Well, after I stopped replying to her BS texts yesterday, making me feel bad and guilty because I chose to spend time with my family, I can only imagine how she's going to feel when she realizes that I'm not engaging or participating in her crazy selfishness. I have no interest talking with a woman who tells me that being there for my sister in need should be secondary to being there for a girl I just met a few weeks ago. I don't even want to read the texts she sent me last night, or will probably send me today. They'll probably go something like: "well, I guess you don't want to talk. Fine. Goodbye". There will be no epiphany on her part, realizing how wrong she was and how she pushed me away/turned me off. Doing so would be her admitting to herself that she was in the wrong and self-centered people don't have the ability to do that on their own.
Ok. You seem to need to be right and feel vindicated by making it clear how wrong she is. Is she? Yes, based on what you've said, but that doesn't matter. Leave the question of who is right to the side.
The nub of it is that you find her hard to take. That's the essence of your gripe. If that's the case then there's nothing for it. You either enjoy someone's personality or you don't.
For me, a good sign that someone is constantly on my nerves is that every trespass is a last straw moment, demonstrates her real personality, etc, and I make a big deal out of it to myself and talk myself into holding a grudge like a fucker over inconsequential shit. If I like her then it's no big effort to overlook bad behavior and I'll easily write it off as a human foible. My disposition toward her holds way more sway than the rightness or wrongness of her actions or attitudes.
