Cheating

[Ronnie Rep]

family, now theres a nifty topic for conversation here on getbig... so glad that u brought it up  

ur simply too fucking dumb to comprehend the words that you say, and the ramifications that those words may have.... no forethought whatsoever, lol.

what to do with u.... give ya an ulcer... or leave u be?

renounce shizzo.... and I shall leave u alone

We're even now. You can dish it out, but you can't take it. For your info, I never brought family into any conversation. You and W O D did..

[Never1AShow]

LOL yeah because so few mature people have affairs     I mean, I guess you could retcon it and define maturity as the decision not to stray, but  outside of that, there are legions of people who are responsible and mature in pretty much every aspect of life who decide to cheat. And post-encounter (not to mention pre-encounter) isn't the same for everyone. Like I said in a previous post, when considering an affair, your rationalizations get distorted. Every sitch doesn't play out like a Lifetime movie.

This guys 36, married, hitting on every attractive chick he sees, and posts long serious thoughts to a bodybuilding message board.

A.  He has already cheated and his marriage is over
B.  He is crazy and will end up with kids that hate him
C.  His wife must have lost her looks long ago

[Man of Steel]

Don't be a typical, WEAK man that watches pornography, is consumed with lust, that repeatedly commits adultery or fornication, that engages prostitutes for sex, that disrespects women at every turn, that constantly says our desires as men can't be controlled, that lacks accountability for their actions and that reasons away the joys of marriage and family.  

Be a man with backbone and strength....integrity.  These other lowlife men that encourage the despicable things I first noted are the weakest, most pathetic middle age adolescents on the planet.  Following their example leads to absolute, meaningless nothingness.  Choose to act like a man not a stupid boy.

[Ronnie Rep]

Depends if you're in love with your wife or not. 

Love or not it's in our DNA to think about it. It's whether you act on it,without thinking about the ramafacations.

[bigmc]

Don't be a typical, WEAK man that watches pornography, is consumed with lust, that repeatedly commits adultery or fornication, that engages prostitutes for sex, that disrespects women at every turn, that constantly says our desires as men can't be controlled, that lacks accountability for their actions and that reasons away the joys of marriage and family.  

Be a man with backbone and strength....integrity.  These other lowlife men that encourage the despicable things I first noted are the weakest, most pathetic middle age adolescents on the planet.  Following their example leads to absolute, meaningless nothingness.  Choose to act like a man not a stupid boy.

very patronising and condescending

epic projection of your own sin on to others

[Mr Anabolic]

Don't be a typical, WEAK man that watches pornography, is consumed with lust, that repeatedly commits adultery or fornication, that engages prostitutes for sex, that disrespects women at every turn, that constantly says our desires as men can't be controlled, that lacks accountability for their actions and that reasons away the joys of marriage and family.  

Be a man with backbone and strength....integrity.  These other lowlife men that encourage the despicable things I first noted are the weakest, most pathetic middle age adolescents on the planet.  Following their example leads to absolute, meaningless nothingness.  Choose to act like a man not a stupid boy.

This is typical religious wing-nuttery.

Biology dictates/gives human males have these desires, it has nothing to do with sin or the devil.

[10pints]

Don't be a typical, WEAK man that watches pornography, is consumed with lust, that repeatedly commits adultery or fornication, that engages prostitutes for sex, that disrespects women at every turn, that constantly says our desires as men can't be controlled, that lacks accountability for their actions and that reasons away the joys of marriage and family.  

Be a man with backbone and strength....integrity.  These other lowlife men that encourage the despicable things I first noted are the weakest, most pathetic middle age adolescents on the planet.  Following their example leads to absolute, meaningless nothingness.  Choose to act like a man not a stupid boy.

And with the creation of the concept of original sin, Christianity judged everyone born - guilty of the crime of existence.

[Zillotch]

We're even now. You can dish it out, but you can't take it. For your info, I never brought family into any conversation. You and W O D did..

lol wut? u r the one whos sensitive about 'family', imbecile.

just for the record... what r your thoughts on shizzo?

[Never1AShow]

Reading the Schwarzenegger thread I see that the solution to this dilemma is clearly getting a Guatemalan maid.

[Al Doggity]

Depends if you're in love with your wife or not. 

Et tu, tapeworm?   

