Selfish Life?

[Thong Maniac]

Sit down and write a minimum 100 things YOU want to accomplish/achieve/attain (tell your wife to do the same). Think and dream big when you make this list also.

You might find yourself writing things down like "pay off all debt" "earn a million dollar yr salary"..etc these are fine...the point of this list is to get you thinking again about all that's out there to achieve in the little amount of borrowed time you have here....you are just in a rut right now tbh and need to explore outside of your norm. You and your wife can tackle your lists together as a team also.

As you go through the 100 things you achieve, celebrate them. Have a cigar or something. You'll notice some of the things you put on that list will just fall in your lap simply because you are in action. Make sure you celebrate that achievement. They'll just start to happen. Trust me. I have a list of 250 things and I cannot believe I achieved them yet I feel like I did very little to nothing to achieve it lol.

Your goal isn't to make money and live. Your main goal is to live , enjoy and celebrate your life and accomplishments, share and encourage others to do the same..etc ....making money along the way is the bonus that will come along with getting things in gear and remaining positive about things.

some of the regrets of the dying are usually: (make it a conscious daily effort to not be on this list)

- I wish I had lived my own life rather than how society taught me to live.
- I wish I had traveled/explored more.
- I wish I had kept in touch with my family/friends.
- I wish I hadn’t spent so much time working.
- I should’ve taken better care of myself.
- I should’ve told the people that I loved how much I truly loved them.
- I wish I discovered my purpose earlier.
- I wish I had touched more lives and inspired more people.

Think big. There are some things you've always wanted to do, have..etc. List em. Go after them. Don't get dead then start thinking about the list. lol

Great advice man, thanks for sharing this.
The society taught me thing i struggle with often but for the wrong reasons I think.
You get taught from an early Age, go to college, get a job, get married. Well ive done all that. Do i have dreams of moving to thailand, fishing every day on the mekong, banging hookers there, and opening a dog shelter or tourist fishing company on the mekong...every fucking day. But is that something Ill regret if i DOnT do it? I dont know the answer

[K-1]

Great advice man, thanks for sharing this.
The society taught me thing i struggle with often but for the wrong reasons I think.
You get taught from an early Age, go to college, get a job, get married. Well ive done all that. Do i have dreams of moving to thailand, fishing every day on the mekong, banging hookers there, and opening a dog shelter or tourist fishing company on the mekong...every fucking day. But is that something Ill regret if i DOnT do it? I dont know the answer

Depends on the hooker. You want to go top shelf man, not street corner stuff. Remember, I said think big 

Let your wife pick the Hooker. Or maybe you guys can agree on a friend of hers that looks nice..etc. You have options.

[Grape Ape]

Great advice man, thanks for sharing this.
The society taught me thing i struggle with often but for the wrong reasons I think.
You get taught from an early Age, go to college, get a job, get married. Well ive done all that. Do i have dreams of moving to thailand, fishing every day on the mekong, banging hookers there, and opening a dog shelter or tourist fishing company on the mekong...every fucking day. But is that something Ill regret if i DOnT do it? I dont know the answer

Nobody knows the answer.

Do the dreams include your wife or exclude.

[MikMaq]

we did this. some enhancing compatabilities, some redefining unique characteristics. mine consisted of things i want to DO, hers was more HOW she wants to live.

your perspective may change in acknowledging what you, and the most important person in your life, want for yourselves.

Woman have an obsession with comfort its really annoying.

[BigRo]

Smoke some DMT and you will find the answer....

would you like to share some insights from your DMT experiences?

[BigRo]

Sit down and write a minimum 100 things YOU want to accomplish/achieve/attain (tell your wife to do the same). Think and dream big when you make this list also.

You might find yourself writing things down like "pay off all debt" "earn a million dollar yr salary"..etc these are fine...the point of this list is to get you thinking again about all that's out there to achieve in the little amount of borrowed time you have here....you are just in a rut right now tbh and need to explore outside of your norm. You and your wife can tackle your lists together as a team also.

