So I've just started seeing this new chick, I haven't asked us to be exclusive yet, but a week ago she wrote me off because she was complaining about how the only time I hit her up is when I get bored of my side bitches and how I only call her every two weeks when I get bored. Normally i dont EVER commit to one chick unless she proves herself, but I figured ok this one might be different....she is just a chick that doesn't want to be played or cheated on. so I said ok Ill give this relationship thing a go.
Tuesday I told her I had a suprise for her this weekend, I told her yesterday I was gonna take her to a winery with me...she hates bars and clubs so I figured this was the only way I was gonna get her to drink.
She jokingly texts me why do you wanna get me drunk? With a winkey face...
Im like even if I was who cares, when Im trying to build something long term with you anyways I already said Im not gonna use you like that. She responds
"well....we haven't built anything yet. So even if your planning to... you still haven't haha"
I respond "well yeah but you wouldnt be talking to me if I wasnt trying to build something with you long term anyways"
She responds "not necessarily"
Im pissed off, because just a week ago she was saying shes not gonna settle for a hookup..and wants a relationship. There is no way Id take some potential side chick to a fucking winery with me...unless I wanted to build a relationship with her.
Its the first comment that pissed me off the most though, the " we still haven't built anything" one.....I feel like there are some things you just don't say to a guy..especially a guy like me. yes I get it we havent "built anything" were still getting to know eachother..... you haven't proven yourself either.... but you dont go telling the other person that.
Im not gonna lie, I want this relationship to work.....I like her...but alot of time into talking to her.... but Im pissed the fuck off. Im thinking about blowing her off this weekend and bringing this little 20 year old latina with me instead. Least she'll probably fucking appreciate it.
Okay, I have some questions.
~ Why are you asking here? There are what, 4 or 5 women registered here besides me. Haha
~ How old is this girl?
~ Has she told you she's been cheated on? I will say that when us women are cheated on, unfortunately it's hard for us to get over that. It also sounds like she's been someone's side piece or booty call before by her comments.
~ Take it easy, it's been a week. (Okay that's not a question but solid advice)
~ Regarding the asking of personal questions... She's taking you seriously and wants to make sure she's not wasting her time. Remember that our instincts tell us to seek a mate who is a provider. Not necessarily just financially speaking either. The first week of dating my now husband, I asked these questions. I did tell him that I was doing this because I don't want to waste anyone's time. I was at a point in my life and career where I wanted a partner not just a hookup.
~ Girls with money will make you worth harder because they feel entitled. So she's going to be demanding and pretentious because she's making sure you measure up to her daddy.
Be honest with her but don't be overly accommodating. If she wants to get all insecure and crazy, let her throw a fit. When she calms down talk to her. When you take the time to make her feel like she matters by talking to her, she will understand that you mean it.
Again, it's been a week. Remind her of this. It's been a week. Tell her that you guys have the rest of your lives to explore things together but this early on you're going one day at a time. Reassure her you're not talking to anyone else and that even if you're not "official" you are exclusive.
Ditch the Latina, she's not old enough to get into the winery anyway.
