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« on: November 14, 2012, 06:46:14 PM »

A guy you are dating confesses to using hookers etc, when he is single.  Is that a deal breaker?  Any difference between that or a guy sleeping with a lot of women?  Dating is getting me nothing, so I am figuring it's cheaper and faster to just get a hooker until I find a good girl.  Thoughts?
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« Reply #1 on: November 15, 2012, 06:02:55 AM »

A guy you are dating confesses to using hookers etc, when he is single.  Is that a deal breaker?  Any difference between that or a guy sleeping with a lot of women?  Dating is getting me nothing, so I am figuring it's cheaper and faster to just get a hooker until I find a good girl.  Thoughts?


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« Reply #2 on: November 15, 2012, 08:46:10 AM »

Not sure just saying.  I mean she could liquor you up, or maybe you believe in the honesty is the best policy crap.  Not that I am doing it but seems tempting lol.
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« Reply #3 on: November 15, 2012, 03:46:31 PM »

A guy you are dating confesses to using hookers etc, when he is single.  Is that a deal breaker?  Any difference between that or a guy sleeping with a lot of women?  Dating is getting me nothing, so I am figuring it's cheaper and faster to just get a hooker until I find a good girl.  Thoughts?

A girl you are dating confesses to being a hooker etc, when she was single.  Is that a deal breaker?  Any difference between that or a girl sleeping with a lot of guys?  Dating is getting her nothing, so she's  figuring it's an easy way to make some cash until she finds a good guy.  Thoughts?
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« Reply #4 on: November 16, 2012, 12:26:07 PM »

was she a high paid escort?  These things matter!  What I posted was a conversation that came up during dinner with friends.  I think certian things should be kept quiet.
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« Reply #5 on: November 16, 2012, 06:25:41 PM »

A guy you are dating confesses to using hookers etc, when he is single.  Is that a deal breaker?  Any difference between that or a guy sleeping with a lot of women?  Dating is getting me nothing, so I am figuring it's cheaper and faster to just get a hooker until I find a good girl.  Thoughts?

I'm from the midwest, (small city) and around here hookers are definitely out of the question.  I mean there's no doubt they're all old as hell and disease ridden drug addicts.  

In other places though, do common, decent guys really buy hookers?  

Don't mean to sound naive.
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« Reply #6 on: November 16, 2012, 06:55:42 PM »

I would be really turned off.  There are men out there who see prostitutes while being in a relationship and this would always be at the back of my mind too...is he seeing a hooker while dating me?  I don't sleep with a guy straight up or on the first date so if he said he saw prostitutes, I would think he was very possibly seeing them while getting to know me/early stages of a relationship.
Also I don't want any diseases and even if he was using condoms I still see prostitutes as high risk.  I prefer a man to use his hand to tie him over any dry spells. 
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« Reply #7 on: November 16, 2012, 10:36:04 PM »

.  I prefer a man to use his hand to tie him over any dry spells. 

i'm starting fires over here then
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« Reply #8 on: November 17, 2012, 12:20:41 AM »

i'm starting fires over here then
Haha   Grin  Well you're going into winter, so fire to keep you warm might be a good thing then. 
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« Reply #9 on: November 17, 2012, 09:27:31 AM »

If you have been with a pro do not tell a new woman you meet...common sense tells you it will not be cool. I understand what your saying but a lot of women will think of disease and that the pro/hooker has slept with lots of people before you and then she will think "did he use protection"? she might think you just think women are sex objects like most men do with hookers and she will feel dirty and used. Keep your secrets to yourself...use your head  Wink
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« Reply #10 on: November 17, 2012, 10:04:37 AM »

A guy you are dating confesses to using hookers etc, when he is single.  Is that a deal breaker?  Any difference between that or a guy sleeping with a lot of women?  Dating is getting me nothing, so I am figuring it's cheaper and faster to just get a hooker until I find a good girl.  Thoughts?

