having kids....i still dont know the right move

[Thong Maniac]

anyone here have kids, but really didnt want them? if so, did you have them because your woman wanted to?

im seriously at zero hour here boys. gotta either tell me wife no i cant do it, and get a divorce and leave her screwed...or give in to her wants and have a kid (s).

having a kid in my situation is the easy way out. but, i dont want to take that route if i still dont think its right for me. im so confused. i have no interest in kids, but i can see how it would be fulfilling too. ahhh i hate this situation so much

[OB1]

If it doesn't feel right for you, don't do it.
Otherwise you might regret.
Also think of the kid and his/her position/base.

[Grape Ape]

anyone here have kids, but really didnt want them? if so, did you have them because your woman wanted to?

im seriously at zero hour here boys. gotta either tell me wife no i cant do it, and get a divorce and leave her screwed...or give in to her wants and have a kid (s).

having a kid in my situation is the easy way out. but, i dont want to take that route if i still dont think its right for me. im so confused. i have no interest in kids, but i can see how it would be fulfilling too. ahhh i hate this situation so much

What's your relationship with your wife like?

Do you enjoy being around her?

Do you want to fuck her a lot?

Answer this before you even consider kids.

[flinstones1]

anyone here have kids, but really didnt want them? if so, did you have them because your woman wanted to?

im seriously at zero hour here boys. gotta either tell me wife no i cant do it, and get a divorce and leave her screwed...or give in to her wants and have a kid (s).

having a kid in my situation is the easy way out. but, i dont want to take that route if i still dont think its right for me. im so confused. i have no interest in kids, but i can see how it would be fulfilling too. ahhh i hate this situation so much

How hot is your wife? How much money does she make? how is she with kids? If she's the best your gonna do have a kid with her. IF you think you can do better leave her. Pretty simple brah...

[Coffeed]

Depends on both of your ages I would say.

[doggler]

anyone here have kids, but really didnt want them? if so, did you have them because your woman wanted to?

im seriously at zero hour here boys. gotta either tell me wife no i cant do it, and get a divorce and leave her screwed...or give in to her wants and have a kid (s).

having a kid in my situation is the easy way out. but, i dont want to take that route if i still dont think its right for me. im so confused. i have no interest in kids, but i can see how it would be fulfilling too. ahhh i hate this situation so much

[Thong Maniac]

What's your relationship with your wife like?

Do you enjoy being around her?

Do you want to fuck her a lot?

Answer this before you even consider kids.

i enjoy being around her. we are very different though. i am bored when she is not around. i fuck her alot and like to as well. she is in amazing shape and has large tits

[Thong Maniac]

How hot is your wife? How much money does she make? how is she with kids? If she's the best your gonna do have a kid with her. IF you think you can do better leave her. Pretty simple brah...

face is a 7, body is 10. makes more than me by a mile. i dont even think about doing better. i just want to be happy, and not sure if kids will make me happy or not. maybe id be happy living in the woods in a tiny ass trailor with no kids or woman...i dunno man

[ritch]

The only good thing about kids is making them.

[Parker]

i enjoy being around her. we are very different though. i am bored when she is not around. i fuck her alot and like to as well. she is in amazing shape and has large tits

Well, since you listed certain aspects,  if you get her pregnant her "aspects" will become larger. So, that is a plus in having kids. Plus, you get the teach the young man (if it is a boy) all the things to avoid in today's world, and teach him how to be the man you are not. Revel in the fact that he will be better than you.
If it is a girl, teach her how to avoid men like you. Revel in the fact that she will find a man far better you ever could be.
So, say yes to the BMC way tonight.

[Thong Maniac]

Well, since you listed certain aspects,  if you get her pregnant her "aspects" will become larger. So, that is a plus in having kids. Plus, you get the teach the young man (if it is a boy) all the things to avoid in today's world, and teach him how to be the man you are not. Revel in the fact that he will be better than you.
If it is a girl, teach her how to avoid men like you. Revel in the fact that she will find a man far better you ever could be.
So, say yes to the BMC way tonight.

lol, thats the thing. having a boy might be cool. not so sure about girl.

[chokeslam]

You sound like you're trying to choose a place to eat for dinner. I wouldn't recommend having kids if you feel that way.

I have a kid and I'm divorced. It's tough, but it's not as tough as people make it out to be. Not trying to be racist, but it seems like a white-person thing to really stress over kids. Not many other cultures fall the fuck apart like people in North America. Was together for 2 years with our kid and then separated. But it's not as tough as people make it out to be. People act like it's a death sentence. Pack a baby bag everywhere you go, feed it, change it, nurture it. It's not hard. And if that seems hard, you shouldn't be having kids. It's just a little bit of extra work...

