As a parent I couldn't enjoy myself whilst my kids suffering, same with my wife and to a degree extended family, its hard to enjoy your life and focus on yourself when someone you love is suffering, im not saying I wouldn't go to gym, I would probably need to as its the only place I have ever found where I can escape everything momentarily, but I couldn't drink or party, I mean how can you as a parent I always want my families quality of life to be better than my own, that's why I stress and they spend. But im not judging anyone I don't know the circumstances,