Do you find it difficult to get the guys off you once you've ejaculated?
In vampire folklore, it is said that when one vampire is turning another, the paternal nosferatu is to allow for the newborn to suck just enough blood, but not too much as the elder could die in the process. Do you find yourself dying in the process?
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Yeah, kinda. But there exists - or used to exist - a certain etiquette in the MSM community wherein you always got your partner off, or tried to, even when your refractory period was in full effect following a draining of your vas deferens in the oral cavity of the other person. It was just one of those things you did because leaving immediately after you got off wasn't civil. It smacked of a straight guy showing his girlfriend the time of her life for 94 seconds then rolling over and going to bed, or just not finishing the job past that preliminary stage just as she was starting to get into it.
But today, gay/bi/str8 guys aren't what they used to be, often times. That camaraderie, that trust, that sense of community seems to have been dissipated under the heat of acceptability among the general population. Whereas 20 years ago two gay guys fighting wouldn't even dream of calling law enforcement into their house to resolve their domestic dispute - that was for straight couples, usually women calling, on episodes of COPS - now gay dudes are doing it, too. Or in the case of young men who now casually carouse without PrEP or any care in the world, possibly strung out or just not in their right mind, then catch something, fall into a depression then call the police on their unsuspecting partner and push for a prosecution, that too was unheard of until, say, the mid-2000s. Certainly accusing someone of "rape" was virtually unknown among MSM.
The reasons were that, in my opinion:
A) The police had historically been a source of state-sponsored repression, punishment just for being yourself, people who were paid to invade your life and out you to the world in the most callous way imaginable, and so there was a general aversion to going to them other than as a last resort (i.e. being beaten to death or something).
B) You didn't betray other men. That was for women to do on their straight boyfriends, not for guys between guys. It was a kind of locker room bond that made people feel safe in their alternative lifestyle, which after all was much less conditional on emotional bonds or financial blandishments (compared to heterosexuals) and more so on momentary attraction, primal lust, or (in your case) a legitimate interest in a serious relationship with someone of the same gender. Worst case scenario, your situation with someone didn't work out, you shrugged it off and moved on. That's the definition of taking something like a man, which is something the average girl will never need to comprehend because society has safety nets in place to catch them when they fall. Think about it: This MeToo crap has focused (almost exclusively) on women, usually White and middle-class or higher. Does that mean there aren't millions of men around the world who weren't abused at any part of their life, or physically coerced into things they didn't want to do? Of course not. We're far more likely to be victims of violence than not. But there's this feeling that you don't go after people for it, especially if it happened in adulthood. You either get even on your own or you just brush it off because life is hard that way.
Again, I won't tar every young guy under 40 with the same brush, but it's not the same attitudes today as two decades ago. The same could be said of bodybuilding and its fan base, the big glossy magazines in circulation doing well vs. now, and a lot of other things.
