Anyone here ever leave their wife and kids for another woman?

[Slapper]

Sad. Just gonna take it back to this loser's comments on how married sex life should be:

http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?topic=628930.msg8775352#msg8775352

Seems like an idiot and a troll, but maybe you should check out the thread. That moron has a ton of advice and experience that seems to be the complete opposite of what you're going through.

Meanwhile, OP, shit happens. People cheat, people get divorced. If you feel like your friend's a big enough scumbag, cut him out of your life. Otherwise, it was his marriage to leave.

Holly shit dude.

You're sick.

[Kwon3]

Holly shit dude.

You're sick.

Don't bother. He only logs on here to make personal attacks against the users here...he did it to me in about 6 threads and just doesn't quit, comes back with reply after reply until like 6 in the morning. He's absolutely insane.

[Agnostic007]

I used to think there was something wrong with me, like I was the boy who couldn't love.  Turns out I'm actually quite a romantic.

If I choose to choose the same woman every day when I wake up then that would be wonderful.  That's passion and love.  I envy those who have it but I judge it to be exceptionally rare.  Failing that, the least I can do is be honest with myself and others, and the honest truth is that different women appeal to me for different reasons, not even necessarily sexual reasons but that too.  I can't think of any reason that's good enough to live a lie.  I don't believe in some mythical pot of gold at the end of a rainbow of misery.  There's no such thing as one person being happy while the other one is miserable, so persistent drudgery isn't doing anyone any favors.  If I don't want to bring her flowers and fuck her brains out then what the hell am I doing?

Good points..

[IroNat]

Sometimes it just doesn't work out.

Where it gets messy is if there are kids involved.

[Al Doggity]

Holly shit dude.

You're sick.

Thanks, fuckface 

[IroNat]

Maybe the "open marriage" could be an option.

You keep the family unit together but agree to allow sex outside of marriage.

If the wife doesn't want sex anymore what reasons could she have for objecting?

She may want to stay together for financial security.

Or do the swinging lifestyle.  Maybe the wife would go for it.

[The Scott]

Maybe the "open marriage" could be an option.

You keep the family unit together but agree to allow sex outside of marriage.

If the wife doesn't want sex anymore what reasons could she have for objecting?

She may want to stay together for financial security.

Or do the swinging lifestyle.  Maybe the wife would go for it.

Just divorce.  Swinging/open marriage is for cucks and no real man wants sloppy seconds let alone filthy fiftieths.  Ugh.  And that's "ugh" as in disgusting not Native American affirmation. 

[Tapeworm]

Good points..

Doesn't mean you should listen to me.  I have no wife, no kids, sleep on building sites, and in all likelihood am destined to die alone in a foreign land.  If the romantic ideal of never ending passion doesn't exist then maybe the second best option of tepid comfort is as good as it gets.

[Agnostic007]

Doesn't mean you should listen to me.  I have no wife, no kids, sleep on building sites, and in all likelihood am destined to die alone in a foreign land.  If the romantic ideal of never ending passion doesn't exist then maybe the second best option of tepid comfort is as good as it gets.

I think it is how a person is hard wired. I have friends that should not marry. They have no desire for a long term relationship, they are perfectly happy doing the dating thing and living their life. Others, marriage is custom made for them. Stable home life, building a family, etc. I think I'm that kind that would like to be married like a shift worker, 6 months on, 3 months off... but it's not an option 

[hipolito mejia]

A good friend of mine just did that and I’m pissed at him.  I understand he wasn’t happy in his marriage but he had a big house, nice car and two great kids.  Apparently he met this piece of ass that made him feel excited again and he walked away from his family for her.   It’s the shiny toy mentality.  I’m sure he’ll grow tired of her in no time but he’ll never be able to recover the broken relationship with his kids.  I don’t think any new pussy is worth walking away from your kids.  I’m curious who’s done it here and if you ever regretted it or maybe it worked out and you wish you’d done it sooner.

No new pussy worths walking away from your kids..... Until you're the one that does it. ( walk away )

You start a new family , and your kids from first marriage will forever hate you for seeing you doing things with your new family/kids that you never did while you were with them ......

