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Re: I love you guys....(no homo)!
« Reply #125 on: March 07, 2015, 12:09:19 PM »
it must be hard for her to feel like you want to get rid of the dead weight she now is for you. Maybe she thinks you want to fuck men and women while she s dying, and is wondering where the fuck she went wrong.

If that were true, it would be awful for her. No one wants to get rid of her, least of all me. We have been together for over 50 years. We were barely adults when we met. I cannot fathom life without her.

Sex is not an issue for either of us. She's not been healthy enough for sex for many years. If I wanted to play around, she's given me her blessing. I am not interested in complicating our lives anymore then they already are.

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« Reply #126 on: March 07, 2015, 12:12:05 PM »
I so didn't want to read this. Please tell me it has something to do with making desserty-tasting coffee.

You got it! I make chai tea frappuccinos.  ;D


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« Reply #127 on: March 07, 2015, 12:19:22 PM »
Prime, I can relate to what you are going through. Over the last 20 years I have gone through my father in law dying from stomach cancer. He never made it to our wedding. My mother in law going into a clinical depression, after we came back from our honeymoon, and basically have taken care of her including having to move in with her, with our two daughters. She is now starting to show signs of Dementia. My mother passed away from Alzheimer's after 7 years. Thank god my father and brother were around to be the main caregivers. My father passed away 8 years ago,just missed his 90th birthday by 2 weeks. My brother who was Bipolar and had addiction problems was killed, hit by a car 3 yrs ago, while living in my condo 1 block away while crossing the street. You my friend are not alone.

I know I am not alone. I wish for the sake of others I was alone in this.

It is inevitable that as we age, we experience more illness and death. I've lost my mom, dad, step-dad, sister, beloved aunts, uncles and grandparents plus a lot of friends in my lifetime. My mom lived with us for three years when she was dying from emphysema. That was no picnic. She was not an easy person to have around, but she was my mom and I loved her.

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Re: I love you guys....(no homo)!
« Reply #128 on: March 07, 2015, 12:23:50 PM »
After 50+ years as the dominant mate, how do you suppose she might rely on, and expect you to act when something extremely important is at stake?

When it is a major decision, she most often defers to me. As her life partner, she has every right to expect that I will take care of her. She would do the same for me if the situation were reversed. I have no intention of abandoning her. She knows this.

I hope people haven't misread what I posted in momentary frustration. I never meant to imply I wouldn't continue to care for my wife.


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« Reply #129 on: March 07, 2015, 12:27:43 PM »
When it is a major decision, she most often defers to me. As her life partner, she has every right to expect that I will take care of her. She would do the same for me if the situation were reversed. I have no intention of abandoning her. She knows this.

I hope people haven't misread what I posted in momentary frustration. I never meant to imply I wouldn't continue to care for my wife.



C'mon bro you were just having a tough night.

We all know you're going through an extremely difficult time and were just looking to vent.

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« Reply #130 on: March 07, 2015, 12:28:08 PM »
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« Reply #131 on: March 07, 2015, 12:34:57 PM »
I wish him luck, that was not a negative comment, I'm not even a homophone. I'm just naturally surprised by stuff like this. It must be tough, to want a pussy and a cock at the same time (even tho' I can't imagine how is that possible). That explains why he was telling about so many years with his wife, etc... something was not right, I fukkin knew it lol.. But it's all good.

Prime>If your wife passes out - find another bi/gay or whatever and have a blast. -

Misunderstanding, sorry. I wasn't accusing you of being a homophone. Not at all. But why bring up his wife passing out and stuff? Nobody wants to dwell on sudden lapses of consciousnesses; too painful, bro.

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« Reply #132 on: March 07, 2015, 01:07:21 PM »
When it is a major decision, she most often defers to me. As her life partner, she has every right to expect that I will take care of her. She would do the same for me if the situation were reversed. I have no intention of abandoning her. She knows this.

