Just got out of a 6 month relationship. what do now? (bb related)

[JediTerminator]

I couldn't stand the living situation of that she had hyper active kids (real tough to take them anywhere), her ex always trying to jump back in the picture, the fact she thinks she knows everything about fitness (lol i'm a chubby chaser so that says it all). she thinks steroids are dumb and people should just do natural hard work. Again this one was a gamer (this time on her phone and not PC) and was a cute looking girl but turned lazy and therefore I lost all attraction.

Now I used to be a raging alcoholic, joined AA, lasted 2 weeks before she pissed me off so much I drank 2 beers and then later that night went to a meeting. I find AA works as long as there is a meeting to go.

So now I'm single again, and a little wiser. I know I can't handle 2 young children at once. I know that I can't stand procrastination, and I can't stand someone completely lazy. This relationship was also a financial drain for me.

So where do I go from here?

Was thinking of maybe devoting a whole year to myself and just get laid off those dating site when I get desperate enough (unless of course I meet someone along the way). Focus on better job, better education possibly (night school?), never miss a gym session, stay sober. A year at almost 32 years old doesn't seem so bad when it could drastically improve my life.

Or is that too much an extreme? Obviously what I've been doing so far has not been working very well for me.

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[Cleanest Natural]

I would focus on myself exclusively until I find balance. Then, you have a chance to meet a balanced person of opposite sex.

I would suggest this as a symbolic exercise. Get in the best shape of your life. You'll need to be consistent with training, diet and very disciplined. Obviously alcohol does not enter a strict diet. So forget it until you manage that. Set a tentative time table and start tomorrow. No procrastinating. No dating, no jacking off at all during this time. Not kidding. Good luck.

[nzmusclemonster]

Show us your cock and we will give you advices based on that....

[Hulkotron]

What was her snatch like?

[Cleanest Natural]

Alcohol is ok as long as it fits into your macros.

The guy asked for serious advice. He was also an alcoholic once.

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So where do I go from here?

Was thinking of maybe devoting a whole year to myself and just get laid off those dating site when I get desperate enough (unless of course I meet someone along the way). Focus on better job, better education possibly (night school?), never miss a gym session, stay sober. A year at almost 32 years old doesn't seem so bad when it could drastically improve my life.

Or is that too much an extreme? Obviously what I've been doing so far has not been working very well for me.

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Get busy living, or get busy dying.

You've had the epiphany and are motivated as hell to better your situation. The spark is there. Moving forward you have to hold onto this mindset, this hope that your future could be anything you want. Take control and be selfish. Absolutely spend more time on yourself, both physically and mentally.

Think about how xmas rolls around and you think "wow, this year has flown by, what have I actually achieved". Take a deep breath and do some soul searching, decide what you really want.

Don't put things off!

There really is no "tomorrow"

Remember "tomorrow" never comes. Sure, it's comforting knowing a new day brings a clean slate, but there is nothing special about tomorrow, Your mindset from today will follow you into tomorrow, Stuck in a traffic jam? Work too hard? well........screw today, there's always tomorrow

And the cycle continues. A months worth of "Tomorrows" pass you by. "Wait till you see me in six months"

On and on and on... until you realise the only thing thats changed is the color of your hair and lines in your forehead.

It's scary making a change. Stepping out of a comfort zone paralyzes the majority folk. If you don't take a leap of faith NOW, December will roll around you'll be thinking "well, maybe next year will be better"


It's not going to be easy, but you CAN do it

[JediTerminator]

I would focus on myself exclusively until I find balance. Then, you have a chance to meet a balanced person of opposite sex.

I would suggest this as a symbolic exercise. Get in the best shape of your life. You'll need to be consistent with training, diet and very disciplined. Obviously alcohol does not enter a strict diet. So forget it until you manage that. Set a tentative time table and start tomorrow. No procrastinating. No dating, no jacking off at all during this time. Not kidding. Good luck.

Still am an alcoholic. Do not want to drink so thanks for having my back on that one.

This all sounds like great advice. Why not jacking off though? I found myself missing her today until I rubbed one out and now I'm again focused on bettering myself. We broke up quite a bit and one of us would get horny and then after that initital nut I would be thinking "fuck, why did I come back?"

I'd really like to further my status. Better place to live first, then a better job, and all while this is going on I'd like to get away from tv (all these people ever did was watch tv) and do what I did years before when single, go to the library and read up on all kinds of things. I like business and self help books. Just some fun stuff. I'm a big reader. Focus on my body and a year of quality food/meal frequency with my juice and build a great transformation. I think the looks improving will help me not fall into old traps of getting involved too quickly,

I missed pretty much the whole NFL season this year because she didn't have cable and we couldn't get it because she owed money and refused to pay. I caught maybe 3-4 games all year and NFL is my big hobby. I like to gamble on it.

