Positivity and happiness, is it possible?

[Thong Maniac]

Is it possible to be like the dude in office space after hypnotism, in real life?

for example, i was driving and oh no stuck in traffic that caused me an extra 5 minutes in the car... and i was pissed, annoyed, irritated. then i thought, why the hell am i angry? why cant I enjoy every little thing. some people never get the chance, either from where they live, a disease they have, etc. my life is so cush compared to 99 percent of the human race, yet the smallest thing like a neighbor messing with me over property lines, or a long red light, or a not so great work meeting, or an urban youth taunting me, or my phone dying while using the maps, will cause me to be upset and unhappy. once i put that into perspective, it makes zero sense, yet its almost impossible to be totally positive and not let shit bother you. is that part of being human?

in addition, sometimes ill catch myself making fun of someone i know at dinner with my wife, or judging a friends dating life or how they feel about something behind their back. is it possible to be completely 100 percent judgement free, and rise above any and all gossip, shit talking, etc? i would like to think its possible, but i dont know. as i get older, i get more and more annoyed at shit that shouldnt annoy me. think about it, could you be 100'percent positive and remove all negative influences or negative actions from your life completely? it would be amazing if you could. i am going to really try for this. lately i do not like the person i have become.

[phreak]

Is it possible to be like the dude in office space after hypnotism, in real life?

for example, i was driving and oh no stuck in traffic that caused me an extra 5 minutes in the car...and i was pissed, annoyed, irritated. then i thought, why the hell am i angry? why cant I enjoy every little thing. some people never get the chance, either from where they live, a disease they have, etc. my
life is so cush compared to 99 percent of the human race, yet the smallest thing like a neighbor messing with me over property lines, or a long red light, or a not so great work meeting, or an urban youth taunting me, or my phone dying while using the maps, will cause me to be upset and unhappy. once i put that into perspective, it makes zero sense, yet its almost impossible to be totally positive and not let shit bother you. is that part of being human?

in addition, sometimes ill catch myself making fun of someone i know at dinner with my wife, or judging a friends dating life or how they feel about something behind their back. is it possible to be completely 100 percent judgement free, and rise above any and all gossip, shit talking, etc? i would like to think its possible, but i dont know. as i get older, i get more and more annoyed at shit that shouldnt annoy me. think about it, could you be 100'percent positive and remove all negative influences or negative actions from your life completely? it would be amazing if you could. i am going to really try for this. lately i do not like the person i have become.

If insignificant things annoy you, are you truly happy with what you have? Being easily irritated is likely a sign that not everything is great as you claim it is. Do you feel like your boss is not appreciating you? Is your wife suddenly taking care of her looks more and feeling unusually loose down there? Do you feel that the legitimate and heart-felt sexual urges you have towards them isn't reciprocated by your children?

[Thong Maniac]

If insignificant things annoy you, are you truly happy with what you have? Being easily irritated is likely a sign that not everything is great as you claim it is. Do you feel like your boss is not appreciating you? Is your wife suddenly taking care of her looks more and feeling unusually loose down there? Do you feel that the legitimate and heart-felt sexual urges you have towards them isn't reciprocated by your children?

confusing post, but yeah maybenyour first or second sentences are correct.

[phreak]

confusing post, but yeah maybenyour first or second sentences are correct.

Just giving some everyday examples of things that cause unrecognised unhappiness in people. But yeah, whatever the cause may be, it makes sense to analyse whether you truly are happy. Whether you are measuring success against your own yardstick or against someone else's. You may have the millions, the supermodel wife, the Lambos and the yacht. The GB minimum. But is that what YOU want out of life, or what other people feel like you should attain?

I saw the light 8-10 years ago, divested myself of most of my possessions, and live a very simple and cheap life. Not because society things that is the goal, but because I personally did not like the pressure of living up to what society expected of me, expectations of consumerism which were shallow and meaningless. So now I focus on my career because I enjoy it. I drive a cheap POS car because when it breaks down I can just leave it by the side of the road and forget about it. I live in a cheap little house that has more than enough room without ever having to worry about debt. Society may consider me a failure for not going into debt to maintain an air of coolness, but I am not spending the second half of my life trying to please society, society has done fuck all for me to deserve it.