[Al Doggity]

No new pussy worths walking away from your kids..... Until you're the one that does it. ( walk away )

You start a new family , and your kids from first marriage will forever hate you for seeing you doing things with your new family/kids that you never did while you were with them ......

Kids get over things. Or they don't. If you don't leave your wife, they will find a million other reasons to hate you. Until they stop.  It really isn't that rare for broken families to work out new arrangements and live mostly cordially.  Even the idea that cheating/divorcing means giving up half of everything you'll ever have isn't accurate. Pretty much everywhere in the country is trending away from that.

Not trying to convince anyone to end their marriage or cheat (or better yet, kill their spouse) , but these fairy tales about post-marriage life inevitably spiraling into some daytime soap opera need to be reigned in. Even under moderately bad circumstances, people tend to just move on, for the most part.

[Humble Narcissist]

Just divorce.  Swinging/open marriage is for cucks and no real man wants sloppy seconds let alone filthy fiftieths.  Ugh.  And that's "ugh" as in disgusting not Native American affirmation. 

It's better for the kids staying together and just fucking others in an open marriage plus you keep the finances stable.  If he's not fucking his wife anyway he's not getting sloppy seconds anyway.  I've known couples who were swingers in their 20's, stayed together and then grew out of it later and are still together and monogamous today.

[Humble Narcissist]

Kids get over things. Or they don't. If you don't leave your wife, they will find a million other reasons to hate you. Until they stop.  It really isn't that rare for broken families to work out new arrangements and live mostly cordially.  Even the idea that cheating/divorcing means giving up half of everything you'll ever have isn't accurate. Pretty much everywhere in the country is trending away from that.

Not trying to convince anyone to end their marriage or cheat (or better yet, kill their spouse) , but these fairy tales about post-marriage life inevitably spiraling into some daytime soap opera need to be reigned in. Even under moderately bad circumstances, people tend to just move on, for the most part.

"Kids get over things."  Really??? 

[El Diablo Blanco]

Some of you guys make it sound bad that the wife turns into Mom mode once she has kids.  Raising those kids should be her priority.  I think human nature used to be that kids would adapt, the dad was always out hunting and taking care of the family but today unless the dad is also wearing an apron the kids grow up fucked up.  When did this happen?
People think without a dad, the daughter will do porn and the son will be a wife beater.

[Beefjake]

Kids get over things. Or they don't. If you don't leave your wife, they will find a million other reasons to hate you. Until they stop.  It really isn't that rare for broken families to work out new arrangements and live mostly cordially.  Even the idea that cheating/divorcing means giving up half of everything you'll ever have isn't accurate. Pretty much everywhere in the country is trending away from that.

Not trying to convince anyone to end their marriage or cheat (or better yet, kill their spouse) , but these fairy tales about post-marriage life inevitably spiraling into some daytime soap opera need to be reigned in. Even under moderately bad circumstances, people tend to just move on, for the most part.

Good post. You're propably right. In fact I know you are.
Funny thing is the smaller the kids the better they recover.
And yes, daddy leaving the family doesn't have to be what it used to be.

You just never know with the women... It might go smoothly, it might not.

[falco]

Regarding your friendship you your bud,, remember: Bros before hoes.

If he left her was because she either was a bitch, or made his life a living hell, like every good western woman does. Regarding the kids, she probably was already brainwashing them into hating their own father. Tough luck.

[ilalin]

This.

We get a long just fine. Weeks roll by, occasional family trips and vacations.
But no sex. Rare blowjob or consending sex. Which, at 40, ain't that great.

So, I stay, do my part of the chores, raise the kids etc.

But, if opportunity arises, I'll bang every chick that seems reasonable enough for the trouble it might cause.

Don't consider this as cheating but taking care of myself.

Best fucks for this are women in similar situation.
Both are in a place they don't wan't to leave and both are happy with just sex and bad jokes.

good man.....and this is the secret of a happy and long marriage, honestly, at least for myself

[Al Doggity]

Good post. You're propably right. In fact I know you are.
Funny thing is the smaller the kids the better they recover.
And yes, daddy leaving the family doesn't have to be what it used to be.

