It was an exhausting time/search. It takes a whole lot of chatting to get things going then meeting up. If the first weekend nor the second weekend you can't meet up,move on. People like that always have some shit to attend and that stuff just messus up a sex life. Sex, the shit you got involved in this in the first place... Once it goes down, it after a few adjustements it's not fixed, I'd go somewhere else.
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I'm fairly good about holding out/not hooking up. I think it causes frustration with some women because they're so used to being pursued sexually, and then getting what they want when they are ready ( some of my friends question my tactics, as do I sometimes, but I tend to get emotionally involved way to easy for a man so I have to protect myself, no homo).
All that said it's not long after they ask why I'm resistant to sex and I say I'd like to know them first, which often leads to them spilling details of their past, which I'm sure can be taken with a grain of salt.
It's can be exhaustive.