As you go through the 100 things you achieve, celebrate them. Have a cigar or something. You'll notice some of the things you put on that list will just fall in your lap simply because you are in action. Make sure you celebrate that achievement. They'll just start to happen. Trust me. I have a list of 250 things and I cannot believe I achieved them yet I feel like I did very little to nothing to achieve it lol.

Your goal isn't to make money and live. Your main goal is to live , enjoy and celebrate your life and accomplishments, share and encourage others to do the same..etc ....making money along the way is the bonus that will come along with getting things in gear and remaining positive about things.

some of the regrets of the dying are usually: (make it a conscious daily effort to not be on this list)

- I wish I had lived my own life rather than how society taught me to live.
- I wish I had traveled/explored more.
- I wish I had kept in touch with my family/friends.
- I wish I hadn’t spent so much time working.
- I should’ve taken better care of myself.
- I should’ve told the people that I loved how much I truly loved them.
- I wish I discovered my purpose earlier.
- I wish I had touched more lives and inspired more people.

Think big. There are some things you've always wanted to do, have..etc. List em. Go after them. Don't get dead then start thinking about the list. lol

good advices

[pluck]

I've been saying this for a while. (I am not rich by any stretch)
I started making decent money a few years ago. Money that allowed me to buy few cool cars, vaca 4-5 a year last 4 years, bunch of toys....etc.
I was making money for the sake of making money...it was boring and unfulfilling.

I changed "careers" about 1.5 years ago and now I'm way happier doing something that is fulfilling. Look forward going to work everyday and progressing to move up the chain.

I know a couple people that have businesses worth a few million. They're happy people for the most part, but all they talk about is money, how to make more of it, leveraging it...blah blah blah. They do ALL of the same things someone who makes $60k a year would do...only difference is they can afford a little nicer version of that life. They can afford to spend $200 at a steakhouse more times, afford a higher car lease, rent a bigger apartment....etc. etc (Don't get me wrong, it's nice to afford nice shit) but ...after a while it doesn't matter.

People don't want to listen to others talk about money, it makes people insecure and resentful especially if they make less than you do.

[Croatch]

I would have some kids and get a few dogs.  Isn't this what people do to feel a sense of purpose around 30?
Text book.

[ritch]

Go to walmart and observe the struggling families and how their life seems to plain f'in suck, then come back and wonder if you should change anything, lol...

[Croatch]

Go to walmart and observe the struggling families and how their life seems to plain f'in suck, then come back and wonder if you should change anything, lol...

haha.  I often wonder how it's the worst of the gene pools who seem to reproduce the most?
I suppose if you're not too smart, having a kid with no job or money doesn't seem like a bad idea...or 2...or 3.
I leave the store feeling quite good and free of any encumbrances.  I can't picture a life where you have some kid whining at you for a day, no less a few years.  Then fucking your fat old wife, on top of that.  Telling yourself...I love her though, so it's ok.
Tell yourself what you gotta...haah

[loco]

You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know

My hero!    

Are you happily married?  Because I was gonna say, your purpose in life, in your particular life, should be to be a good husband and make your wife happy.

[Thong Maniac]

I've been saying this for a while. (I am not rich by any stretch)
I started making decent money a few years ago. Money that allowed me to buy few cool cars, vaca 4-5 a year last 4 years, bunch of toys....etc.
I was making money for the sake of making money...it was boring and unfulfilling.

I changed "careers" about 1.5 years ago and now I'm way happier doing something that is fulfilling. Look forward going to work everyday and progressing to move up the chain.

I know a couple people that have businesses worth a few million. They're happy people for the most part, but all they talk about is money, how to make more of it, leveraging it...blah blah blah. They do ALL of the same things someone who makes $60k a year would do...only difference is they can afford a little nicer version of that life. They can afford to spend $200 at a steakhouse more times, afford a higher car lease, rent a bigger apartment....etc. etc (Don't get me wrong, it's nice to afford nice shit) but ...after a while it doesn't matter.

People don't want to listen to others talk about money, it makes people insecure and resentful especially if they make less than you do.

Was it easy to change careers? If you dont have experience in said field, i can imagine its tough to switch. More money, or less? More stress or less?