But, yeah, like the other poster said, I don't think it's an issue of love. I think there is a real difference between respecting your relationship and loving your partner. I'm not trying to pump up the virtue of the latter or denigrate the virtue of the former. I'm just saying that I conflated the two for a long time when I never considered succumbing to temptation. Fast forward circa now and I can recognize how those emotions don't fit in a neat,little box. People have conflicting emotions about love all the time. If I chose to sleep with someone else, it wouldn't be because I was in love with them. If I left my wife before cheating on her, imo, that wouldn't be a sign of love. I don't think she would feel loved afterwards. It would be a sign of courtesy and respect. The type you might show a co-worker. Once again, not trying to make cheating sound virtuous, just saying that the feelings that lead up to it are more complicated than simply no longer loving your partner.

[The Scott]

Not my problem you had to take a six month sabbatical because someone made fun of your stupid, try hard posting style. Guess how little the opinion of someone who would have a meltdown over that matters to me?


(Here's a clue: so little that I didn't even bother making fun of it until that little chihuahua put on his big boy pants and tried to mouth off to me because it was so pathetic. )

Wow.  What an arteest.  You're a pathetic cuckold.

[The Scott]

very patronising and condescending

epic projection of your own sin on to others

So does this mean you're a cuckold like the OP?  Fidelity in a relationship means nothing to you and the idea of sloppy seconds and more excites rather than disgusts you?

Say it ain't so because I doubt you're a fan of moral limbo like good ol' Charlie Brownose, aka Al Doggity.

[Al Doggity]

So does this mean you're a cuckold like the OP?  Fidelity in a relationship means nothing to you and the idea of sloppy seconds and more excites rather than disgusts you?

Say it ain't so because I doubt you're a fan of moral limbo like good ol' Charlie Brownose, aka Al Doggity.

When you're not folding like a cheap suit, you're pulling out those depression era insults. Pop a Xanax and keep yapping away, chihuahua. Hopefully, for your sake, someone's buying into it.

[The Scott]

When you're not folding like a cheap suit, you're pulling out those depression era insults. Pop a Xanax and keep yapping away, chihuahua. Hopefully, for your sake, someone's buying into it.

Do I need to call the

"In the ghet-toooooo...

[Al Doggity]

Do I need to call the

"In the ghet-toooooo...

To drop you at the loony bin?    Hopefully, you know your limits. Internetz is obviously *serious bizness* for you, so do  whatever you need to do.

[Ronnie Rep]

lol wut? u r the one whos sensitive about 'family', imbecile.

just for the record... what r your thoughts on shizzo?

You think you and WOT are gonna change my opinion.

[Man of Steel]

So I waited before responding so other God haters convicted by my post would demonstrate exactly what I stated in my post....and they did not disappoint:

very patronising and condescending

epic projection of your own sin on to others

Here's one example of "no accountability" I noted.

This is typical religious wing-nuttery.

Biology dictates/gives human males have these desires, it has nothing to do with sin or the devil.

Here's one example of "men can't  control their desires" I noted.

And with the creation of the concept of original sin, Christianity judged everyone born - guilty of the crime of existence.

Here's a red herring coupled with an example of "reasoning away" the adoption of good behavior I noted.

In short when Christians bring the light the God haters are instantly convicted and must run from it.  Thank you for the demonstration boys.

[Coach is Back!]

Despite the judgement calls of me and my past marriages, I've never cheated or even considered it. It's a line I haven't or ever will cross.

[Simple Simon]

Despite the judgement calls of me and my past marriages, I've never cheated or even considered it. It's a line I haven't or ever will cross.

i have seen your photos, its amazing you can find one woman let alone another one to cheat with.

 

[The Scott]

To drop you at the loony bin?    Hopefully, you know your limits. Internetz is obviously *serious bizness* for you, so do  whatever you need to do.

Go fuck your mother some more, you illegitimate wigglet.

[WeightPSHR]

Integrity. Some have it, most don't. I'm not going to scold anyone on their choices, each their own.

But I will tell you this. Marriage or not, making conscious  decisions that you know would hurt another person are cowardly and it's even worse when it's someone you care about.

Don't be average. Take pride in yourself and be proud of what you have by acting like your wife and loved ones can see you all the time. My saying "act as if someone is always watching" for the most part.

Integrity. Remember that word. It will take you far in life and can make you immensely happy and proud.

