TIME Magazine Glamorizes Life Without Children

[Tedim]

hahahaaaa.

Man sometimes your just the stereotypical frazzled dad, thinking "WTF was I thinking...this kid is going to give me a stroke."

have yours "made you breakfast" yet ?  that's always an adventure.

No, but I dread the day.....have 5 fire extinguishers at the house just for such special occasion. And I know what you mean....my wife was watching the 3 of them kill each other over what TV show they were going to watch suddenly turned to me and said...."I was a professional athlete and a dentist" with a befuddled look....I just started lol'ing uncontrollably.....

[DroppingPlates]

I always wanted children. I have a four month old, and plan on having at least one more, if not two more. The fact is, it might be hubris on my part, but I was someone's child, so it's not like I can say its a bad thing to have a child. The only thing, you have to be prepared. Not to toot my own horn, as I'm sure there are a lot of get biggers, as well as a ton of other people, but my wife and I are pretty intelligent people and are reasonably successful. We are the types of folks who need to be having children, not shaquita or billy rae.  The world will be doomed when these idiots out breed us.

First of all, congratulations on becoming a dad.
Man, this is such a delicate subject, so I always find it hard to discuss my objections with parents, but I def share your worries about less successful folks, who start huge families. I believe that politicians should put this on their agendas, just to start with.

[Shockwave]

I always wanted children. I have a four month old, and plan on having at least one more, if not two more. The fact is, it might be hubris on my part, but I was someone's child, so it's not like I can say its a bad thing to have a child. The only thing, you have to be prepared. Not to toot my own horn, as I'm sure there are a lot of get biggers, as well as a ton of other people, but my wife and I are pretty intelligent people and are reasonably successful. We are the types of folks who need to be having children, not shaquita or billy rae.  The world will be doomed when these idiots out breed us.

I was very unsure.. I knew eventually I wanted a family with the right woman. After I got married, my wife got off her B/C for a year since she had be on the pill since she was 14, and the doc said it may be a good idea to give her body a rest. Almost exactly a year to the day she stopped taking it, she got pregnant.

I was scared shitless. Even after my son was born I was still in shock and not dealing very well.... fast forward 9 months later, I couldn't imagine my life without my son. It is a wholly different experience, and gratifying in a totally different way. Even though we're not in the best of financial shape, he is well worth the overtime and weekends helping out at a second job.

My wife stays home because we wanted him to be raised by us, not by daycare.  I wind up working 50-55 hours a week to maintain a decent lifestyle for us and I have absolutely no regrets about having him.

It did take quite a while before I really became attached to him though, in the beginning, I had a hard time bonding with the little lump of flesh that did nothing but scream and shit. Lol. As it is now, were debating about trying for a girl a few years down the road once my career advances a little more. But for right now, we're quite content with our simple life.

[Tedim]

I was very unsure.. I knew eventually I wanted a family with the right woman. After I got married, my wife got off her B/C for a year since she had be on the pill since she was 14, and the doc said it may be a good idea to give her body a rest. Almost exactly a year to the day she stopped taking it, she got pregnant.

I was scared shitless. Even after my son was born I was still in shock and not dealing very well.... fast forward 9 months later, I couldn't imagine my life without my son. It is a wholly different experience, and gratifying in a totally different way. Even though we're not in the best of financial shape, he is well worth the overtime and weekends helping out at a second job.

My wife stays home because we wanted him to be raised by us, not by daycare.  I wind up working 50-55 hours a week to maintain a decent lifestyle for us and I have absolutely no regrets about having him.

It did take quite a while before I really became attached to him though, in the beginning, I had a hard time bonding with the little lump of flesh that did nothing but scream and shit. Lol. As it is now, were debating about trying for a girl a few years down the road once my career advances a little more. But for right now, we're quite content with our simple life.

Congrats....me and my wife chose the same path.

[Voice of Doom]

First one arrives in November.  Waited till I was 38, settled, married for 14 years, had savings and a job that pays very good money to start though.  Can afford to have the wife at home fulltime and private school when they're ready.

Did a lot of living in my 20s and a lot of learning in my 30s.  Seems a good time for a new adventure.

[Army of One]

Why does every married man i know with kids,almost without fail end up jealous that I can fuck hot bitches, do what I want, go where I want when I want?Surely this radiant happiness should mean no jealousy?

[Tedim]

Why does every married man i know with kids,almost without fail end up jealous that I can fuck hot bitches, do what I want, go where I want when I want?Surely this radiant happiness should mean no jealousy?

Grass is greener syndrome....nm

[che]

I was very unsure.. I knew eventually I wanted a family with the right woman. After I got married, my wife got off her B/C for a year since she had be on the pill since she was 14, and the doc said it may be a good idea to give her body a rest. Almost exactly a year to the day she stopped taking it, she got pregnant.

I was scared shitless. Even after my son was born I was still in shock and not dealing very well.... fast forward 9 months later, I couldn't imagine my life without my son. It is a wholly different experience, and gratifying in a totally different way. Even though we're not in the best of financial shape, he is well worth the overtime and weekends helping out at a second job.

My wife stays home because we wanted him to be raised by us, not by daycare.  I wind up working 50-55 hours a week to maintain a decent lifestyle for us and I have absolutely no regrets about having him.