[BikiniSlut]

Congrats on kicking the alcohol. You slipped but picked yourself up right away. That is SOOOO important.

Are you happy with you?

If you are maybe go onto a dating site.

If you aren't focus on yourself until you are happy with you.

[Cleanest Natural]

Ok I just meant like one beer every other day or so is not going to affect you if you consider the calories.

you obviously never been ripped .. it does .. you either diet or you half ass it .. at least this is my experience

[Shockwave]

I would focus on myself exclusively until I find balance. Then, you have a chance to meet a balanced person of opposite sex.

I would suggest this as a symbolic exercise. Get in the best shape of your life. You'll need to be consistent with training, diet and very disciplined. Obviously alcohol does not enter a strict diet. So forget it until you manage that. Set a tentative time table and start tomorrow. No procrastinating. No dating, no jacking off at all during this time. Not kidding. Good luck.

this.

it took me seriously not worrying about women and just focusing on myself, my education, and my health, and BAM, my wife fell out of the sky when I wasnt looking.

[hrspwr1]

First things first.

 If you are a raging drunkaholic - stop that shit with whatever works.  No self respecting woman is going to want a serious relationship with you until you quit pissing on yourself [ good times  ]

 Eat right and exercise, don`t be a bitch.

[Cleanest Natural]

Still am an alcoholic. Do not want to drink so thanks for having my back on that one.

This all sounds like great advice. Why not jacking off though? I found myself missing her today until I rubbed one out and now I'm again focused on bettering myself. We broke up quite a bit and one of us would get horny and then after that initital nut I would be thinking "fuck, why did I come back?"

I'd really like to further my status. Better place to live first, then a better job, and all while this is going on I'd like to get away from tv (all these people ever did was watch tv) and do what I did years before when single, go to the library and read up on all kinds of things. I like business and self help books. Just some fun stuff. I'm a big reader. Focus on my body and a year of quality food/meal frequency with my juice and build a great transformation. I think the looks improving will help me not fall into old traps of getting involved too quickly,

I missed pretty much the whole NFL season this year because she didn't have cable and we couldn't get it because she owed money and refused to pay. I caught maybe 3-4 games all year and NFL is my big hobby. I like to gamble on it.

No jacking off because it opens you up energetically just like alcohol does so what made you drink to escape reality comes back to the fore front. Ditch the TV. Find some answers to your questions. Maybe it's time for you to take control of yourself

[Cleanest Natural]

You're full of it gypsy.

Nope my friend. You are missing the point.

[JediTerminator]

Congrats on kicking the alcohol. You slipped but picked yourself up right away. That is SOOOO important.

Are you happy with you?

If you are maybe go onto a dating site.

If you aren't focus on yourself until you are happy with you.

happy with myself? no. I like my appearance (here comes the flames! lol) but I lack some self worth because I used to be an obese lard and still have that depression every now and then. I think basically living in the gym for the next little while will even enhance my social networking as I will meet other lifters and through that new women, and hopefully job contacts.

I really don't want to be who I am now. I don't want to be where I am now. One of the last things I said to her was she should have been greatful to have a great guy like me (I treated her the best I have anyone in my life) and she said "like what? a drunk?". so she sealed her fate with me right then, There is no going back with her but I obviously don't want another relationship very soon.

Maybe it's just me but a lot of women seem to be these marathon gamers. Hours upon hours of playing on a game. I understand it must be fun but when you forget things because of it it seems as bad an addiction as alcohol.

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I couldn't stand the living situation of that she had hyper active kids (real tough to take them anywhere), her ex always trying to jump back in the picture, the fact she thinks she knows everything about fitness (lol i'm a chubby chaser so that says it all). she thinks steroids are dumb and people should just do natural hard work. Again this one was a gamer (this time on her phone and not PC) and was a cute looking girl but turned lazy and therefore I lost all attraction.

Now I used to be a raging alcoholic, joined AA, lasted 2 weeks before she pissed me off so much I drank 2 beers and then later that night went to a meeting. I find AA works as long as there is a meeting to go.

So now I'm single again, and a little wiser. I know I can't handle 2 young children at once. I know that I can't stand procrastination, and I can't stand someone completely lazy. This relationship was also a financial drain for me.

So where do I go from here?

