Author Topic: Excluded from everything (Read 8651 times)

Board_SHERIF · « **on:** April 24, 2019, 05:07:07 PM »

Been seeing my girl for over 1.5 years now, not once have I been invited out with her and her friends. They are all women, but some of the girls bring their guys with them. I include her with all my friends, she has met 90% of them. We have talked about it and she says I would not enjoy the get-togethers or it was not her place to invite me. I have now in retaliation not invited her a few times and she was upset.

Wired situation as I have met her daughter numerous times. I think she is living a double life ?

SF1900 · « **Reply #1 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:09:25 PM »

This wreaks of beta behavior.

robcguns · « **Reply #2 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:10:07 PM »

Consider yourself lucky,hanging with your girl and friends drinking whatever sucks.My wife asks me to hang with her and her friends all the time and I would never.Bunch of broads yapping about shit I couldn’t care less about.No thank you they all know I can’t stand them anyways.

Board_SHERIF · « **Reply #3 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:11:54 PM »

Quote from: robcguns on April 24, 2019, 05:10:07 PM

Consider yourself lucky,hanging with your girl and friends drinking whatever sucks.My wife asks me to hang with her and her friends all the time and I would never.Bunch of broads yapping about shit I couldn’t care less about.No thank you they all know I can’t stand them anyways.

Yeah true, but at least you got asked...never seen this before.

Board_SHERIF · « **Reply #4 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:12:35 PM »

Quote from: SF1900 on April 24, 2019, 05:09:25 PM

This wreaks of beta behavior.

great help

Pray_4_War · « **Reply #5 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:23:53 PM »

Those are some sorry excuses. Obvious double life situation.

Whatever you do you should let her know that it's bothering you. Keep excluding her from your shit and start looking for a backup girl.

You gotta make sure that you are the man in the relationship. Don't let her be the man because she'll try to take that role and then resent you for it. Confidence pimp, confidence.

Zillotch · « **Reply #6 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:27:32 PM »

ur whore is on the prowl

oldtimer1 · « **Reply #7 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:32:43 PM »

Sounds like she is embarrassed to say to her girlfriends, "This is my boyfriend." Another scenario is that she is deceptive about what's going on when she is out with her girlfriends. They might go out on the prowl for guys. When she finds the right guy she will let you go. The last possibility is she has another guy and keeping all her options open.

Board_SHERIF · « **Reply #8 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:34:49 PM »

Quote from: Pray_4_War on April 24, 2019, 05:23:53 PM

Those are some sorry excuses. Obvious double life situation.

Whatever you do you should let her know that it's bothering you. Keep excluding her from your shit and start looking for a backup girl.

You gotta make sure that you are the man in the relationship. Don't let her be the man because she's try to take that roll and then resent you for it. Confidence pimp, confidence.

yes agree. shame cause this is the longest relationship other than when I was married. I really do not like excluding her but she make me feel like shit..but always has an excuse..

Board_SHERIF · « **Reply #9 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:38:45 PM »

Quote from: oldtimer1 on April 24, 2019, 05:32:43 PM

Sounds like she is embarrassed to say to her girlfriends, "This is my boyfriend." Another scenario is that she is deceptive about what's going on when she is out with her girlfriends. They might go out on the prowl for guys. When she finds the right guy she will let you go. The last possibility is she has another guy and keeping all her options open.

I know what groups of women get up to LOL, all kinds of guys coming up to them, these days NO Loyalty, nothing surprises me.

Pet shop boys · « **Reply #10 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:44:38 PM »

Quote from: Board_SHERIF on April 24, 2019, 05:07:07 PM

Been seeing my girl for over 1.5 years now, not once have I been invited out with her and her friends. They are all women, but some of the girls bring their guys with them. I include her with all my friends, she has met 90% of them. We have talked about it and she says I would not enjoy the get-togethers or it was not her place to invite me. I have now in retaliation not invited her a few times and she was upset.

Wired situation as I have met her daughter numerous times. I think she is living a double life ?

Are you both same race ?

WoSHHHHHH Be ye ke

Pray_4_War · « **Reply #11 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:45:49 PM »

Quote from: Pray_4_War on April 24, 2019, 05:23:53 PM

Those are some sorry excuses. Obvious double life situation.

Whatever you do you should not let her know that it's bothering you. Keep excluding her from your shit and start looking for a backup girl.

You gotta make sure that you are the man in the relationship. Don't let her be the man because she's try to take that roll and then resent you for it. Confidence pimp, confidence.

Edited to correct error. My bad.

Prudence · « **Reply #12 on:** April 24, 2019, 05:57:56 PM »

Clearly you're an embarrassment.

Sucks, but look at you. It's tue. Accept it.

Hendrixian · « **Reply #13 on:** April 24, 2019, 06:09:20 PM »

Fuck other bitches, it's simple.

IroNat · « **Reply #14 on:** April 24, 2019, 06:10:28 PM »

Oldtimer hit the nail on the head.