[SF1900]

Is it possible to be like the dude in office space after hypnotism, in real life?

for example, i was driving and oh no stuck in traffic that caused me an extra 5 minutes in the car...and i was pissed, annoyed, irritated. then i thought, why the hell am i angry? why cant I enjoy every little thing. some people never get the chance, either from where they live, a disease they have, etc. my
life is so cush compared to 99 percent of the human race, yet the smallest thing like a neighbor messing with me over property lines, or a long red light, or a not so great work meeting, or an urban youth taunting me, or my phone dying while using the maps, will cause me to be upset and unhappy. once i put that into perspective, it makes zero sense, yet its almost impossible to be totally positive and not let shit bother you. is that part of being human?

in addition, sometimes ill catch myself making fun of someone i know at dinner with my wife, or judging a friends dating life or how they feel about something behind their back. is it possible to be completely 100 percent judgement free, and rise above any and all gossip, shit talking, etc? i would like to think its possible, but i dont know. as i get older, i get more and more annoyed at shit that shouldnt annoy me. think about it, could you be 100'percent positive and remove all negative influences or negative actions from your life completely? it would be amazing if you could. i am going to really try for this. lately i do not like the person i have become.

I don't take kindly to disrespect. not on the internet, not in person, not in a grocery store parking lot, not in like at walmart, not in a restaurant, not at the beach, not at the dry cleaners... anywhere.

ppl talk about the 'pussyfication' of America, yet they run their mouths thinking they won't get slapped and get their arm broken in front of their friends.

spent many yrs in a place where if you talk slick and say something out of line to somebody, you know that when you say it, you better be ready for what happens. most ppl here in the 'real world', aren't ready for what could happen.. and run their mouths like the world is a make believe cartoon. despite wearing nice slacks, polished shoes and a nice shirt, the guy you steal that parking spot from at the grocery store and proceed to flip off, may have just gotten out of prison and will have no problem identifying they bitch in you and proceed to teach you a lesson by taking you down to the ground and kicking out your teeth before you even know what happened.

the guy who's willing to go the furthest, wins. if you're not willing to go all the way, it's best you keep your mouth shut and move on, and make it to the next day.

[Fandangle]

Is your wife suddenly taking care of her looks more and feeling unusually loose down there?

boom.... im thinking that someone is thrusting their large dick up his wifes rectum on a regular basis.

[phreak]

Case in point: Should I be happy at this very moment? I've flown business class to Manila, have spent a few nights at a decent hotel, where I am now awaiting the car to take me back to the airport. A business trip (all expenses paid) with only a single 90-minute meeting to show for it. All meals paid paid for at great restaurants, drinks for free at a good bar, transport arranged by the client, and even 'other' expenses paid for as long as I don't overdo it and order 5 Russian whores for a full night. Am I ecstatic right now? Society would expect me to say yes. Living the life of the rich and famous, is what most would think.

But in reality I am bored, sitting here in a luxurious but emotionless lobby, drinking espresso and posting on GB to relieve the tedium. I could walk over to Green Belt for some shopping, but don't see the point. I would rather have stayed at home with my wife, with her cooking for me and sucking me off before sleeping.

[Slik]

I don't take kindly to disrespect. not on the internet, not in person, not in a grocery store parking lot, not in like at walmart, not in a restaurant, not at the beach, not at the dry cleaners... anywhere.

ppl talk about the 'pussyfication' of America, yet they run their mouths thinking they won't get slapped and get their arm broken in front of their friends.

spent many yrs in a place where if you talk slick and say something out of line to somebody, you know that when you say it, you better be ready for what happens. most ppl here in the 'real world', aren't ready for what could happen.. and run their mouths like the world is a make believe cartoon. despite wearing nice slacks, polished shoes and a nice shirt, the guy you steal that parking spot from at the grocery store and proceed to flip off, may have just gotten out of prison and will have no problem identifying they bitch in you and proceed to teach you a lesson by taking you down to the ground and kicking out your teeth before you even know what happened.

the guy who's willing to go the furthest, wins. if you're not willing to go all the way, it's best you keep your mouth shut and move on, and make it to the next day.

didmt I just read this exact same verbiage in another thread somewhere the other day?

[Thong Maniac]

Case in point: Should I be happy at this very moment? I've flown business class to Manila, have spent a few nights at a decent hotel, where I am now awaiting the car to take me back to the airport. A business trip (all expenses paid) with only a single 90-minute meeting to show for it. All meals paid paid for at great restaurants, drinks for free at a good bar, transport arranged by the client, and even 'other' expenses paid for as long as I don't overdo it and order 5 Russian whores for a full night. Am I ecstatic right now? Society would expect me to say yes. Living the life of the rich and famous, is what most would think.

