May I ask why Sal.
I`m certainly not judging,just very interested.
i think it started like this
in september of 2010 things were shit in my personal life ...llike really shit that particular month
the last thing on my mind was having sex or dating
while i was getting my shit together a "avalanche effect" started in the sense that the one month I decided not to care about getting laid or dating just kept snowballing and getting bigger and bigger
it's kinda like giving up something you like for lent. you miss it at first but then after a while you actually get used to it
I got used to not having sex with anything....
also, the whole "i got too old for casual sex" thing happened where my fucking brain had matured to the point where I couldn't have sex with someone unless I got to know them first.....
the irony is i like my solitary life and really don't want to get to know anyone so it's a bit of a catch 22
JN - is your libido at zero ?
I can't get hard for myself but mostly I'm so jaded and bored with myself that it doesn't get me excited
i do however get hard at times whenever I talk to a woman I'm somewhat attracted to so I know my plumbing is still good
PS---I'm pretty sure my mom has something to do with this...she didn't beat me or abuse me when I was a kid but I know a lot of jews and they will probably lead me to believe that this is my mother's fault
honestly though---no woman can replace my mom