I hope people haven't misread what I posted in momentary frustration. I never meant to imply I wouldn't continue to care for my wife.

When it comes to the most important things in your life together, do you think she relies on you to be there trying to see everything goes right...or do you think she expects you to only involve yourself after the fact?

Because if you only involve yourself after the fact, it might be seen as something that's less than the greatest importance, right?

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« Reply #133 on: March 07, 2015, 02:37:46 PM »
btw prime...no one thinks that you're about to abandon caring for your wife...really dont think anyone would believe that about you

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Re: I love you guys....(no homo)!
« Reply #134 on: March 07, 2015, 03:20:24 PM »
it must be hard for her to feel like you want to get rid of the dead weight she now is for you. Maybe she thinks you want to fuck men and women while she s dying, and is wondering where the fuck she went wrong.

Noone cares. Sometimes you write good, sometimes it's pure bullshit. This is one of the later ones.

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« Reply #135 on: March 07, 2015, 03:23:29 PM »
If that were true, it would be awful for her. No one wants to get rid of her, least of all me. We have been together for over 50 years. We were barely adults when we met. I cannot fathom life without her.

Sex is not an issue for either of us. She's not been healthy enough for sex for many years. If I wanted to play around, she's given me her blessing. I am not interested in complicating our lives anymore then they already are.

You are a very decent man.

God's speed to find peace and strength during this ordeal.
I wish you the best

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« Reply #136 on: March 07, 2015, 03:23:38 PM »
If my wife passes out? Do you mean when she dies?

I have no idea what I will do should that happen. I tell folks I plan to travel more since it has been next to impossible these last several years. As for partnering up again. I'll probably pass on that. No one can fill the gap her not being here would leave.

Take everything you can if the chance will arrive. You have one shot, one opprtunity (Eminem), take life by it's fukkin balls, no regrets, no nothing, just do it and feel ALIVE while you still can.

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« Reply #137 on: March 07, 2015, 03:25:10 PM »
I'll pass The GAS
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 ;) That's the spirit!

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« Reply #138 on: March 07, 2015, 03:25:14 PM »
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What's with the saggy tits? At least find a body that looks fit to photoshop my head onto.

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« Reply #139 on: March 07, 2015, 03:26:29 PM »
Take everything you can if the chance will arrive. You have one shot, one opprtunity (Eminem), take life by it's fukkin balls, no regrets, no nothing, just do it and feel ALIVE while you still can.

Well said, Captain.

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« Reply #140 on: March 07, 2015, 03:33:18 PM »
When it comes to the most important things in your life together, do you think she relies on you to be there trying to see everything goes right...or do you think she expects you to only involve yourself after the fact?

Because if you only involve yourself after the fact, it might be seen as something that's less than the greatest importance, right?

I am not sure what you are getting at. We've made any important decisions together. 99% of the time we are in agreement. When I came to big financial decisions, such as buying houses or relocating we agreed, but she'd made it clear it was ultimately my decision. We are both pretty traditional people. She sees the man as the head of the house and the woman as someone who supports and maintains the home front. This doesn't mean I go off and make decisions without her input nor does she do that without mine. There was one exception that I can think of when she made a decision and informed me after the fact. That was when she decided to retire. She just came home one day from work and told me she'd filed paperwork for retirement. It took me by surprise, to say the least.

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« Reply #141 on: March 07, 2015, 03:35:49 PM »
Take everything you can if the chance will arrive. You have one shot, one opprtunity (Eminem), take life by it's fukkin balls, no regrets, no nothing, just do it and feel ALIVE while you still can.

