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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #150 on: September 27, 2014, 05:22:53 PM »
I've been married for 10 years , I've never cheated on my wife , if I had to do it all over again I wouldn't change a thing. ( no homo)

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #151 on: September 27, 2014, 05:24:07 PM »
Here's some advice that some horny Italian guy once gave me...

Don't marry the person you love, instead marry the person who loves you. You will save yourself from the emotional hardships, while that person will sacrifice their lives to keep you happy.

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What is your current view on gay marriage?

Do you think gay couples rush into it, just to say they are married?

Is infidelity more common in a gay relationship?

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #152 on: September 27, 2014, 05:27:38 PM »


Is infidelity more common in a gay relationship?

Yes

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #153 on: September 27, 2014, 05:29:16 PM »
Being married/having kids seems like it reduces the choices and options that you can make in your life. Some people are fine with this, some like myself value our freedom too much and would feel trapped in such a situation.

Then there is the mental, emotional and financial risks of divorce, especially for the one with the most assets, usually the man. A woman with a good divorce lawyer can really ruin your life.

For me, another big factor is the fact that I don't feel the emotion of loneliness very strongly if at all. This seems to be one of the primary forces driving people into relationships.

I can quite easily go all weekend without seeing a single person and it is no big deal. I still need the occasional sexual closeness with a woman or to hang out with friends as I get a lot of enjoyment from this, but it is not something I need very often to be happy.

Apparently, this lifestyle has a name on the internets:  MGTOW - men who go their own way.

I don't think marriage reduces one's options and choices, they are just different ones.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #154 on: September 27, 2014, 05:36:05 PM »
Marriage is stupid for many folks until their looks go south, the party with friends ends or they meet the one they can't live without. 

The only folks that truly never desire to be married are the tiny population of exceptions.....hence the word exceptions.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #155 on: September 27, 2014, 05:37:32 PM »
Marriage is stupid for many folks until their looks go south, the party with friends ends or they meet the one they can't live without. 

The only folks that truly never desire to be married are the tiny population of exceptions.....hence the word exceptions.
luckily there is always a new batch of young hookers around the corner

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #156 on: September 27, 2014, 05:37:43 PM »
Yes

I don't know enough gay couples to determine if infidelity is more of an issue with them. The few I know, I haven't asked because their personal life is none of my business. Historically, gay men in relationships, whether deserved or not, have a reputation for cheating on their partners. Folks also believe men are more likely to cheat then women. Some studies have reported otherwise.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #157 on: September 27, 2014, 05:45:47 PM »
Yep those that prefer young bookers over marriage are in that tiny exception bucket.

Not surprising that a small discussion board for a cult activity full of drug using narcissists would produce a greater potential for exceptions.....the board is basically an exception in and of itself.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #158 on: September 27, 2014, 05:46:12 PM »
Marriage is stupid for many folks until their looks go south, the party with friends ends or they meet the one they can't live without. 

The only folks that truly never desire to be married are the tiny population of exceptions.....hence the word exceptions.
You are one of the few I respect here.  I value your opinion and wish you well in life.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #159 on: September 27, 2014, 05:48:25 PM »
Am I the Derek Jeter of Getbig?

Hunky bachelor? Check

All-time great? Check

Still can pull a game winning hit/100 post thread out of his ass? Check.



This is one of your greatest acheivements in life?

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #160 on: September 27, 2014, 05:51:07 PM »
This is one of your greatest acheivements in life?
I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #161 on: September 27, 2014, 05:52:50 PM »
You are one of the few I respect here.  I value your opinion and wish you well in life.

I respect you too.

Nothing wrong with being single, but there's nothing wrong with being married either.

I still firmly believe the majority of people prefer marriage at some point in their lives.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #162 on: September 27, 2014, 05:55:55 PM »
schizzo is a single man in his thirties who is supposed to be a SC manager for some major corporation

he must be pretty well off

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #163 on: September 27, 2014, 05:56:34 PM »
I respect you too.

Nothing wrong with being single, but there's nothing wrong with being married either.

I still firmly believe the majority of people prefer marriage at some point in their lives.
I agree. This was more of a discussion at the failure of marriage in recent history.

I am not against marriage at all.

Perfect example: I know a mid 20's guy, who recently married his long-time girlfriend.

Sounds great right? Not if you know that he cheats on his wife and brags about it.

Scumbags like this, shit all over marriage.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #164 on: September 27, 2014, 05:59:22 PM »
What is your current view on gay marriage?

Why shouldn't gay folks suffer just as much as our hetero counterparts? Marriage is marriage and for those that value what it stands for between two people, it will have the same value to them.