It did take quite a while before I really became attached to him though, in the beginning, I had a hard time bonding with the little lump of flesh that did nothing but scream and shit. Lol. As it is now, were debating about trying for a girl a few years down the road once my career advances a little more. But for right now, we're quite content with our simple life.

Wait until he starts walking , is he trying  to stand  up yet ?

[che]

fuck hot bitches, do what I want, go where I want when I want?

I've never done that , I'm jealous

[Army of One]

I've never done that , I'm jealous

Sarcasm aside, you arnt Joe public tho, still retained a good physique, decent looking (no homo), hot wife.most guys I see seem sick of the wife, fat, brat kids, balding etc.I get the feeling most just gave in to the wife's demands and if could turn back the clock would rather be single.

[che]

Sarcasm aside, you arnt Joe public tho, still retained a good physique, decent looking (no homo), hot wife.most guys I see seem sick of the wife, fat, brat kids, balding etc.I get the feeling most just gave in to the wife's demands and if could turn back the clock would rather be single.

Thanks and  I know exactly what you're saying .

[Irongrip400]

I was very unsure.. I knew eventually I wanted a family with the right woman. After I got married, my wife got off her B/C for a year since she had be on the pill since she was 14, and the doc said it may be a good idea to give her body a rest. Almost exactly a year to the day she stopped taking it, she got pregnant.

I was scared shitless. Even after my son was born I was still in shock and not dealing very well.... fast forward 9 months later, I couldn't imagine my life without my son. It is a wholly different experience, and gratifying in a totally different way. Even though we're not in the best of financial shape, he is well worth the overtime and weekends helping out at a second job.

My wife stays home because we wanted him to be raised by us, not by daycare.  I wind up working 50-55 hours a week to maintain a decent lifestyle for us and I have absolutely no regrets about having him.

It did take quite a while before I really became attached to him though, in the beginning, I had a hard time bonding with the little lump of flesh that did nothing but scream and shit. Lol. As it is now, were debating about trying for a girl a few years down the road once my career advances a little more. But for right now, we're quite content with our simple life.

It's funny what you said about bonding. I had to explain it to my wife, that I didn't grow him in my body, and that he was usually fussy when I got home, and I didn't have tits to feed him. Took about 8-9 weeks, and the feeling I have and joy I get from seeing him(no homo) grows everyday. Thing is, my buddies who have kids, all said the same thing. It must be universal, that is, if you are there and in their life. I have anshitbag buddy who is a deadbeat, and while I can see where someone would be overwhelmed with it all, there's no way I could abandon him.

[Shockwave]

Wait until he starts walking , is he trying  to stand  up yet ?

Oh yes, he lets go of whatever hes pulled himself up on and tries to take a step, and promptly falls on his butt every time. Kid is huge too, 97th percentile for length and 95th percentile for weight. He's the same size as my sisters 2.5 year old son.

[The True Adonis]

[The True Adonis]

[Shockwave]

Why does every married man i know with kids,almost without fail end up jealous that I can fuck hot bitches, do what I want, go where I want when I want?Surely this radiant happiness should mean no jealousy?

Because you can fuck hot bitches with no strings attached. Neither one is a choice without it's detractions... you trade off getting to do whatever you want with whoever you want, for companionship, love, and family. It's 2 totally different worlds, and most people get nostalgic or get stuck on the negative while their buddies seem to be having the time of their lives. As Tedim said, grass is greener syndrome.

Both lives have their perks.... I was having fun being single and doing what I wanted, and my wife literally fell in my lap. We got married and going through life with a companion is totally different from having no one but yourself. Some people love it, others don't. Just as some people want to have a family, others don't want to deal with anyone or anything but their own wants and interests.

I think having kids with the wrong woman, or getting married just to "get married and have the 2.5 kids, white picket fence, etc, etc" is a recipie for failure... I lived hard in my 20's. Now, In my late 20's, I just want someone to go through life with that I enjoy being around and still gives me a boner every time I see her bend over. I got married to the right woman. Luckily.

[The True Adonis]

[Shockwave]

Yeah, that makes no sense. Children aren't for everyone, some people simply aren't going to be able to bond/get the joy out of children than others, and those people should not have kids. Having kids when you have no desire to raise them, IMHO, is criminal and should be grounds for mandatory sterilization. 

My friends brother got a vasectomy at 24, he's married and loves his life. He has no desire to have kids, he wants to go on vacations, spend ridiculous money on his metrosexual attire and hair, and generally make people question his sexuality. And thats fine, I'd rather have someone not have kids, than have kids and be a burden on society, sucking up funds and resources.

Completely agree with your stance on this one Adam.

[The True Adonis]

[The True Adonis]

[The True Adonis]

[calfzilla]

This.

I see guys with their horrible families at restaurants, stores, anywhere really and think man that guy is going home to all that noise and mess and everything and I'll be going home to a quiet house to do whatever I want.

[The Abdominal Snoman]

This.

I see guys with their horrible families at restaurants, stores, anywhere really and think man that guy is going home to all that noise and mess and everything and I'll be going home to a quiet house to do whatever I want.

The problem I see is so many diagnosed and un-diagnosed mentally ill people having kids...Kids are fukced before they even know what hit them...

[Z Father]

I see parents that have no control over their children. my kid wouldn't dream to act like that. We go out to eat quite often and we have a dandy time.

[The True Adonis]