But in reality I am bored, sitting here in a luxurious but emotionless lobby, drinking espresso and posting on GB to relieve the tedium. I could walk over to Green Belt for some shopping, but don't see the point. I would rather have stayed at home with my wife, with her cooking for me and sucking me off before sleeping.

i like how you roll man, we seem very similar in what interests us. i do have to ask, since i am married with our first on the way, how did your wife take the whole "down sizing" 8-10 yrs ago. if anything, our main contention in life is that i feel how you do, but she is very other end. likes the nice house, etc. that being said, she makes more money than me, so i cant really lay down the law in terms of how we spend our money

[Ron]

for example, i was driving and oh no stuck in traffic that caused me an extra 5 minutes in the car... and i was pissed, annoyed, irritated. then i thought, why the hell am i angry? why cant I enjoy every little thing. some people never get the chance, either from where they live, a disease they have, etc

I was like that, and still am sometimes, but I also was involved in a huge car accident in which a car swerved across four lanes and hit the guy next to me, who slammed into me, and I hit the center divider on the freeway. Sig Alert.  After that, and the shock of being ok (a SUV is worth it), I found that listening to good music, or listening to NPR and learning things helps.

I have tried to be positive over the years, and tried to find the things that make me happy. Taking pictures makes me happy and satisfied. You just need to find what you enjoy doing.

[SF1900]

didmt I just read this exact same verbiage in another thread somewhere the other day?

Yes, you may have.

[phreak]

i like how you roll man, we seem very similar in what interests us. i do have to ask, since i am married with our first on the way, how did your wife take the whole "down sizing" 8-10 yrs ago. if anything, our main contention in life is that i feel how you do, but she is very other end. likes the nice house, etc. that being said, she makes more money than me, so i cant really lay down the law in terms of how we spend our money

She took it like my dick in her ass: It took a while and she was crying all the time.

But seriously, she didn't understand at first and was against it. Still is, to a degree, but that's probably my extremist perspective. Everything I own, or rather everything I would want to have, can easily fit into my POS tiny car. She does need more than me, and can still be clingy when it comes to stuff.

We just started talking about the very basic question, the same I was struggling with at the time: Why did having stuff make her happy? Was it the fact that she owned it? Did she get a kick out of showing off to her friends? Was she hoarding for fear of lean times? Was she a shopaholic, getting a rush out of the purchases themselves?

Once we found the reason why she wanted to collect so much stuff, we could move on to discussing whether or not those reasons were valid. In her particular case, she came from an unhappy home (to put it mildly) and barely had had things of her own. And those could be taken from her at any time for any reason or without reason. So she subconsciously felt that the more she owned, the lower the risk she would lose everything. The solution was twofold: One part was actively realising I had never taken anything away from her. The other was giving her control, so I increased her allowance fairly drastically. So then she had control, thus reducing the need to cling to proxies for control.

[Erik C]

Positivity and happiness, is it possible?

Of course! Super intelligent people do it every day.

[calfzilla]

I don't take kindly to disrespect. not on the internet, not in person, not in a grocery store parking lot, not in like at walmart, not in a restaurant, not at the beach, not at the dry cleaners... anywhere.

ppl talk about the 'pussyfication' of America, yet they run their mouths thinking they won't get slapped and get their arm broken in front of their friends.

spent many yrs in a place where if you talk slick and say something out of line to somebody, you know that when you say it, you better be ready for what happens. most ppl here in the 'real world', aren't ready for what could happen.. and run their mouths like the world is a make believe cartoon. despite wearing nice slacks, polished shoes and a nice shirt, the guy you steal that parking spot from at the grocery store and proceed to flip off, may have just gotten out of prison and will have no problem identifying they bitch in you and proceed to teach you a lesson by taking you down to the ground and kicking out your teeth before you even know what happened.

the guy who's willing to go the furthest, wins. if you're not willing to go all the way, it's best you keep your mouth shut and move on, and make it to the next day.

Interesting take but I disagree. In my opinion Girls and sons who have not been loved by their fathers seek attention once teens and adults to compensate for what they didnt have originally. Fathers either left them alone, or were distant most of the time and not encouraging them. Some even despised them which would shape their personality and the way they d interact with others for the rest of their life.
They are extremistic in everything they do, always looking exageratly for attention, and have troubles adapting to society's rules, because they also have troubles defining their own identity and respecting authority and hierarchy.


