Author Topic: Re: having kids.... (Read 20873 times)

da_vinci · « **Reply #450 on:** January 31, 2016, 04:12:20 AM »

Quote from: BIG ACH on January 30, 2016, 06:12:37 PM

As I sit here typing this. My two year old is having a major tantrum lol.... For no apparent reason. I tried to reason with her. Now just ignoring her and letting her cry it out.

This is the part where most people will say "I am never having kids" fun times

Females main asset is beauty. Do you think she will be grateful to inherit that gigantic nose of yours? Oh I forgot...its all about of whats FUN for these who have kids.

Azure · « **Reply #451 on:** January 31, 2016, 05:32:29 AM »

Definitely not happily ever after but I think both people have to understand this. Many women I know are looking for a way out and think a husband will make their fantasies Come true. I went in with zero delusions and expected it to be something you have to continuously work on. We made the decision to keep growing in our relationship and not just fall into same old boring routines or expect to make each other happy. Both people have a responsibility to work on themselves and the relationship

Most people are too selfish to do this. If you know you are selfish and self centered you shouldn't get married or have kids and it's okay. I have w lot of respect for those who can admit to that. I think the ultimate selfish move is to have kids and make it all about you. I know quite a few who do this. They want mini me's. They should not have had kids

da_vinci · « **Reply #452 on:** January 31, 2016, 06:29:59 AM »

Quote from: Azure on January 31, 2016, 05:32:29 AM

Definitely not happily ever after but I think both people have to understand this. Many women I know are looking for a way out and think a husband will make their fantasies Come true. I went in with zero delusions and expected it to be something you have to continuously work on. We made the decision to keep growing in our relationship and not just fall into same old boring routines or expect to make each other happy. Both people have a responsibility to work on themselves and the relationship

Most people are too selfish to do this. If you know you are selfish and self centered you shouldn't get married or have kids and it's okay. I have w lot of respect for those who can admit to that. I think the ultimate selfish move is to have kids and make it all about you. I know quite a few who do this. They want mini me's. They should not have had kids

Lets start with that most ppl doesnt have even decent genes to transfer to that new human being, thus many kids are destined to be as failed or deformed and suffering individuals as their parents, who pricreate to feel less bored in their lifetime.

lilhawk1 · « **Reply #453 on:** January 31, 2016, 06:34:49 AM »

Quote from: Azure on January 31, 2016, 05:32:29 AM

Definitely not happily ever after but I think both people have to understand this. Many women I know are looking for a way out and think a husband will make their fantasies Come true. I went in with zero delusions and expected it to be something you have to continuously work on. We made the decision to keep growing in our relationship and not just fall into same old boring routines or expect to make each other happy. Both people have a responsibility to work on themselves and the relationship

Most people are too selfish to do this. If you know you are selfish and self centered you shouldn't get married or have kids and it's okay. I have w lot of respect for those who can admit to that. I think the ultimate selfish move is to have kids and make it all about you. I know quite a few who do this. They want mini me's. They should not have had kids

This is a very good post. I was with my ex for 6 years, we always had problems, which most were minor, but a huge problem was her son, as she wanted to dictate my relationship with him and have everything on her terms. In short, we went to counseling, I was willing to work on myself, but she felt she had nothing to work on, and wanted to sit back and watch while I made all the changes. Thank God we never got married or had kids of our own. A lot of women are like this, as they tend to take a spectator role in the relationship and think the man should make all the changes and make them happy while they sit back and do nothing. They confuse real world relationships with the crap they watch on Lifetime movie network.

