Did any of you have a very strict father when growing up?

[chaos]

Kind of feel like I should move this to the sex board.

[visualizeperfection]

Bigtime.

My dad was a violent, sadistic authoritarian without a vestige of social conscience. 

Did you stay in your room, painting homo things, most of the time?

[thebrink]

Did you stay in your room, painting homo things, most of the time?

No I logged onto getbig with people of similar upbringing. 

[visualizeperfection]

No I logged onto getbig with people of similar upbringing. 

[Tapeworm]

I love the old man but he can be a total 'sperg.  I notice it accelerating with age.  I'm far from being Mr Social IQ myself but sometimes that dude is just singing songs around his own little campfire.  Yet so delicate when it comes to others' praise or condemnation.  

Hell of a thing to view your folks through adult eyes.  On the other hand, people who were maltreated by their parents probably struggle to gain that perspective.  I'd do a few things differently but I was a pretty lucky, spoiled kid overall.

[thebrink]

Lol who is his guy how do you know about him and why do you have his picture accessible.

[Lustral]

My situation was not so good, adding the fact that I am submissive by nature, didn't help also. So in a nutshell while in high school I was not allowed to date any girls, because I was told that it may interfere with my non stop studying. I was allowed to go out maybe once a week max, my father also was never satisfied with anything I did and made regular demoralizing comments. All that was going on from the time I was probably 7 till 18, when I left the house to go to college.
Now at 32, I never had a real girlfriend, being only with prostitutes, extremely awkard and shy around women, no regular job, no social circle etc.
However I have to say that I take full responsibility for all the failures in my life, I am just writing this post to see if anyone out there had a similar experience growing up and how he overcome it.

I cannot empathise with you or see too many similarities.

My dad was hugelye judgmental and strict though. Study and results in school were first. Any fuck up and I was castigated. However, there was nothing beyond that - it was basically be good (academically) or you are a retard and unworthy. No abuse or name calling, just no affection.

Not nice when affection depends on results, but he helped me with education, paid for it and is ultimately an inspiration. I'm just fucked thinking what xmas present to get him as I have written the most heart wrenching thank you card you can imagine and now I have to get the gift to go with it.

Short conclusion: Affection should not be based on academic/sporting performance or your child will be unable to form lovong relationships and will grade life by metrics rather than affection and personability.

[visualizeperfection]

Lol who is his guy how do you know about him and why do you have his picture accessible.

Isn't that you, Will?

[Tapeworm]

I cannot empathise with you or see too many similarities.

My dad was hugelye judgmental and strict though. Study and results in school were first. Any fuck up and I was castigated. However, there was nothing beyond that - it was basically be good (academically) or you are a retard and unworthy. No abuse or name calling, just no affection.

Not nice when affection depends on results, but he helped me with education, paid for it and is ultimately an inspiration. I'm just fucked thinking what xmas present to get him as I have written the most heart wrenching thank you card you can imagine and now I have to get the gift to go with it.

Short conclusion: Affection should not be based on academic/sporting performance or your child will be unable to form lovong relationships and will grade life by metrics rather than affection and personability.

Was it tough growing up Asian in Ireland? 

[thebrink]

Isn't that you, Will?

Lol.. wring guy dude guess u should have been more knowledgeable in choosing my username. Now I'll be forever thought of as that genetic marvel everyone here idolizes.

[visualizeperfection]

Lol.. wring guy dude guess u should have been more knowledgeable in choosing my username. Now I'll be forever thought of as that genetic marvel everyone here idolizes.

I didn't have time to read all that, Will.

[AbrahamG]

Did you guys fuck a lot?

LOFL. 

[Kwon_2]

Lol who is his guy how do you know about him and why do you have his picture accessible.

It's Will Brink, he also has an account on Getbig called thebrink.

[visualizeperfection]

It's Will Brink, he also has an account on Getbig called thebrink.

Yes.


He is playing hard to get.