Also boys who got picked on by others during childhood and adolescence -often sons without a father figure- try to compensate by lifting weights, to develop muscles and survive in ther male world. They re insecure because they re girly, childish, feminine having been raised by a single mom. They lift obsessively hoping it will transform them into men, to compensate for their lack of influence from a father figure that was not there. Unfortunaltey they can get as big as they can it doesnt cure their insecurity and who they truly are, how they grew up being raised by a single mom. They re no as manly as other men whatever they do, and they often have a big lack of masculine presence they dont know how to balance, hence often being borderline homosexuals while trying to get their manhood back thru various manly activities (mma, cars, weight lifting etc). They are often the ones that, in order to get respect from other males will go the steroids route to get even "bigger" attemptint to cure their insecurity , but being natural not being "enough", they still feel "too small", insecure, amongst other males. The lack of a father figure also often means they didnt have guidance to continue studies and are often working shitty manual jobs.

[Erik C]

Interesting take but I disagree. In my opinion Girls and sons who have not been loved by their fathers seek attention once teens and adults to compensate for what they didnt have originally.

You shouldn't blame your worthless father, nor anyone else, for your personal failures in life. It's all on you! Deal with it.

[el numero uno]

Is it possible to be like the dude in office space after hypnotism, in real life?

for example, i was driving and oh no stuck in traffic that caused me an extra 5 minutes in the car... and i was pissed, annoyed, irritated. then i thought, why the hell am i angry? why cant I enjoy every little thing. some people never get the chance, either from where they live, a disease they have, etc. my life is so cush compared to 99 percent of the human race, yet the smallest thing like a neighbor messing with me over property lines, or a long red light, or a not so great work meeting, or an urban youth taunting me, or my phone dying while using the maps, will cause me to be upset and unhappy. once i put that into perspective, it makes zero sense, yet its almost impossible to be totally positive and not let shit bother you. is that part of being human?

in addition, sometimes ill catch myself making fun of someone i know at dinner with my wife, or judging a friends dating life or how they feel about something behind their back. is it possible to be completely 100 percent judgement free, and rise above any and all gossip, shit talking, etc? i would like to think its possible, but i dont know. as i get older, i get more and more annoyed at shit that shouldnt annoy me. think about it, could you be 100'percent positive and remove all negative influences or negative actions from your life completely? it would be amazing if you could. i am going to really try for this. lately i do not like the person i have become.

First world problems. Don't worry, it's not uncommon.

Take a look around , I mean, figuratively. Wealthy countries are not the norm, they're almost the exception.  Quality of life in developing countries is definitely lower that the quality of life in the US. If you live in the US, chances are that you're in the 5% income in a global scale.

Personally, I try to be grateful for what I have and enjoy the ride. That doesn't mean I have lowered my standards, I always try to learn something new, become a better person,  I read a lot of people that I admire hoping I can learn something from them.

[Erik C]

 I read a lot of people that I admire hoping I can learn something from them.

I read a lot of people that I don't admire hoping I can learn something, that will help me to defend myself, from them.

[Go 4 It]

Dude you need to simplify your life and figure out the things that truly give you happiness in life, I learned this early in life, I come from a very wealthy family, my dad owns a very successful business that has been in my family since 1940, growing up and working with my dad in my teens molded my entire outlook on life, my dad is not a happy person, has millions, yet is stressed out to the maximum since I can remember. I knew I wanted no part of that life, in college I had to take a religion course as a prerec, I ended up taking a Buddhism course, this was another thing that completely changed my life, in Buddhism they preach being "non judgemental" amongst other things, I started apply this to my life, stopped competing with others, judging others, and just did shit that I enjoyed and you know what it worked. I stopped giving a fuck what anyone thought and just did shit I enjoyed, at first I was criticized, by family and friends, especially after college seeing that my tuition was just over $100,000 and I decided not to even enter the field of marketing (which I got my degree in) and just continue to bartend, which I got into my senior year of college. This job may be looked at as a joke, yet to me it was amazing, I get paid to have fun talk and meet people and bang chicks lol. I get to train everyday, sleep in, cook all my meals, nap and turns out I was making more money they all my friends I went to school with and only working 4 days a week tops. With the money I made from bartending I've been able to invest in property and in the stock market, and my other passion in life is traveling, especially to tropical destinations, so what did I do next get a job bartending on a cruiseship, that allows me to go to the beach everyday, meet passengers and crew from all over the world, eat for free, train, compete, and again bang unlimited girls. It may not be the most prestigious occupation to other people, but to me I'm enjoying life to the fullest.