Would those be the metal balls FitnessFrenzy has me holding in that photoshop?  ;D

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« Reply #142 on: March 07, 2015, 03:44:19 PM »
I am not sure what you are getting at. We've made any important decisions together. 99% of the time we are in agreement. When I came to big financial decisions, such as buying houses or relocating we agreed, but she'd made it clear it was ultimately my decision. We are both pretty traditional people. She sees the man as the head of the house and the woman as someone who supports and maintains the home front. This doesn't mean I go off and make decisions without her input nor does she do that without mine. There was one exception that I can think of when she made a decision and informed me after the fact. That was when she decided to retire. She just came home one day from work and told me she'd filed paperwork for retirement. It took me by surprise, to say the least.

the daily things that are done to follow doctor's orders..the things that are done for her well-being.

Nothing else is more important to you, is it?

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« Reply #143 on: March 07, 2015, 03:47:15 PM »
Would those be the metal balls Fitness Frenzy has me holding in that photoshop?  ;D

Grab balls of a real man, I know you'd like that  :D and don't feel ashamed at all. Life is what it is, no need to live by anyones rules except yours. Actually - these who can live by their own rules and these who can not - submit to others.. Nothing better that a person who goes through some serious shit and finally gets a courage to go full throttle/carpe diem, it tastes ten times better for such a person, more colors, more flavors.

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« Reply #144 on: March 07, 2015, 04:06:24 PM »
Is she mostly comfortable or in constant pain, Prime?

She has some pain, but it isn't from kidney failure. She has osteoarthritis and severe sciatica which cause her constant discomfort. Sometimes, she gets leg cramps which is related to kidney failure. I'll wake up in the middle of the night and she's sleeping sitting up in a chair in our bedroom. Sometimes it is because she stopped there to rest on the way back to bed and sometimes it's because of the cramping. 

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« Reply #145 on: March 07, 2015, 04:11:22 PM »
She has some pain, but it isn't from kidney failure. She has osteoarthritis and severe sciatica which cause her constant discomfort. Sometimes, she gets leg cramps which is related to kidney failure. I'll wake up in the middle of the night and she's sleeping sitting up in a chair in our bedroom. Sometimes it is because she stopped there to rest on the way back to bed and sometimes it's because of the cramping. 

Ok.

Seems the gym might be a great way for you to channel stress every day. You know how therapeutic it can be.

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« Reply #146 on: March 07, 2015, 04:11:57 PM »
Grab balls of a real man, I know you'd like that  :D and don't feel ashamed at all. Life is what it is, no need to live by anyones rules except yours. Actually - these who can live by their own rules and these who can not - submit to others.. Nothing better that a person who goes through some serious shit and finally gets a courage to go full throttle/carpe diem, it tastes ten times better for such a person, more colors, more flavors.


Somehow I've failed to make the point that what you suggest is not something that's on my mind at all. I get it though, you are probably young enough that you still think about sex a lot. I could care less about sex. I agree that it is best to live life to the fullest....doing this takes on many forms.

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« Reply #147 on: March 07, 2015, 04:13:36 PM »
Ok.

Seems the gym might be a great way for you to channel stress every day. You know how therapeutic it can be.

You got it. I just need to get off my fucking lazy ass and drag it to the gym for some stress relief. Starting Monday, I plan on doing this.

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« Reply #148 on: March 07, 2015, 04:16:19 PM »
Somehow I've failed to make the point that what you suggest is not something that's on my mind at all. I get it though, you are probably young enough that you still think about sex a lot. I could care less about sex. I agree that it is best to live life to the fullest....doing this takes on many forms.

Just kidding, but you got the point, that is enough. Good luck.

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« Reply #149 on: March 07, 2015, 04:22:28 PM »
Prime what has she said about this part

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The main issue is checking her blood sugar. She's supposed to do this before every meal and if it is over 200 give herself an insulin shot. The shots are something new for her. She was on an oral medication for blood sugar control but that was causing her to have low blood sugar which is very dangerous too. She doesn't like doing this. If no one reminds her to check her blood sugar, she'll often skip it and the insulin shot. If I remind her by asking if she's checked it, she sometimes snaps back that she's got it under control and to stop treating her like a child. This is what started the ruckus last night.