7 Things I Can Do That My Black Son Can’t.

[The Ugly]

Never had a problem labeling Mexican things Mexican. Mexicans I know like to boast about what they claim to be Mexican. But LA culture is probably a bit different. Could also be generational differences? Not sure how old you are but I'm early 30s.

Also, maybe me being brown and you being white had something to do with our somewhat different experiences. That and I never gave a second thought to calling a spade a spade until I entered the workforce.

Agree here big time. And absolutely, just like the brothers with "ni66a" (which was derogatory), Mexicans are extremely proud of the word and use it boastfully. But same applies, whites can't use either. Confusing because "Mexican," at least, hasn't (or shouldn't have) any derogatory connotation. Not the way we intended it, anyway.

My Mexican friends don't blink an eye, but strangers is a no-go.

I'm 46, but I still visit, and it still applies, young and old alike. I say it, the immediate response has always been, "What you got against Mexicans?" It could have been a total compliment, but it never mattered.

[anabolichalo]

im confused... whats this supposed to be saying?

that affirmative action is wrong and black people shouldnt get a job just for being black while there's perfectly good white employees available

[Tapeworm]

Agree here big time. And absolutely, just like the brothers with "ni66a" (which was derogatory), Mexicans are extremely proud of the word and use it boastfully. But same applies, whites can't use either. Confusing because "Mexican," at least, hasn't (or shouldn't have) any derogatory connotation. Not the way we intended it, anyway.

My Mexican friends don't blink an eye, but strangers is a no-go.

I'm 46, but I still visit, and it still applies, young and old alike. I say it, the immediate response has always been, "What you got against Mexicans?" It could have been a total compliment, but it never mattered.

Ask him straight up why he has a tortilla chip on his shoulder.

[Mr. MB]

If that is what the poster thinks and how he raises his son...then he has predicted his outcome. Sad.  I have two black adopted twin nephews. They were raised Jewish and told that they were an equal part of the family and community. Irony gave them a full ride basketball scholarship at a Catholic university. They graduated with Business degrees. They speak NBC English and both have gone on to financial success. One is a VP of sales with a huge, you know the name, athletic shoe company. His brother runs the marketing division of a large big rig truck parts network.  They own big homes, have gorgeous mixed race Asian and Cuban wives and beautiful kids...all going to private schools.

You set the bar high, no pity-party attitudes and with application, you will be successful and happy.

[The Ugly]

If that is what the poster thinks and how he raises his son...then he has predicted his outcome. Sad.  I have two black adopted twin nephews. They were raised Jewish and told that they were an equal part of the family and community. Irony gave them a full ride basketball scholarship at a Catholic university. They graduated with Business degrees. They speak NBC English and both have gone on to financial success. One is a VP of sales with a huge, you know the name, athletic shoe company. His brother runs the marketing division of a large big rig truck parts network.  They own big homes, have gorgeous mixed race Asian and Cuban wives and beautiful kids...all going to private schools.

You set the bar high, no pity-party attitudes and with application, you will be successful and happy.

Keds?

[The Ugly]

Ask him straight up why he has a tortilla chip on his shoulder.

If it was but one, I'm sure we could clear it up.