Selfish Life?

[kh300]

I recently sold my Jeep. Guy comes to look at it in a brand new Chevy truck, I'm thinking, why the fuck would this guy want an old jeep for when he's driving a 50k truck. Some kid pops out and looks at the Jeep. He said he's been saving up and always wanted one and this was his first car. I was impressed that dad had a lot of money but he put his 17 yr old in charge of making his own decision on what to buy, and making him save his money and not spoil him by buying him a new car. Dad just stayed in the truck the whole time. Kid says he wants it and offered me $200 less then I was asking($3,000).

He comes back later that day with the money. I asked him if he was going to take care of it. He said ya. I'm going to save more and buy new rims and wheels and put in a lift. I took $500 from him and said put all that extra money and buy your stuff. Kid almost shit himself.

The kid needed the money a whole lot more then I do.

Everyday you can live with a purpose.

[disco_stu]

You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know

john lennon said that his 2nd grade teacher asked him what he wanted to be when he grew up. he said "happy". she said that he didnt understand the assignment. he said that she didnt understand life.

that pretty much sums it up. im 42 and assure you that work and means and career is not happiness. you are at a crossroads that alot- most- people reach at some point if they are self aware.

part of the secret is to enjoy the ride and not focus on the destination.

[disco_stu]

I recently sold my Jeep. Guy comes to look at it in a brand new Chevy truck, I'm thinking, why the fuck would this guy want an old jeep for when he's driving a 50k truck. Some kid pops out and looks at the Jeep. He said he's been saving up and always wanted one and this was his first car. I was impressed that dad had a lot of money but he put his 17 yr old in charge of making his own decision on what to buy, and making him save his money and not spoil him by buying him a new car. Dad just stayed in the truck the whole time. Kid says he wants it and offered me $200 less then I was asking($3,000).

He comes back later that day with the money. I asked him if he was going to take care of it. He said ya. I'm going to save more and buy new rims and wheels and put in a lift. I took $500 from him and said put all that extra money and buy your stuff. Kid almost shit himself.

The kid needed the money a whole lot more then I do.

Everyday you can live with a purpose.

love it!. good job bro!. ive done some similar things like this, but yours was a huge gesture. i agree- make sure that they are putting in the effort first, then surprise them with the reward.

[Parker]

I recently sold my Jeep. Guy comes to look at it in a brand new Chevy truck, I'm thinking, why the fuck would this guy want an old jeep for when he's driving a 50k truck. Some kid pops out and looks at the Jeep. He said he's been saving up and always wanted one and this was his first car. I was impressed that dad had a lot of money but he put his 17 yr old in charge of making his own decision on what to buy, and making him save his money and not spoil him by buying him a new car. Dad just stayed in the truck the whole time. Kid says he wants it and offered me $200 less then I was asking($3,000).

He comes back later that day with the money. I asked him if he was going to take care of it. He said ya. I'm going to save more and buy new rims and wheels and put in a lift. I took $500 from him and said put all that extra money and buy your stuff. Kid almost shit himself.

The kid needed the money a whole lot more then I do.

Everyday you can live with a purpose.

Good deal.

[FitnessFrenzy]

I recently sold my Jeep. Guy comes to look at it in a brand new Chevy truck, I'm thinking, why the fuck would this guy want an old jeep for when he's driving a 50k truck. Some kid pops out and looks at the Jeep. He said he's been saving up and always wanted one and this was his first car. I was impressed that dad had a lot of money but he put his 17 yr old in charge of making his own decision on what to buy, and making him save his money and not spoil him by buying him a new car. Dad just stayed in the truck the whole time. Kid says he wants it and offered me $200 less then I was asking($3,000).

He comes back later that day with the money. I asked him if he was going to take care of it. He said ya. I'm going to save more and buy new rims and wheels and put in a lift. I took $500 from him and said put all that extra money and buy your stuff. Kid almost shit himself.

The kid needed the money a whole lot more then I do.

Everyday you can live with a purpose.

that was a nice gesture you showed him there. 

[loco]

I don't doubt it.  Marriage is simply a made up thing that is a financial agreement documented by the government.  People like to place worth in it, but in the end...it's all it is.
Nothing more romantic than involving the government in yet another part of your life.

This isn't against you personally, just marriage in general.  Utterly pointless.

Most people are taught religion, marriage, kids from birth...they usually do well and comply.  Good boy.

Dude, what does that have to do with what I posted?  I posted simply that the reason marriage is easy for him is probably because he doesn't have kids.  I never said marriage was good/bad, worthwhile/pointless, etc.   