I tend to ban oddball and I do things 'my way'. I've been with the same woman, the mother of my children for more than 10 years. We don't ever want to be married. Makes things real easy and relatively speaking, it would be pretty easy for either of us to walk away. Keeps it real open and honest. I'm the bread winner, but I need her like she needs me and we share finances. Takes a huge amount of trust, but I could not be happier. I am proud of us and never speak to colleagues, friends or family of other hot woman becuase I want people to know I'm a happy man who has a partner I respect. It shows integrity which has taken me pretty far in my life and given me many opportunities.

[Al Doggity]

Go fuck your mother some more, you illegitimate wigglet.

I'll bet you were crying as you typed this.

[Tapeworm]

Et tu, tapeworm?   

But, yeah, like the other poster said, I don't think it's an issue of love. I think there is a real difference between respecting your relationship and loving your partner. I'm not trying to pump up the virtue of the latter or denigrate the virtue of the former. I'm just saying that I conflated the two for a long time when I never considered succumbing to temptation. Fast forward circa now and I can recognize how those emotions don't fit in a neat,little box. People have conflicting emotions about love all the time. If I chose to sleep with someone else, it wouldn't be because I was in love with them. If I left my wife before cheating on her, imo, that wouldn't be a sign of love. I don't think she would feel loved afterwards. It would be a sign of courtesy and respect. The type you might show a co-worker. Once again, not trying to make cheating sound virtuous, just saying that the feelings that lead up to it are more complicated than simply no longer loving your partner.

I'm not buying any of the other reasons mentioned in this thread why you shouldn't cheat.  They all admit that you want to but say you shouldn't for some reason involving consequences.  Fuck that.  I'm saying if things are right then you genuinely wouldn't want to.

I see 3 possibilities for you:

1. Love gets eroded by day to day crap and this has consequences in the bedroom.

2. You're not getting what you want from sexual interactions with her.  Maybe you have some weird shit going on.  Maybe she does.  Relax, we all do.

3. Love just doesn't last.  If it solves the problem of lust at all it doesn't do it forever.  

2/3 of these you could potentially solve.  Only you know if it's worth trying to.

Or maybe you just like flirting.  It's a fun ego boost.  

There's no evidence that love is an emotion I'm capable of so I'm kind of guessing.  Anyway, yes, you should respect your relationship.  But you should want to, right?  Not just respect it because you have to.  If a relationship is some grim forced march then what the hell are you doing?  Lots of people do that imo.

[Slapper]

I'm not buying any of the other reasons mentioned in this thread why you shouldn't cheat.  They all admit that you want to but say you shouldn't for some reason involving consequences.  Fuck that.  I'm saying if things are right then you genuinely wouldn't want to.

I see 3 possibilities for you:

1. Love gets eroded by day to day crap and this has consequences in the bedroom.

2. You're not getting what you want from sexual interactions with her.  Maybe you have some weird shit going on.  Maybe she does.  Relax, we all do.

3. Love just doesn't last.  If it solves the problem of lust at all it doesn't do it forever.  

2/3 of these you could potentially solve.  Only you know if it's worth trying to.

Or maybe you just like flirting.  It's a fun ego boost.  

There's no evidence that love is an emotion I'm capable of so I'm kind of guessing.  Anyway, yes, you should respect your relationship.  But you should want to, right?  Not just respect it because you have to.  If a relationship is some grim forced march then what the hell are you doing?  Lots of people do that imo.

Then get divorced and get your sillies out as much as you want! Don't do it while you're married.

I really did not know what a bunch of whiny-ass little pussies some of you are, complaining about your wives to perfect strangers, when the best and most practical option would be to settle discrepancies with her. Sex-wise, your wife ought to succumb to your wishes, and vice versa. It won't happen overnight, but if you have to beg or get on your knees to get a blow job or anal from her, YOU are the idiot, and bad in the sack I might add.

And getting a goomah won't do nothing but satisfy the short term urge. Dassit. You will still be shit in bed and won't be able to "train" your female, or male, to engage in the filthiest shit that you want to take part in THAT night.

It's a vicious circle that will tsunami its way through your family, your kids, everyone.

[Slapper]

So how about the mythical scenario in where you ste guaranteed to get away with it, your not going to het found out...

Balls deep?

That's perfectly fine. No one finds out but the two consenting adults: you get your dick sucked by another female, go home and then feel like shit because you have to kiss your kids with the same mouth that was 2 inches deep in a completely unknown's vagina 8 hours before.

What's not to like?