Marriage is a lot like a business partnership. While everything is going the way you and your partner hoped it to go, it's perfect. Once things start to go sour, it can be a costly inferno filled with hatred and bitter legal disputes. It has its benefits if you look at it from the standpoint of taxation, as well as other financial angles.

Do you think gay couples rush into it, just to say they are married?

Not so much... Those that are getting married are doing it because they genuinely want to spend the rest of their lives with their loved ones. Being legally bound to another person that can divorce you for half of your wealth truly sucks when you think about it.

Is infidelity more common in a gay relationship?

I wouldn't say it's more common in gay relationships, but I will say that it's just as common as infidelity in hetero couples. Not every gay couple has infidelity issues. Some couples are very happy and don't stray from one another. Other couples can't help but to fool around. I think these dynamics are very common in hetero relationships as well.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #165 on: September 27, 2014, 06:00:52 PM »
I am 33 years old. I have had no desire to get married in my life. I am seeing a trend with many people around my age group (around 10 years) that I am noticing a trend.

Marriage is dying a slow death.

A document "binding" people together means absolutely nothing these days.

Marriage is more convenience and "friend pussy" then anything.

Kids obviously provide some glue, but even then, douchebags are gonna douchebag.

Marriage is a conversation point. A sham.

I beg to differ. I've been married 12 years, one of the best decisions of my life.

But you're right about one thing: People DON'T realize the ramifications of marriage. They put more thought into buying a car, house, or IPhone than they do in choosing a wife.

Plus, they lack commitment. Despite what some folks think, shacking up first doesn't equate to compatibility insurance. On average, people who do such are more likely to divorce than those who don't.

Marriage has risks, like almost anything else. But the more you prepare, the less likely you are to make a poor choice. To me, marriage counseling should be mandatory. Things like finances (#1 cause of divorce is money problems), role of each spouse, religious/philosophical direction of life, kids, etc.


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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #166 on: September 27, 2014, 06:08:38 PM »
I beg to differ. I've been married 12 years, one of the best decisions of my life.

But you're right about one thing: People DON'T realize the ramifications of marriage. They put more thought into buying a car, house, or IPhone than they do in choosing a wife.

Plus, they lack commitment. Despite what some folks think, shacking up first doesn't equate to compatibility insurance. On average, people who do such are more likely to divorce than those who don't.

Marriage has risks, like almost anything else. But the more you prepare, the less likely you are to make a poor choice. To me, marriage counseling should be mandatory. Things like finances (#1 cause of divorce is money problems), role of each spouse, religious/philosophical direction of life, kids, etc.


Solid post. I love it when people get engaged/married within a year.

Are they stupid? Are they desperate? How on earth can you gauge your compatibility to someone in such a short period of time?

For people who have a child/children together: Do not get married just for that.

You can still be good mothers and fathers regardless.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #167 on: September 27, 2014, 06:19:48 PM »



QFT

Being married for 4years .. my son is about turn 3 years in Oct..
It has its ups and downs but when both  are willing to compromise..
Things work out.. my son is the greatest gift I will ever have / get..  ;)

why do you say QFT??.... I love  being married and I love having kids...  So I don't get why that deserved a QFT?  Pretty much in agreement with you... My daughter is the greatest thing in the world - I'm crazy about her, and my wife, is absolutely amazing....   But I'm saying, what I love in my life... its not for everyone, some people choose to have a different life, and there is nothing wrong with that IF THATS WHAT THEY WANT!  They shouldn't have to get married because they think this is the societal requirement of them, they should get married because thats what they want!  Being married is what I wanted, and I'm happy with the choices I've made - wouldn't trade it for the world!

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #168 on: September 27, 2014, 06:21:13 PM »
what is hapenning is that white, WASPs stop breeding for all the reasons mentionned in this thread, but arabs, muslims, south americans and black dont. Which means white people who reached some kind of peak self consciousness/ intelligence level at some point stop wanting to live/reproduce. White people will get replaced by third worlders who are for the most part still "believers" (believe in their revenge against the old dying corrupt white man) but once these people live the same lifestyle as we did in our lands, they ll become materialistic atheists and will abandon their faiths to follow in the exact same path white people did, that's the irony. Basically the decline of white people -and interestingly japanese people- might in fact announce the beginning of the end for all mankind, people simply stop wanting to reproduce anymore at all once they ve reached full consciousness of the absurdity of life.
The Childfree religion taking over most belief systems until there are no humans anymore. Who would have thought mankind could simply disapear due to a lack of will to live. Forget about asteroids, solar flares, pandemias, global thermonuclear wars, we might actually simply not want to live anymore before any of those happen.