[Tha Grim Lifter]

I'm 36, I went to a party on the weekend because one of my mates is having a kid (year out of leaving his wife too), another had two kids, a few others had kids. No thanks. I had the chance in the past to be tied down and married a few times which would have ended up with kids and I would not be in the position today making the money I am and being able to still train if i'd done that. I wouldn't have the money and would be fucking stressed out big time, probably not training much, wasting time on bullshit things I don't want to do. But it's up to you everyone is different.

[YngiweRhoads]

this


Worst thing a man could do. Second only to getting married.

[Grape Ape]

i enjoy being around her. we are very different though. i am bored when she is not around. i fuck her alot and like to as well. she is in amazing shape and has large tits

I dunno, I still think you're a bit fucked up, in the context that you haven't really committed to this relationship long term.

I get the sense part of you thinks deeply about what it would be like to put a profile on tinder and stuff.  If that's still consuming you, might not be best to have kids right now.

In addition, based on your bodybuilding posts, we don't need any more people with shitty genetics clogging up our gyms.

But to your point about boy/girl.....you think you want a certain sex, but you will not care once you have them.  But you're a long way from that.

[OB1]

Worst thing a man could do. Second only to getting married.

I have to agree.

[SquidVicious]

In fifteen years your son is going to discover this forum and find his absentee father's post and kill himself. Consider that before making the sperm donation.

[scottt]

If she will divorce you over this you will get one after the kid is born. When will be the next ultimatum.

[DroppingPlates]

The only good thing about kids is making them.

Word

[SF1900]

Listen, this is not so complicated. There are a few options:

Option 1: Stay married and have kids. Life will be peachy. You and your wife will have lots of money, your kids will become Rhodes Scholars and get into the finest schools. Life will be splendid in every aspect.

Option 2: Tell your wife that you do not want kids, and she stays with you, but perhaps resents you. Marriage takes a slow turn for the worst.

Option 3: Tell your wife that you do not want kid, and you divorce. Go your separate ways.

Option 4: Stay married and have kids. Your life is miserable. Your kids take up all your time. You and your wife hate each other, but you stay married for the kids. You sleep in separate beds and never touch each other.

Option 5: You get married, have kids, life is miserable, but you get a divorce. You spend at least 22 years paying child support, and perhaps alimony. You live alone, and hate life.

So, pick your option, and go with it.

[balzac]

kids ? no thanks...

i love money, freedom and silence

[DroppingPlates]

kids ? no thanks...

i love money, freedom and silence

Spoken like a wise man

[OB1]

Listen, this is not so complicated. There are a few options:

Option 1: Stay married and have kids. Life will be peachy. You and your wife will have lots of money, your kids will become Rhodes Scholars and get into the finest schools. Life will be splendid in every aspect.

Option 2: Tell your wife that you do not want kids, and she stays with you, but perhaps resents you. Marriage takes a slow turn for the worst.

Option 3: Tell your wife that you do not want kid, and you divorce. Go your separate ways.

Option 4: Stay married and have kids. Your life is miserable. Your kids take up all your time. You and your wife hate each other, but you stay married for the kids. You sleep in separate beds and never touch each other.

Option 5: You get married, have kids, life is miserable, but you get a divorce. You spend at least 22 years paying child support, and perhaps alimony. You live alone, and hate life.

So, pick your option, and go with it.

1. is unlikely.
I'd go with 3.
Everything else is unacceptable.

[Thong Maniac]

I dunno, I still think you're a bit fucked up, in the context that you haven't really committed to this relationship long term.

I get the sense part of you thinks deeply about what it would be like to put a profile on tinder and stuff.  If that's still consuming you, might not be best to have kids right now.

In addition, based on your bodybuilding posts, we don't need any more people with shitty genetics clogging up our gyms.

But to your point about boy/girl.....you think you want a certain sex, but you will not care once you have them.  But you're a long way from that.

do you have kids?


i agree with some of what you said. not the tindr shit. i am so lucky that my wife is loyal and loves me a ton, but the kids thing is the only issue and im afraid im,gonna make the wrong call

where are the actual dads at? afraid to post?

[SF1900]

1. is unlikely.
I'd go with 3.
Everything else is unacceptable.

1 happens to a small amount of people.