[thebrink]

You guys are fucken idiots lol

[mr.turbo]

I recommend squats as the "man maker"

this will increase confidence and assertiveness in social situations by 174%

[guyincognito]

Yes, my dad was very demanding. He was obsessed with dancing and his only wish was for me to become the prima ballerina of the Moscow ballet. I could never meet his impossible standards. When I wanted to do my homework he would throw the books in my face ("you'll never need that shit") and force me to practice pas de bourrets in the basement. It was very tough. He later drank himself to death when I dropped ballet to become a chartered accountant. So I know exactly how you feel.

[El Diablo Blanco]

Nothing any different than what Dad's normally do with their sons.  The usually gropping and masturbation til completion.  Playing hide the ping pong ball in my anus.  Seeing if both cocks fit in mom.  Just normal every day father son stuff.


Edit.  Just googled Father son stuff.  Turns out this wasn't normal.  Nevermind.  Carry on.

[guyincognito]

Nothing any different than what Dad's normally do with their sons.  The usually gropping and masturbation til completion.  Playing hide the ping pong ball in my anus.  Seeing if both cocks fit in mom.  Just normal every day father son stuff.


Edit.  Just googled Father son stuff.  Turns out this wasn't normal.  Nevermind.  Carry on.

 

[io856]

stop watching pornography

[Never1AShow]

How can you have studied all the time and have no job?  Most people are flat out morons so a little studying goes a long way.  I'm calling bullshit.

[HTexan]

My situation was not so good, adding the fact that I am submissive by nature, didn't help also. So in a nutshell while in high school I was not allowed to date any girls, because I was told that it may interfere with my non stop studying. I was allowed to go out maybe once a week max, my father also was never satisfied with anything I did and made regular demoralizing comments. All that was going on from the time I was probably 7 till 18, when I left the house to go to college.
Now at 32, I never had a real girlfriend, being only with prostitutes, extremely awkard and shy around women, no regular job, no social circle etc.
However I have to say that I take full responsibility for all the failures in my life, I am just writing this post to see if anyone out there had a similar experience growing up and how he overcome it.

That is you problem right there. Get a job, any job. Then start dating real women.

[blackpele]

Dude, we're all awkward to a certain degree. Some more than others. And it's ok to be the way you are and the way I am.

Having said the above, I too grew up around a dad who was a complete miserable prick. Now in this late 60s, and with the Gates of Heaven in plain sigh, he's come down a lot.

One thing I didn't do was question myself or my actions based on what he said. I worked and paid for college myself, and eventually moved my wife and kid into one of the most exclusive hamlets in the NYC area, where we now live. I did this. Not because of my dad, but because I wanted to. God knows I'd be working for the sanitation department had I listened to him.

To me, it sounds as though you still have him in the back of your head, which is the wrong thing to do. Take ownership of your mind, body and soul and move on.

Thanks Slapper. It means a lot to me that someone that doesn't know me spend time from his life to write down a sincere advice for me, much appreciated.

[blackpele]

Yes, my dad was very demanding. He was obsessed with dancing and his only wish was for me to become the prima ballerina of the Moscow ballet. I could never meet his impossible standards. When I wanted to do my homework he would throw the books in my face ("you'll never need that shit") and force me to practice pas de bourrets in the basement. It was very tough. He later drank himself to death when I dropped ballet to become a chartered accountant. So I know exactly how you feel.

Thanks for the kind words guyincognito.
By the way, I do remember books thrown at me too, but because I didn't study a lot, also I regret saying that but I knew a couple of kids in high school that their father had died prematurely, like yours and I remember feeling kind of envious that they didn't have a dad, which is pretty messed up now that I think about it.

[_bruce_]

Well, imaging that you're a "real" person.

1 Cut off the past - looking back will kill you
2 yoga, therapy, sports
3 take women as a whole(bee hive) and forget sex - women are a social issue and if the social issue is being resolved sex will materialize
4 in case of doubt seek out a high bridge
5 repeat