You know very well that no woman who is serious about having a relationship with you wants to hear that you have this in your past.  It signals that you are very ready to separate sex from intimacy, objectify women, and pay for sex.  This may, in fact, be true of most men, but a sensible woman would rightly balk at the prospect of dating you if she knew this about you.  Choices have consequences.  If you choose to go down this path make peace with the fact that a certain strata of quality women will be unavailable to you.  You may be perfectly fine with that, but the fact that you pose the question suggests that you would not be ok with that.  People (men and women) will certainly judge you if they know this about you.  Sad
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« Reply #11 on: November 18, 2012, 10:59:33 AM »

While finishing up degree number two, there was a young woman in my class who was a former stripper. She was very attractive, had a great build, a wonderful personality (despite being immature for her age - 26), and was very fond of me. I got to know her a little and finally asked her out. We were all set until, several days before, I discovered she had a "serious" boyfriend. She honestly was perplexed as to why I called things off; I really questioned her loyalty at this point - more to come shortly. She genuinely "dug me" and the fact that I was a better choice than her current, who I soon found out was into drugs and a plethora of other bad lifestyle choices.

We remained "school friends" while I kept her at arm's length. She still liked & trusted me and quickly opened up to me about some of her other problems that included, but were not limited to:
2 long-term relationships with heroin-users
her own (recurring) heroin use
having an abortion
stalkers from her "club"
firearms
an assault hearing
never having a "regular" job
and, maybe a few more that escape my mind at the moment.

Many "dancers" have a reputation for engaging in certain "side-jobs" of questionable legality in most states. She never mentioned doing that along with the above stuff, but before all of this, that possiblity weighed on my mind in so far as how involved I was willing to get with her. I knew she genuinely was trying to turn her life around early on, and so I was willing to give her a chance before making a final decision. In the end, I'm glad I didn't pursue anything more with her.

Anyway, in answer to the OP, YES - for me, something like that is a dealbreaker.
While mine is an extreme case, certain characteristics and practices don't always, but often accompany others.
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« Reply #12 on: November 18, 2012, 12:44:25 PM »

I would be really turned off.  There are men out there who see prostitutes while being in a relationship and this would always be at the back of my mind too...is he seeing a hooker while dating me?  I don't sleep with a guy straight up or on the first date so if he said he saw prostitutes, I would think he was very possibly seeing them while getting to know me/early stages of a relationship.
Also I don't want any diseases and even if he was using condoms I still see prostitutes as high risk.  I prefer a man to use his hand to tie him over any dry spells. 

I find this to be shallow reasoning, but maybe it's just me.
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« Reply #13 on: November 18, 2012, 04:08:42 PM »


I find this to be shallow reasoning, but maybe it's just me.

How so?  I don't want to date/have a relationship with a man who is seeing prostitutes on the side.   I like monogomy.  Plus my romantic side would like to think that while he was getting to know me, he was focused on me and not off having sex with other people.  If that's shallow then so be it.  
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« Reply #14 on: November 18, 2012, 05:02:22 PM »

x2 Booty cried to Ron to have my post removed. But I tottaly agree with you Princess.


I read your earlier post.
You're certainly entitled to your opinion, but IMO, it is too big a leap to compare conventional prostitution to a web-cam show.
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« Reply #15 on: November 18, 2012, 05:10:44 PM »

And you are to. Guys paying you to strip and do more on cam, and to come across like she likes monogomy. You are the "few" older gettbiggers who is blind by her.


I don't know booty, and I don't know that I've ever interacted with her, or even discussed her prior to now on this site.
My observation is based solely on the comparison made in your deleted post, and I would make the same claim if it was anyone else conducting the web-cam shows.
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« Reply #16 on: November 18, 2012, 06:11:58 PM »

How so?  I don't want to date/have a relationship with a man who is seeing prostitutes on the side.   I like monogomy.  Plus my romantic side would like to think that while he was getting to know me, he was focused on me and not off having sex with other people.  If that's shallow then so be it.  

It has to do with character, values, morals and respect for oneself...

Johnny,  your posts were removed because you are not an approved poster on this board.  Sorry.
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« Reply #17 on: November 18, 2012, 06:22:11 PM »


It has to do with character, values, morals and respect for oneself...

Johnny,  your posts were removed because you are not an approved poster on this board.  Sorry.


ok no worries Elle
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