Here is what the average male goes through now, I would not be surprised if others here have at least one friend that sounded like this:
"I know what you are saying, and I agree with everything you are saying, but this girls I am about to propose to is different, she was even against the whole marriage thing. In a million years I never thought I would be getting married, we never argue, we never fight, we love the same movies, and she totally gets my sense of humor. She is super hot, she got offered millions to model but she just wants to live a simple life, this billionaire wanted to marry her but she did not like the fact that he......"
Fast forward a bit
"Married life is great, seriously you need to find someone and settle down, my wife knows this girl... When can you come over for dinner, she is an amazing cook.... I can't imagine how depressing it must be being alone...."
Fast forward a bit
"Me and my wife are having some problems... her mother is creating drama..... I suspect she is speaking to her ex.... but all couples have problems, we are working things through and I feel we will come out stronger..."
Fast forward a bit
"Hey, you know my wife is really good at spotting trends, anyway she did some research and found a great area that the houses are still affordable. I might be making an offer in 5 minutes"
Fast forward a bit
"Originally the plan was to wait 5 years before having kids this way we can enjoy some alone time... But my wife made a valid point, she said that...... so yeah, she is now pregnant she is in her 3rd month and I cannot be happier....."
Fast forward a bit the baby is born, the house is purchased, shes no longer working or outspending everything she and her husband earns and now the baby is about 10 months old
Fast forward a bit and you get the almost expected call
"My and my wife are getting a divorce, no drama, we just decided its best for both of us to move on. For the sake of little tony we are keeping things very peaceful and you know what, I can't complain, I had a great few years and every time I look at little tony I just feel everything was worth it"
Fast forward a bit
Everything explodes, all you hear is nasty stories about how bad she treated him since the night of the wedding, you hear stories about order of protections, court orders, divorce lawyers, complex conspiracy theories about her family, and finally you discover the the friend you knew since childhood is now a different human, he is taking anti-depressants, he is no longer eating healthy, he is cooked.
YET a bit time goes by and this idiot announces he found a new girl that is really really unique and he is thinking of getting married again
Yes I know, everyone has a theory as to why a marriage didn't work out, and everyone has advice as to how to make it work. The fact is that even thou the divorce rate is at 55%, the amount of people living in marriage hell is almost 100% especially those between 21-45
There is no upside to marriage, the argument about having kids is BS, you are destroying a child when you bring them up in a home full of fights and divorce. The argument of not being alone when you are old, well she won't be there anyway for you.