Fortress · « **Reply #454 on:** January 31, 2016, 08:18:08 AM »

Quote from: Azure on January 31, 2016, 05:32:29 AM

Definitely not happily ever after but I think both people have to understand this. Many women I know are looking for a way out and think a husband will make their fantasies Come true. I went in with zero delusions and expected it to be something you have to continuously work on. We made the decision to keep growing in our relationship and not just fall into same old boring routines or expect to make each other happy. Both people have a responsibility to work on themselves and the relationship

Most people are too selfish to do this. If you know you are selfish and self centered you shouldn't get married or have kids and it's okay. I have w lot of respect for those who can admit to that. I think the ultimate selfish move is to have kids and make it all about you. I know quite a few who do this. They want mini me's. They should not have had kids

Good luck with making that plan stick after you two have been together for a decade. Or three.

Fortress · « **Reply #455 on:** January 31, 2016, 08:24:10 AM »

Quote from: lilhawk1 on January 31, 2016, 06:34:49 AM

This is a very good post. I was with my ex for 6 years, we always had problems, which most were minor, but a huge problem was her son, as she wanted to dictate my relationship with him and have everything on her terms. In short, we went to counseling, I was willing to work on myself, but she felt she had nothing to work on, and wanted to sit back and watch while I made all the changes. Thank God we never got married or had kids of our own. A lot of women are like this, as they tend to take a spectator role in the relationship and think the man should make all the changes and make them happy while they sit back and do nothing. They confuse real world relationships with the crap they watch on Lifetime movie network.

Been there and done that.

Waste of time. (And so very lame it's cringe worthy.) If you and yours require some "professional" counselling to maintain your partnership, consider it over. If you stay together, you're either, a) delaying the inevitable, or b) gonna regret doing so. Eventually.

Purge_WTF · « **Reply #456 on:** January 31, 2016, 08:28:32 AM »

Feminism has pretty much destroyed the traditional family unit, especially here in the West. At least half of marriages end in divorce, and it's the woman who initiates it almost 80% of the time. She'll wind up taking at least half your assets and kids. As guys like Chris Mackney found out the hard way, it's a gamble.

I echo the sentiments of the guys who appreciate the financial freedom and the peace and quiet unmarried life brings. During the warmer months of the year, I visit the former sites of the Shakers, a group of Protestant Christians who shunned sex and procreation. (I do as well, so marriage would be pointless.) I've been visiting some of the more offbeat places in the area until then. Living in New England has its perks.

SF1900 · « **Reply #457 on:** January 31, 2016, 08:42:32 AM »

Quote from: Purge_WTF on January 31, 2016, 08:28:32 AM

Feminism has pretty much destroyed the traditional family unit, especially here in the West. At least half of marriages end in divorce, and it's the woman who initiates it almost 80% of the time. She'll wind up taking at least half your assets and kids. As guys like Chris Mackney found out the hard way, it's a gamble.

I echo the sentiments of the guys who appreciate the financial freedom and the peace and quiet unmarried life brings. During the warmer months of the year, I visit the former sites of the Shakers, a group of Protestant Christians who shunned sex and procreation. (I do as well, so marriage would be pointless.) I've been visiting some of the more offbeat places in the area until then. Living in New England has its perks.

How did you come up with such a precise statistic? Any evidence?

Purge_WTF · « **Reply #458 on:** January 31, 2016, 09:00:00 AM »

Quote from: SF1900 on January 31, 2016, 08:42:32 AM

How did you come up with such a precise statistic? Any evidence?

http://www.bustle.com/articles/106378-women-initiate-most-divorces-in-the-united-states-plus-5-other-interesting-facts-about-women-and

That article has it at 69%, and it's one of many from a quick Google search.

Azure · « **Reply #459 on:** January 31, 2016, 09:19:50 AM »

Quote from: Fortress on January 31, 2016, 08:18:08 AM

Good luck with making that plan stick after you two have been together for a decade. Or three.

It starts with the individual. If you're with someone who's not very ambitious or immature then it may be tougher. We know married couples who have been together 20 and 30 years and they still like each other. They're different from most people in that they didn't stop living life because they were married. They also don't do marriage the way everyone else does it. You've got to find what works for you.

A lot of people already have negative stories about marriage and that's how they approach it.