[BigNJ]

Fucked if you do and fucked if you don't.

Guy complaining that he's living a decent life without working much.. Go figure.

[thebrink]

If I don't have kids(which may be a good idea ), I'm hoping to be dedicating time for helping autistic people.

don't waste your time they can't be helped.

[Papper]

I once gave a schmoe back his money and said you need this more than me. He was autistic too.

[kh300]

love it!. good job bro!. ive done some similar things like this, but yours was a huge gesture. i agree- make sure that they are putting in the effort first, then surprise them with the reward.

Thanks guys. His dad texted me the next day to thank me. He told me he owns a construction company and if I need anything let him know. I told him that I've been wanting an addition to my garage so I can have a separate area for my motorcycles. He said he'd do it at cost. The laws of attraction my friends, look it up!

That good gesture is going to save me thousands. He came back over yesterday to draw the plans.

[Thong Maniac]

Thanks guys. His dad texted me the next day to thank me. He told me he owns a construction company and if I need anything let him know. I told him that I've been wanting an addition to my garage so I can have a separate area for my motorcycles. He said he'd do it at cost. The laws of attraction my friends, look it up!

That good gesture is going to save me thousands. He came back over yesterday to draw the plans.

He probably regrets offering that now, lol

He was hoping you would just say thanks.

I think there was a seinfield episode about that ive seen

[gettingbetter]

You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know

I can relate to that. I think unless you have a sense of purpose in your life and find a cause greater than yourself to give your time and energy to, you cannot be fulfilled. Giving a bit of your time to add value to the world without having anything in return is the most satisfying thing you can do by a mile, no matter how sucessful you are.

The ancient stoics had it right: live life trying to attain virtue (excellence) while being helpful to the greater good is happiness.

[BigCyp]

There is a contentment, that I don't feel from anything other than helping others. Even sex doesn't compare in terms of feeling satisfied.

[Tapeworm]

I always pull over for a lost dog, appointments be damned.  Had a staffie in the back of the van today and he didn't even mind when I checked his collar for contact info, which was fortunate.  When those things are panting they're 1/3 mouth, 1/3 teeth, 1/3 oxygen hungry muscle.

Humans in the road are fair game tho so consider yourself warned.

[gracie bjj]

I always pull over for a lost dog, appointments be damned.  Had a staffie in the back of the van today and he didn't even mind when I checked his collar for contact info, which was fortunate.  When those things are panting they're 1/3 mouth, 1/3 teeth, 1/3 oxygen hungry muscle.

Humans in the road are fair game tho so consider yourself warned.

lol,i always help dogs on the highway or street, one day some guy almost got ran over walking on highway, and my wife said r u gonna help him,i said no way,fuck em.my wife said u help dogs but not people on the road and i said yes and she said i was a sicko

[SaintAnger]

Find your passion, and make a small business out of it.  Such a task isn't so much about the money, especially when you already have a good paying full time job, like you already have.  Instead, it's about the pursuit.  Pursuit for beating your competition, working with your competition, generating money, or other bench marks.  It can be tons of fun.

Best of all, if you are successful, is you can quit your boring ass office job, and do this full time.  Worked for me!

Good luck!

[Tapeworm]

lol,i always help dogs on the highway or street, one day some guy almost got ran over walking on highway, and my wife said r u gonna help him,i said no way,fuck em.my wife said u help dogs but not people on the road and i said yes and she said i was a sicko

Yes.  They get the old "HEY!  'FUCK'S YOUR PROBLEM, BUDDY?!"

I'd never speak to a dog like that.

[pluck]

Was it easy to change careers? If you dont have experience in said field, i can imagine its tough to switch. More money, or less? More stress or less?

I had zero experience in my new field. I knew people who were in it and I made up my mind after asking them a million questions. Less money up front, more money on the back end.

It's a different kind of stress. Here's the thing about stress. It's a part of life, there is no such thing as no stress. Everyone is stressed about something, although to varying degrees. The key thing about stress is knowing exactly where it comes from (coworkers, friends, money, bills..etc) and being able to control it. You have to be very honest with yourself. MOST of the time you can greatly reduce stress if you are honest with yourself. If there's a dickhead coworker, man up and tell them to STFU. If it's money...be honest with yourself if you're overextending yourself with expenses or you're too lazy to work more to make ends meet...etc etc

The thing about changing careers is this. Motivation. How motivated are you to make a change that in the long term you know deep down will pay off.