You just never know with the women... It might go smoothly, it might not.

The thing is, I'm not even saying "fuck everybody else in your family,  just get yours". I'm just saying be mature and acknowledge the realities of the situation. I reposted a quote from another poster earlier  in this thread. Even though it made me look like a "holly sick fuck", the point of the repost was  that he finally dropped the pretense of what an imaginary marriage can be like and was acknowledging how real marriages frequently are. Of course it's great to work through your problems, but shit happens. Half of all marriages fail. People cheat. Couples split and move on. Parents deal with shit, kids deal with shit, nobody's life is perfect. Some cases will be more contentious than others.

[Irongrip400]

Some of you guys make it sound bad that the wife turns into Mom mode once she has kids.  Raising those kids should be her priority.  I think human nature used to be that kids would adapt, the dad was always out hunting and taking care of the family but today unless the dad is also wearing an apron the kids grow up fucked up.  When did this happen?
People think without a dad, the daughter will do porn and the son will be a wife beater.

There is a difference between not having a father and having divorced parents.  I would say most strippers and whores grew up in a single parent household.

[booty]

Some of you guys make it sound bad that the wife turns into Mom mode once she has kids.  Raising those kids should be her priority.  I think human nature used to be that kids would adapt, the dad was always out hunting and taking care of the family but today unless the dad is also wearing an apron the kids grow up fucked up.  When did this happen?
People think without a dad, the daughter will do porn and the son will be a wife beater.

While you are breastfeeding the baby, it is your priority. I recall all my love and affection was focused on my baby. I was so focused on being a mother and all my energy went into this. I wasn’t getting my period while I was breast feeding so had no desire for my partner. Nature designed things this way for a reason. Of course this is only for a few months and then you find a balance to be a mum and lover to your partner. That is key.

[Kwon3]

While you are breastfeeding the baby, it is your priority. I recall all my love and affection was focused on my baby. I was so focused on being a mother and all my energy went into this. I wasn’t getting my period while I was breast feeding so had no desire for my partner. Nature designed things this way for a reason. Of course this is only for a few months and then you find a balance to be a mum and lover to your partner. That is key.

Do you even have nipples anymore? I figure with how hard me and Liar Priest sucked on them, they'd be pretty chewed up or even disconnected by now.

[GWYAD]

Here is my experience: I am a fit gym rat. Wife is not....very, very pretty and 15 years younger. Also 20 lbs overweight.

We had no sex life. I even made an excel spread sheet documenting her constant denial. However, before I left her I explained why and how we could save our marriage. We have an 11 year old son together.

First, I cleaned up my side of the street. I was fat myself, but now stay close to contest shape. I explained to my wife that she deserved someone she was attracted to and we should separate if she did not want to be with me physically. She decided she wanted to stay together and our sex life turned around.

It is not great, but I can live with it. She is a sweet, kind and giving woman, makes a shit ton of money and is generous. She does very little nagging and I do not allow us to argue. She is an excellent cook and mother.

She is still 20 lbs overweight and allergic to the gym, but also has a 10 face. I am old and ugly.

All in all I stay with her. Sure, I wish I had a fit bikini competitor for a wife, but you can't have everything. Taken as a whole, my wife simply has too many good qualities for me to leave her (which I would do BEFORE cheating).

You have to look at a marriage in its totality, weigh all the good points against the bad.

[Powerlift66]

Fail...

[IRON CROSS]

Doesn't mean you should listen to me.  I have no wife, no kids, sleep on building sites, and in all likelihood am destined to die alone in a foreign land.  If the romantic ideal of never ending passion doesn't exist then maybe the second best option of tepid comfort is as good as it gets.

So U are Soldier of Fortune 2  

[IRON CROSS]

Just divorce.  Swinging/open marriage is for cucks and no real man wants sloppy seconds let alone filthy fiftieths.  Ugh.  And that's "ugh" as in disgusting not Native American affirmation. 

How some guys live with a fatso wife