No one is advocating going around punching people in the mouth for every perceived slight, but unfortunately there comes a time in just about every person's life where you find yourself in a situation where you can be a total bitch, or you can stick up for yourself or someone you love. and you aren't thinking about the consequences, it usually happens fast and you are in it before you know it. it's part of life.
Agree, I grew up in NY, went to clubs in NY, the amount of issues you can get caught up in an environment where you have a huge mix of all different kinds of races, cultures all living one on top of each other, is insane.
But I also saw so many get caught up in the legal system, over pure BS, it's terrible what it does to a person and their family, it's a way harder thing to deal with then walking away from someone talking smack.
But yeah, even calm collective people get pushed to their limits here.