[Thong Maniac]

I would have some kids and get a few dogs.  Isn't this what people do to feel a sense of purpose around 30?
Text book.

I have dogs, which are more than enough. I feel the kid thing is a social trap I dont want to fall into. I fell into the marriage, house, dogs and other social norms.

[Thong Maniac]

Go to walmart and observe the struggling families and how their life seems to plain f'in suck, then come back and wonder if you should change anything, lol...

Trust me bro, i know how lucky i am. I think about that often as well

[Thong Maniac]

My hero!    

Are you happily married?  Because I was gonna say, your purpose in life, in your particular life, should be to be a good husband and make your wife happy.

My wife is great and marriage is easy for us. However, i am notorious for being a grass is always greener guy.

[loco]

My wife is great and marriage is easy for us. However, i am notorious for being a grass is always greener guy.

That's because you don't have kids.  No joke. Kids are great, or so I'm repeatedly told, but they put a strain on marriage, as if marriage wasn't hard enough as it is.

[ritch]

Trust me bro, i know how lucky i am. I think about that often as well

Same here, I even went and told the women at the pharmacy counter I have no idea how she puts up with the bullshit, her look as just "I gotta get outta here before I swallow all the meds or take myself out manually"... Oh jesus, the stupid parents to even allow that to happen. I would have tasted the back of my dad's hand so fast had I even thoguht of acting up like that...

[Automation]

would you like to share some insights from your DMT experiences?

I would say that it has been the greatest experience of my life. Beyond anything words can describe. Truly revelatory in every sense. Others can describe it better than I. I can only recommend that everyone try it, and take what they will from the experience.

My personal take away: There is a continuity to your existence that it is impossible to comprehend within this realm.

Apologies for the vagueness, but words are but mere shadow to the experience, and the whole thing is completely subjective.

[ritch]

That's because you don't have kids.  No joke. Kids are great, or so I'm repeatedly told, but they put a strain on marriage, as if marriage wasn't hard enough as it is.

only good thing about them is making them. That's it. And that takes me like 2 minutes, lol...

[BigRo]

I would say that it has been the greatest experience of my life. Beyond anything words can describe. Truly revelatory in every sense. Others can describe it better than I. I can only recommend that everyone try it, and take what they will from the experience.

My personal take away: There is a continuity to your existence that it is impossible to comprehend within this realm.

Apologies for the vagueness, but words are but mere shadow to the experience, and the whole thing is completely subjective.

thanks, I know what you mean. Hard to source good DMT and pricey unless you know how to make your own.

[Croatch]

I would say that it has been the greatest experience of my life. Beyond anything words can describe. Truly revelatory in every sense. Others can describe it better than I. I can only recommend that everyone try it, and take what they will from the experience.

My personal take away: There is a continuity to your existence that it is impossible to comprehend within this realm.

Apologies for the vagueness, but words are but mere shadow to the experience, and the whole thing is completely subjective.

Where would one get DMT?  A "friend" of mine was wondering.

That's because you don't have kids.  No joke. Kids are great, or so I'm repeatedly told, but they put a strain on marriage, as if marriage wasn't hard enough as it is.

I don't doubt it.  Marriage is simply a made up thing that is a financial agreement documented by the government.  People like to place worth in it, but in the end...it's all it is.
Nothing more romantic than involving the government in yet another part of your life.

This isn't against you personally, just marriage in general.  Utterly pointless.

Most people are taught religion, marriage, kids from birth...they usually do well and comply.  Good boy.

[Automation]

I made my own. Just felt like the right thing to do. If i'm going to have one of the most radical experiences known to human kind, I want to be intimately invoved in the preperation.

[BigRo]

take quite a bit of skill and patience I would say

[Automation]

take quite a bit of skill and patience I would say

Witnessing the true nature of reality makes it all worth it...

[Mr.Mojo]

You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know

Looks like you hitted the jackpot...but sooner or later most people keep thinking about the purpose of their life.
I guess I can`t give you a satisfying answer, maybe you should go for some professionals who concentrate on this kind of questions.

Here is a start :

http://markmanson.net/life-purpose