I agree on most of that, tho' I suspect that white people doesn't want to stop reproducing/living, they want to not die (of an old age) and that's getting pretty obvious everywhere in western culture. It's pretty futile to try to "not die" by reproduction, it's a "poverty option" so to say.. That's why they try to overcome aging and this may be a main reason why whites will actually manage to keep over thirld worlders. But many can't imagine this scenario yet, due to it's extraordinary nature. Technology will change the tides once again. Kids, btw, will be a controlled process, thorugh which a society will be replenished in cycles, to create new members in place of these who die in accidents, due to illness, infection, etc...
 General trend of technologies will change the way we think too. Hard to imagine exactly what will be, but we will be able to experience and understand world in millions more different ways so our thoughts and outlooks will change by a huge margin too. The quality of "life experience" will change substantially, but it's impossible to guess what it will be like. It will be very interesting for these who will be alive, that's for sure.
 And it's in context of 20-30 years from now. SOunds ridiculous, but the speed of change is getting ridiculous too.


p.s. - in a few months after the last thread about this another one of my friends is being fucked in the butt roally, by his ex and her lawyer. Dude is loosing his mind over the costs and she doesn't want him to see the kids so is making up various shit about him being abusive, etc... A nightmare. Think 9 times before marrying, and if you still want after thinking it through well - it may be a success then.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #169 on: September 27, 2014, 06:21:24 PM »
why do you say QFT??.... I love  being married and I love having kids...  So I don't get why that deserved a QFT?  Pretty much in agreement with you... My daughter is the greatest thing in the world - I'm crazy about her, and my wife, is absolutely amazing....   But I'm saying, what I love in my life... its not for everyone, some people choose to have a different life, and there is nothing wrong with that IF THATS WHAT THEY WANT!  They shouldn't have to get married because they think this is the societal requirement of them, the should get married because thats what they want!  Being married is what I wanted, and I'm happy with the choices I've made - wouldn't trade it for the world!
Exactly my friend.

Redskins still suck as well.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #170 on: September 27, 2014, 06:23:15 PM »
Exactly my friend.

Redskins still suck as well.

The Redskins are gonna turn things around!!!  Just wait and see!!!!  Just some early season hardship lol

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #171 on: September 27, 2014, 06:24:08 PM »
The Redskins are gonna turn things around!!!  Just wait and see!!!!  Just some early season hardship lol
RGIII or Cousins? Who do you like as your starter?

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #172 on: September 27, 2014, 06:32:51 PM »
RGIII or Cousins? Who do you like as your starter?

RGIII as the starter - but Play Cousins a lot more as well.... last year Cousins hardly saw any playing time, which pissed me off so much.... you have two great qb's, use them!!!  Don't just work one exclusively, They were trying to make RGIII more than a man and thought that all their problems will go away with him, but they needed to focus on capitalizing on both of them!!!

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #173 on: September 27, 2014, 09:39:00 PM »
I personally hate the whole 'dating' thing as well as other forms of picking up chicks.

I left the UK 17 or so years ago at 27 and became somewhat of a 'novelty' wherever i went. Has to be said that getting into a womans knickers is a boring and repetitive task involving telling them what they want to hear and listening to their shite.

I've fucked girls i didn't like much because i'd already put in some effort, saw the end game in sight and decided it less effort to just ride this one out.

Then of course, it's pot luck as to whether the chick is a dud fuck or not.

Even when i got to Thailand, the whole p4p thing got tiresome too. All that "what your name? Where you flom?" bollocks you have to go through in the bars.

Getting laid just gets tiresome after a while. At 44 i am glad i no longer have to deal with all that nonsense when i am in the mood.

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Re: Are people finally waking up to the ramifications of marriage?
« Reply #174 on: September 28, 2014, 01:29:24 AM »
I personally hate the whole 'dating' thing as well as other forms of picking up chicks.

I left the UK 17 or so years ago at 27 and became somewhat of a 'novelty' wherever i went. Has to be said that getting into a womans knickers is a boring and repetitive task involving telling them what they want to hear and listening to their shite.

I've fucked girls i didn't like much because i'd already put in some effort, saw the end game in sight and decided it less effort to just ride this one out.

Then of course, it's pot luck as to whether the chick is a dud fuck or not.

Even when i got to Thailand, the whole p4p thing got tiresome too. All that "what your name? Where you flom?" bollocks you have to go through in the bars.

Getting laid just gets tiresome after a while. At 44 i am glad i no longer have to deal with all that nonsense when i am in the mood.


this is so true


this is what i miss about having baby mama in the house, i could just fuck her when i wanted


going to prostitutes is the easiest solution but it's still a hastly, since i have to drive 30-40 minutes to get to red lights district which is not worth it anymor and also it's sex with a condom which is useless anyway


yes to have a woman in the house does have that one big advantage, you can fuck her anytime you want when you happen to be horny with a hard dick, no need to make it a project