Hire a private detective to find out the truth.

Jim Rockford charges $200/day + expenses.

oldtimer1 · « **Reply #15 on:** April 24, 2019, 06:15:24 PM »

Here are a couple of relationship facts. You can't make a girl love or like you. If she doesn't then it's time to say next. Never give a woman you're dating the power to make you feel bad about yourself. Your worth isn't based on her perception. Know what your own worth is. If you give a girl you're dating that power she will be able to crush you. The cliche' time heals all wounds applies here. I don't know your relationship or situation. I do know a woman you want to have a relationship with and maybe leading to marriage shouldn't be a puzzle to figure out. If you are dating just to have fun then nothing I wrote matters.

Pet shop boys · « **Reply #16 on:** April 24, 2019, 06:22:37 PM »

Quote from: oldtimer1 on April 24, 2019, 06:15:24 PM

Here are a couple of relationship facts. You can't make a girl love or like you. If she doesn't then it's time to say next. Never give a woman you're dating the power to make you feel bad about yourself. Your worth isn't based on her perception. Know what your own worth is. If you give a girl you're dating that power she will be able to crush you. The cliche' time heals all wounds applies here. I don't know your relationship or situation. I do know a woman you want to have a relationship with and maybe leading to marriage shouldn't be a puzzle to figure out. If you are dating just to have fun then nothing I wrote matters.

Sometimes (rarely) is the other way around, she's embarrassed to show you her friends ... drunk slutty low class etc ... she could be seeing someone yes, but if that was the case she'd probably shown you her friends once or twice to fool you and avoid curiosity from you ..... Having bad relationship with parents can be a reason too .... but you'd probably knew by now I mean is over a year now .

WoooSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Dave D · « **Reply #17 on:** April 24, 2019, 06:32:17 PM »

Do you think she has a post somewhere asking if she should be dating hot dudes with dead end jobs?

Dave D · « **Reply #18 on:** April 24, 2019, 06:36:01 PM »

Seriously though, 18 months in you should be able to communicate your feelings with her, if you cant the relationship probably isnt as good as you think it is. :/

Tapeworm · « **Reply #19 on:** April 24, 2019, 06:43:47 PM »

Contact her friends and let them know you would like to meet them. Have sex with them, then point your fork at your gf across the dinner table and tell her it's all her fault.

Bevo · « **Reply #20 on:** April 24, 2019, 07:06:51 PM »

Quote from: SF1900 on April 24, 2019, 05:09:25 PM

This wreaks of beta behavior.

Go4it doesn’t seem to have these problems

Joe Valentino · « **Reply #21 on:** April 24, 2019, 07:10:36 PM »

Quote from: Prudence on April 24, 2019, 05:57:56 PM

Clearly you're an embarrassment.

Sucks, but look at you. It's tue. Accept it.

Damn! lol

Joe Valentino · « **Reply #22 on:** April 24, 2019, 07:13:10 PM »

Quote from: Pray_4_War on April 24, 2019, 05:23:53 PM

Those are some sorry excuses. Obvious double life situation.

Whatever you do you should let her know that it's bothering you. Keep excluding her from your shit and start looking for a backup girl.

You gotta make sure that you are the man in the relationship. Don't let her be the man because she's try to take that roll and then resent you for it. Confidence pimp, confidence.

That was good advice. Look for a side Girl or another girlfriend..

LurkerNoMore · « **Reply #23 on:** April 24, 2019, 07:40:50 PM »

She's ashamed of you. No being harsh, just honest. Or rather, she is ashamed of herself for being with you.

Does she nag you about little things? The way you dress, the way you comb your hair, etc... ??

Here is what you should do.... since she isn't inviting you out to what she does with her friends, (claiming it isn't her place to invite you is bullshit, you are a couple not some "plus 1"), YOU have a get together and instruct her to invite HER friends. Tell her since she claims it isn't her place to invite you, you are making it your place to extend the invitation to her friends this time and there shouldn't be a problem.

Her reaction and response will tell you everything you need to know about this girl.

I'd just go ahead and dump her. Unless you like playing the role of Invisible Man in the relationship. There when she wants you to be or when she needs something, but invisible the rest of the time.

Mayday · « **Reply #24 on:** April 24, 2019, 07:41:17 PM »

So it's a 1 1/2 year relationship.

She has met your friends. You include her. She gets upset if you don't include her.

You have not met her friends. She doesn't include you. You get upset but won't tell her.

Pretty clear that she wants it all to suit her and given she hasn't shown you off to her friends means she doesn't see the relationship as serious. If it was the other way around, as guys we would know you didn't take her seriously so honestly it's not hard to figure this one out.

This isn't a long term relationship in her eyes. After 1 1/2 years you won't convince her it is either. Recognise this now and save yourself heartache. She is a temporary girl, if you want a serious girl you need to look elsewhere.