she started being a bitch and went a bit crazy and then i went a bit crazy
throwing around insults pretty much it was pretty rough
i called her a fat pig etc 
but then after the fella sorted it out i bought little anabolic a winny the poo teddybear and bought his mother a bag of potato chips and a six pack of energy drinks
and then cooked dinner
again she has prevailed as alpha status it seems 
There's a difference between being Alpha male, and being rude or inconsiderate.
You still can be alpha Anabolichalo, while being considerate, which perhaps you have done, yet the full story has yet to be told, so it is too early to draw conclusions.