[phreak]

Dude you need to simplify your life and figure out the things that truly give you happiness in life, I learned this early in life, I come from a very wealthy family, my dad owns a very successful business that has been in my family since 1940, growing up and working with my dad in my teens molded my entire outlook on life, my dad is not a happy person, has millions, yet is stressed out to the maximum since I can remember. I knew I wanted no part of that life, in college I had to take a religion course as a prerec, I ended up taking a Buddhism course, this was another thing that completely changed my life, in Buddhism they preach being "non judgemental" amongst other things, I started apply this to my life, stopped competing with others, judging others, and just did shit that I enjoyed and you know what it worked. I stopped giving a fuck what anyone thought and just did shit I enjoyed, at first I was criticized, by family and friends, especially after college seeing that my tuition was just over $100,000 and I decided not to even enter the field of marketing (which I got my degree in) and just continue to bartend, which I got into my senior year of college. This job may be looked at as a joke, yet to me it was amazing, I get paid to have fun talk and meet people and bang chicks lol. I get to train everyday, sleep in, cook all my meals, nap and turns out I was making more money they all my friends I went to school with and only working 4 days a week tops. With the money I made from bartending I've been able to invest in property and in the stock market, and my other passion in life is traveling, especially to tropical destinations, so what did I do next get a job bartending on a cruiseship, that allows me to go to the beach everyday, meet passengers and crew from all over the world, eat for free, train, compete, and again bang unlimited girls. It may not be the most prestigious occupation to other people, but to me I'm enjoying life to the fullest.

Sounds great. In before someone starts whining about children and working to give them a better life. Valid concern in Africa, not in the real world.

[phreak]

Also cannot stand those who will cry that you are not 'achieving something'. Achieving what? For whom? If making millions truly gives you satisfaction, then do it. Same for vegetating on the couch watching Oprah. Just pick that which you won't regret on your death bed.

[Go 4 It]

Also this, shout out to Tyler Durden
“Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don't need."
"It's only after you've lost everything that you're free to do anything."

[Tennisballz]

Dude you need to simplify your life and figure out the things that truly give you happiness in life, I learned this early in life, I come from a very wealthy family, my dad owns a very successful business that has been in my family since 1940, growing up and working with my dad in my teens molded my entire outlook on life, my dad is not a happy person, has millions, yet is stressed out to the maximum since I can remember. I knew I wanted no part of that life, in college I had to take a religion course as a prerec, I ended up taking a Buddhism course, this was another thing that completely changed my life, in Buddhism they preach being "non judgemental" amongst other things, I started apply this to my life, stopped competing with others, judging others, and just did shit that I enjoyed and you know what it worked. I stopped giving a fuck what anyone thought and just did shit I enjoyed, at first I was criticized, by family and friends, especially after college seeing that my tuition was just over $100,000 and I decided not to even enter the field of marketing (which I got my degree in) and just continue to bartend, which I got into my senior year of college. This job may be looked at as a joke, yet to me it was amazing, I get paid to have fun talk and meet people and bang chicks lol. I get to train everyday, sleep in, cook all my meals, nap and turns out I was making more money they all my friends I went to school with and only working 4 days a week tops. With the money I made from bartending I've been able to invest in property and in the stock market, and my other passion in life is traveling, especially to tropical destinations, so what did I do next get a job bartending on a cruiseship, that allows me to go to the beach everyday, meet passengers and crew from all over the world, eat for free, train, compete, and again bang unlimited girls. It may not be the most prestigious occupation to other people, but to me I'm enjoying life to the fullest.

So true man.  The "American dream" is such a scam.  If you don't find and do what you love in life you definitely are never really living.  Too many people get caught up trying to achieve someone else's dream.

[Simple Simon]

Also cannot stand those who will cry that you are not 'achieving something'. Achieving what? For whom? If making millions truly gives you satisfaction, then do it. Same for vegetating on the couch watching Oprah. Just pick that which you won't regret on your death bed.

I feel better about wasting my life on getbig now.

[phreak]

I feel better about wasting my life on getbig now.

I do not question it. It gives me some gratification to read GB, so I do it. Why would I choose to feel guilty over something I enjoy?

[The Abdominal Snoman]

Mini musclecenter in this TED talk absolutely hits the nail on the head.