself you are on the road to success.
one thing I need to add, for some reason (and that might be a reason why things work out well apose to most friends we have) things are never boring here - and we are not trying too hard to make life spectactular its just that I can be a fucking child and as my wife puts it - For my husband the world is always "new"
- and I do a lot of unpredictable and sometimes stupid stuff but it keeps us guessing, she is on the other hand extremly unpredictable at what project she is working on - so I guess its never really boring.
Plus we have both families in different countries so we travel at least 4 times year alone to our families not even vacation, that takes a lot of planing and preperation and of course we see always new things.
So I guess if It all boils down to its probably boredom that kills most relationshiops