Are you seriously trying to pin the blame on the girls father?
Did I say that? Dude is of course wrong for doing what he did...and he of course will be dealt with, accordingly.
But, why did she pick that type of dude? Hmmm, I am willing to bet that her father, and the media helped in her decision. A dude on here even stated that after his girlfriend's friends watch an epi of the Kim K show, that they wanted a "real black man". And what is that, well that is code for "thug", "hoodlum", etc. It's the 'excitment' they say.
And when you get that type of man, you get all the trappings of that lifestyle. And many of these women get surprised when things happened to them---even knowing that the same things happened to other women, "oh but I'm diff", they say. You see this time and time again...meanwhile, they'll bypass the black dude into his studies, or hobbies (until they see he's making money), claim that he's "not real".
***I swear that you people of gen x and y have this mentality that "I am not responsible for my own decisions, and that nothing is my fault, even though I know that doing certain things are wrong. the onus is not on me to make the best decisions for myself, and use my head, because if something bad does happen to me, It is NEVER my fault of whatever predicament."
"If I go to a bad neighborhood in the middle of the night to buy drugs, and I short the dealer, it's not my fault that i get shot. I mean, I didn't know that he'd have a gun, and i should be able to go into a bad neighborhood at neight and buy drugs, without fearing for my safety."
People need to realize the onus is you to make decisions on who you date, associate with. If a person commits an act against you, that is the perp's fault. But when you put yourself in a bad situation, and you know about it, please come to getbig, they'll say that the blame is entirely on the perp, never the victim, because victims never make their own decisions (in certain situations).
