And we know for a fact that she's been single, and unmarried when she gave birth?
There's no possibility that she might have situated differently?
Ever heard of divorce, death, illness, turning lives upside down?
I have a friend who married a few years out of college. Her husband totally decided how they would live. As an obedient Christian wife, she followed his wishes, and conformed to her narrowly defined gender roles as dictated by her his band, and laid out by her Church and religion. She would stay home and raise the kids while he worked. A few kids and a few years later, he walks in the door, and announces he wants a divorce and is moving in with his girlfriend. He walked out of the marriage taking only his truck. Her oldest was 7, her youngest was 4. All of a sudden she found herself living in suburbia with 3 small children to raise, no income to speak of, no transportation, and an apartment she couldn't pay for. Finding gainful employment that paid a liveable wage, and allowed her to raise her kids was extremely difficult. She was fortunate enough to be able to find employment that allowed her to work from home, not everyone is that fortunate. it was quite tough and go there for her for about three years, and it's still a struggle everyday. Lucky for her, she had family able to help her. Her brother was a prince who refused to sit by and see his sister, nieces and nephew suffer or go without. They're much older now. Her oldest is in college, and the youngest getting her drivers license. Would you classify her as "fucking up"? If so, what would her fuck up be? Having children, getting married, conforming to societal expectations?