Was thinking of maybe devoting a whole year to myself and just get laid off those dating site when I get desperate enough (unless of course I meet someone along the way). Focus on better job, better education possibly (night school?), never miss a gym session, stay sober. A year at almost 32 years old doesn't seem so bad when it could drastically improve my life.

Or is that too much an extreme? Obviously what I've been doing so far has not been working very well for me.

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[JediTerminator]

No jacking off because it opens you up energetically just like alcohol does so what made you drink to escape reality comes back to the fore front. Ditch the TV. Find some answers to your questions. Maybe it's time for you to take control of yourself

You mean the endorphins? I'm having a hard time following this and I'm not being a jerk. I heard boxers don't crank one out for weeks before a fight to stay focused and aggressive. Is this what you mean?

Stress caused me to drink. Stress and loneliness. If I keep myself busy (AA every morning before work, gym at night, once a week hit up a movie or restaurant so I break a little monotony) I feel I can keep my mind off of thinking I'm lonely.

In fact, I'm going to go see a favorite movie of mine on the big screen tonight. 12 Years a Slave. Its a movie and discussion type screening so I'm looking forward to seeing what this kind of experience is like. Never know what is going to perk up my interest.

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You mean the endorphins? I'm having a hard time following this and I'm not being a jerk. I heard boxers don't crank one out for weeks before a fight to stay focused and aggressive. Is this what you mean?

Stress caused me to drink. Stress and loneliness. If I keep myself busy (AA every morning before work, gym at night, once a week hit up a movie or restaurant so I break a little monotony) I feel I can keep my mind off of thinking I'm lonely.

In fact, I'm going to go see a favorite movie of mine on the big screen tonight. 12 Years a Slave. Its a movie and discussion type screening so I'm looking forward to seeing what this kind of experience is like. Never know what is going to perk up my interest.

Dont try and rationalise what cleanest natural says, hes a fruit loop.

[JediTerminator]

This thread is reading real ghetto. The OP needs to get his sh1t together.

Lets make it even more ghetto.

I'm currently staying on couches at 3 different friends places. This sucks. I need to work a few weeks to have last month's rent deposit. So with this I went out today with a shovel to try and drum up some cash shoveling driveways. Only nabbed one and made $15.

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Lets make it even more ghetto.

I'm currently staying on couches at 3 different friends places. This sucks. I need to work a few weeks to have last month's rent deposit. So with this I went out today with a shovel to try and drum up some cash shoveling driveways. Only nabbed one and made $15.

PM Quickerblade, he knows what to do.

[viking1]

   Prayers Sent, Bro..

[JediTerminator]

You're 31 years old?!

Yeah, I smartly didn't sign a lease when I moved in with her a few months ago (seemed more convenient) and so now I don't have any legal ties to her. 2 weeks on a couch isn't gonna kill me. But it is what it is

[Radical Plato]

Still am an alcoholic. Do not want to drink so thanks for having my back on that one.

This all sounds like great advice. Why not jacking off though? I found myself missing her today until I rubbed one out and now I'm again focused on bettering myself. We broke up quite a bit and one of us would get horny and then after that initital nut I would be thinking "fuck, why did I come back?"

I'd really like to further my status. Better place to live first, then a better job, and all while this is going on I'd like to get away from tv (all these people ever did was watch tv) and do what I did years before when single, go to the library and read up on all kinds of things. I like business and self help books. Just some fun stuff. I'm a big reader. Focus on my body and a year of quality food/meal frequency with my juice and build a great transformation. I think the looks improving will help me not fall into old traps of getting involved too quickly,

I missed pretty much the whole NFL season this year because she didn't have cable and we couldn't get it because she owed money and refused to pay. I caught maybe 3-4 games all year and NFL is my big hobby. I like to gamble on it.

Cleanest Natural is the equivalent of a Religious self righteous prude, ignore his advice on just about everything, especially sex and jacking off!  Never trust a man who gives such advice.  Jacking off is natural and to be performed as much as required.  For thousands of years, superstitious people like Taoists and religious Nutters have condemned masturbation, the Taoists went the way of the dinosaur, and the non masturbating clergy became pedophiles.  You work it out !!!

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Yeah, I smartly didn't sign a lease when I moved in with her a few months ago (seemed more convenient) and so now I don't have any legal ties to her. 2 weeks on a couch isn't gonna kill me. But it is what it is

Psst, they want you out well before that, they are just being nice, dont impose on them.

[TEH boob]

1. Improve yourself.
2. Quality women will be attracted to you.
3. Pick one quality woman if and when you want one.