Our biggest issue is that I have a life outside of us and she doesn't. She refuses to take care of herself or find a hobby or an activity where she can socialize. She won't go out with our friends and won't let me without holding it over me for weeks. She also wants a baby ASAP, and while I'm not against it, I'm not willing to have one now because our situation is so bad. We have had sex 4 times in 2 months, and now she wants to threaten me by saying she's not going to give me any if I don't quit the gym. Not that I care anymore, the times we do she just lays there.
1. Explain to her that the gym is tied to your health and your health should be considered the most important thing in your life, which it no doubt is. Mentally and physically speaking.
2. It sounds to me she wants to have a baby for the sole reason that she may think it will force you under her control. It seems that its the lack of control that she has issues with. She wants more control over you than she currently has. This is not fair. Don`t have a baby for this reason (don`t have one for any reason in my opinion). Ask her point blank what her intentions are.
3. Let her threaten. Who cares. Just go about your business as usual.