Young people are often wise to the ins and outs of eviction. A couple of years ago, my grandson was screwing up his life and frustrating his parents. Thinking tough love would set him right, my daughter ordered him out of the house during the heat of an argument. He immediately responded that he could not be 'evicted' without notice. When the police showed up, they confirmed that anyone receiving mail where they are staying had tenant's rights which requires a 30 day legal notice before they can be evicted.
This happened three years ago. My grandson still lives here. He's not as argumentative as he was when he was 18, which helps to keep the peace. Otherwise, he hasn't changed much. Aside from doing his own laundry and fixing most of his own meals, he contributes nothing around the house. He doesn't pay rent. His easy life is as much his parents fault as it is his. My hope is that he will eventually want to move out on his own. We'll see.
That's exactly right. Losers tend to be very well schooled in such things.
In any case, the parents are to blame (and by extension so are you). How this kid turned out is totally their responsibility. They had every opportunity to mold him, shape his values, and steer him in the right direction (education, career, saving, respect for authority, moral compass, etc). Now they have a bum living in their house. Gee, how did that happen? As he neared the completion of high school, he should have been guided toward life after graduation: college, community college, the military, etc. If he were in school, I would let him stay at home rent free while he completes his degree. One year post graduation, I would make him pay rent equivalent to what he would pay if he had 1-2 roommates in the local community. Without telling him, I would deposit all that money into a savings account for him. After one year of doing so, I would tell him, that the option to live at home expires in one more year and he should plan to move accordingly. At the end of year two (assuming he stayed that long), I would make him move out, but surprise him with the savings account filled with his rent money. If his "rent" was 600/month, his account would have $14,400 in it. That is a nice purse with which to enter the world with a degree under your belt. If my kid were working on a graduate or professional degree he could continue to live at home rent free until he graduated.
