I make good money, am debt free, have good credit, in shape, high energy, etc.
My girl and I regularly watch porn together, fap, have sex, etc.
Shouldn't my life be in ruins?
I don't think fapping is detrimental. That's been going on since the beginnings of man. There's times when your body is just telling you, "yo, we need to relieve some back-up down here pronto" Nothing wrong with, that. In fact, it's healthy for your prostate and your mind. Even monkeys and guerrillas handle their biz when there is no mate to mount. It's the images of chicks that are unattainable to most men, are totally subservient, and incredibly skilled at bj's that leads to unrealistic expectations and it causes problems. Watching porn with your woman is healthy as it leads to real life interaction, not an obsessive focus on a screen image of a chick one will never meet or touch.
If you jerk it to nothing but 10's that salivate for cock, and are ecstatic about giving head to the point that they are literally drooling while they moan in pleasure, and then you get with a 6 who begrudgingly agrees to give you a half-ass blow job, while constantly gagging, asking if she's doing ok, and urging you to hurry up.....that's a big let down.
Also, as the video I posted stated, not only does excessive viewing lead to unrealistic expectations, but it changes dopamine levels and typically the viewer will progress in the extremeness of the porn they watch. In real life, with your woman you progress in your sexual relationship experimenting with different positions, watch porn together, and if you find a kinky one you'll get to pound her ass and lick each other's corn holes (post shower, you sick fucks) With porn, the viewer progresses through all of those things in one video......many times, just one scene. Then viewers start moving on to ball gags, domination, golden showers, dp, tp, gang bangs, bukakee, sleep sex,, rape/rough sex, ......it really just never ends. Type in your kinkiest, dirtiest, and most obscure desire, and there's probably at least a few hundred videos a person could watch. How many women in real life are willing to all that? Better question, might be how many women would you want to be with that have done or are willing to do all of that?
So there's the fact that a person is getting off excessively to women that they could never attain looks-wise, and then in the back of the guy's mind is the thought of the real woman in front of him having been fucked by 8 black guys stretching every hole she has while smacking the shit out of her, blowing loads all over her, and then pissing on her to clean off the gallons of cum on her face and in her hair. When you think about that, it totally makes sense that there's such a huge spike in E.D. problems at such early ages.
Also, like the video pointed out, they didn't include virgins in the study. Imagine how many dorky tubby young guys covered in acne that have been denied and mocked by not only women they desire, but their male friends over the fact that they've never been laid end up reacting when a real life woman finally unzips his drawers to get it on? Poor kid is now scared to death about what to do to the point that he can't get it up at 19 yrs old. Makes total sense.