My son is 15 and ever since he has been able to understand, the one thing me and his mother (step) have instilled that best way to stay out of trouble is to teach abstinence. Except for this year, he has always gone to a Christian school where abstinence is taught. Does this insure it won't happen? Of course not, but odds are it will not. Now that he's in a public school with 3000 students as opposed to 660, the odds of temptation are greater, of course. But as long as it was INSTILLED at a younger age, he knows what the life consequences are if he does get a girl pregnant and he also knows and agrees that abortion is NOT an option.
Unfortunately, most public schools do not teach this but rather teach the alternative which is to protect yourself. If you're going to teach one you should teach the other. Period. IMO, this is giving up on the kid by thinking that the biological outcome is inevitable and sex is automatically going to happen no matter what, nothing could be further from the truth despite what some of the psychological studies suggest.
No one asking a kid to live like a monk, all we're asking them to be responsible and keep in their pants. Most of the kids I know, including my son, are bogged down with too much other bullshit anyway. Example, my kids schedule goes like this, School, out of school by 1:30, 1:40-5:00 is baseball practice and games twice during the week, 6-8:00pm is training and rehab, 8:30-10:30 homework. Weekends, training, hitting, catching practice, time with friends, Sundays, hang out with friends.
I'm sorry, but how is that a life? That is fucking brutal regimen, why do you put him through all of this? For what purpose?
I had plenty of time when I was young. When I was 15 I was going through usual "tough" period - alcohol, disobedience etc. I never had problems with my parents though, they never made me do anything that didn't make any sense at all and always told me to question EVERYTHING. That's why I nearly got kicked out of a school (despite having best average grades in school)
I have friends like this. Do you know what happens 10 years later? I drink once in a month, I easily control myself when I'm drunk and know when to stop. I've been there, done that years before everyone else. What happened to good kids whose parents ensured they have every second of their life occupied?
Drugs, alcohol abuse, 1 week long relationships, total fucking chaos and dropping out of a school. Of course that's not a rule, merely a tendency I observed. It's quite logical when you think about it. I was taught how to live as a free man who makes his own decisions. Your kids are slaves. You fed them with religious dogmas they will sooner or later find out to be absolute bullshit.
